OK, so my boyfriend is always so rude and mean to my animals. I tell him all the time that it bothers me and he tells me to shut up and wont respect the fact that I wish he would not act the way he does towards them. Today he did it and I told him I did not like it and he sat there and told me to shut up and then got mad and walked out. I don't know what to do about it anymore because he wont listen!!!! What should I do???????? But my animals are very important to me.

Warning! People who are disrespectful to animals will treat people the same way.Like most serial killers kill animals,then they kill people. (Im not saying that your boyfriend a serial killer)Keep your animals away from him,better yet dump him and find an real man who will treat you and your pets with respect.

Clearly, from your answer, he has no respect for you. What should you do? Simple: break off this relationship and find someone who is more loving and respectful. There are plenty of them out there; all you have to do is go looking. And having had a jerk for a boyfriend, you will be better able to see another one coming and stay clear of him. Someone who loves you doesn't treat you the way this idiot does; be grateful that you are onto him before you get more involved.

I would have told him, let the door hit you on your ass on your way out, BYE! Why do you value yourself so little? He is disrespecting you. It doesnt matter how long you have gone out, you need to dump him. What do you think is going to be like if you have children with him. as always you have Crystal Clears amazing advice. If you insist on staying with a jerk, then you should meet him at a different location, where your animals are not around, inconvenient, yes, but, I wouldnt let him near my animals, I love them too much.

Ask him, "Would you treat our kids like this?" Doesn't matter if he thinks they are 'just animals'. What matters is how you feel about them and he can't seem to understand that..Sooo, you know the right thing to do....and yeah its hard. But think of it like this...if you allow him to abuse your pets anymore, you are being AS selfish/disrespectful/inconsiderate/and abusive to your pets for allowing it to continue.

dump him sweetie. he's gonna tell you to shut up too? it's only gonna get worse when he gets more comfortable treating your animals and you like crap

3 years is a LONG time, and I know how hard it can be! But, sometimes, it just has to be done. It is a proven fact that people (at an ALARMING percentage), tend to treat others EXACTLY how they treat animals, (as Crystal has already said). He just knows the animals can't talk back. I feel it will escalate at some point, to you. I agree with the rest, break it off.

Crystal Clear knows what she is talking about. If you have ever heard about the past of the serial killer Iceman you'll know. He started out by torturing dogs and cats. He would tie cats tails together, throw them over a clothes line and watch them kill each other. And he would tie a dog to the back of a car (moving) and watch the car drive away. And he even put animals in an wood stove. He is one sick nut job. He got his nickname Iceman because he would store the bodies in a freezer to preserve them. I know this sounds disturbing but, it's the truth. Your boyfriend might not go as far as killing people. So,what is stopping him from hitting you next? If he can't respect your animals then what is stopping him from respecting you as a person. Either get him a shrink or get him something to pack his clothes in.

If what you're saying is absolutely correct, and I find myself believing you, then he is not ready for a relationship (in my opinion). You cannot change people. If you know what is good for you and your animals, get out that relationship NOW! It may be hard, but it will be worth it in the end. That is just NOT COOL at all how he is acting. His behaviour and attitude speak volumes about his character.

I could never be with someone who was cruel to animals. I don't even have pets. But how someone treats both children and animals is a strong indicator of character, and outright cruelty is a Deal-Breaker (i.e., offense bad enough to deserve an immediate breakup). It shows that this guy has a deep-rooted mean streak that could very well come out against YOU someday. I could also never be with someone who EVER told me to "shut up". As Dan Savage would say, DTMFA. (Dump The MF Already!)

From the question and some of your comments to other answerers, I'd say he is probably one who thinks that animals/pets should stay on the floor (which MANY people believe.) That part doesn't bother me that much. (And it's not cruelty to make animals get off the couch... That's the way he feels. As long as he doesn't hit them to make them move - and a push isn't a hit - then...) What DOES concern me is: 1) It's NOT HIS house. With that the case, he should respect YOUR feelings, and YOUR rules. If YOU allow the animals on the couch, it is NOT HIS place to change that. If he's concerned about it, he should talk to you about it. Nothing more. 2) He seems to continually be telling YOU to "Shut up!" when you voice your opinion and feelings on the matter. Sounds like he could care less what you think and feel about your animals. He could be the best guy in the world at all other times, but if he doesn't realize how much you care about them, and he obviously doesn't WANT to care, why would you stay with him. Three years or not. It seems you've reached a turning point, finally. You have a choice. 1) stay with him and accept the fact that if you marry him, he will be the same with any animals you get and maybe your children when they do wrong (not respecting how YOU want to deal with it); or 2) dump the bastard. You are NOT going to change him, apparently, or in those three years, he would have changed. If you go with #2, I suggest the following: Change all the locks on your doors and make sure your windows are locked next time he's not there. When he tries to get in, you can tell him he's no longer welcome in your house. Don't let him in for anything. If he has stuff there, leave it where he can get it without coming in. And stay away from him. Hard as it will be, it will be MUCH easier than dealing with his absolute disrespect for your opinion and your animals.

I agree with Crystal Clear. The signals are clear that something is very wrong with that guy. What happens when he tires of hurting the pets and decides he's going to trade up--and you're first on the list? He doesn't respect you because he's treating your animals like crap --and in your own home. People that do things like that are psychotic and although your first impulse may be to try to help him, it's best that you just stay away from him. He's not going to change unless "he" sees and understands he's wrong for doing what he's doing. He's probably beyond your help and sounds like he needs professional help. In anycase, I wouldn't waste anymore of my time because you may be risking you and your pets health by allowing his behavior to continue. His behavior is dangerous and you need to be thinking of yourself and your pets. You deserve better--say goodbye.

I personally think you should leave him. I know this may be easier said than done, but you deserve someone that treats you and your pets with love and respect. I do not mean to be disrespectful when I say this, but he sounds like an a$$ that should be left out in the cold.