i belive that you should because she is going to hate you even more if you dont tell her .. she is going to feel as if she shouldnt trust you anymore ...communication is always helpul ;)

Sure, but don't make it a heavy conversation... laugh it off as a "Hey hunny, this hot chick invited me to her room" "Told her I had someone much better already"

No, it will only lead to a long road of mistrust. What's done (or not done in your case)in Vegas stays in Vegas!!!

the relationship should always be based on trust and truth. maybe she'll overlook the fact that you kissed a girl and instead be thankful/glad that you told her. tough call

Nope. You want to tell her because you hope that she'll be understanding and forgive you. It's gonna be tough. You didn't go to her room, that's what's most important. You don't have to tell your gf that. It only creates doubt and she'll start losing faith.

Yes. if you do not, someone, somewhere will tell her for you. there is always someone that sees all, tell all. if you love this girl, be honest and lay the cards on the table. if you did not have sex, you should be able to salvage your girlfriend. Five years is a long time to be committed to one person. if you value this girl, tell the truth and face the consequences. what if this role had been reversed and your girlfriend did the kissing in vegas. how would you feel?

You have to tell her. If she finds out through someone else her mind is going to make what happend seem worst than what it really was. Yes, she might get angry but she will also appreciate the fact that you are communicating with her and are being honest. That means alot to a girl. I know because it happened to me.

Yes. You don't want it weighing on your concious. Plus honesty is always the best policy even if it ruins your relationship. It's better that way.

I see no reason at all that you should not tell her. You have behaved perfectly decently and have no reason to be ashamed or to hide your behaviour.

Tell her. The important thing is you turned the girl down. Everyone's human. You're going to flirt and be hit on. You're going to find other women attractive and your girlfriend will eye other men. If you both love and trust each other, things like this won't matter in the long run. Just make sure you keep turning down the other women.

Think about it if it was her? Would you want to know if she did it to you? I think you would. Live by CTR Communication Trust Respect

hell no. what happens here in vegas stays here for a reason

Dont tell her about this. No one in this world appreciates honesty. Things like this should be buried in your heart without letting it out. Majority of the men have the biggest weakness for other women and your girl friend may not be willing to accept the fact that you really did turn down this lucrative offer. Just hide it and go ahead in your life buddy.

I would definately tell her. you turned down another woman she will be thrilled. this will reassure her that you are loyal, this will make her trust you more mate i would definately tell her

Rather not tell her. Though its great for you to have turned her down, your g/f is then going to ask why you have kissed the other girl and why you have danced with her. You wont walk out the winner. But a big plus from me for turning the other girl down!!

absolutly. admit to your weakness (that you kissed her) and ask her forgiveness. tell her that you did reject her invitation up to her room, but that does not excuse your kissing her. let her know this is the worst thing you have ever done and you learned from it and will not do it again. and in the future don't let yourself get intoxicated and vulnerable to such situations. what would happen of word got back about the kiss without you telling her? word of you rejecting her further advances will not spread.

What would be your motive for telling her? It sounds like something a 5-y/o kid would do: "Mom, *I saw the cookies on the table but I didn't eat any! Am I a good boy?" Mother: "Yes, Tinmmy, you are a very good boy! Why don't you take a cookie as a reward?" If your gf is over 12 y/o with an IQ in the double digits, she's going to wonder, "Why in hell is he confessing something that he 'ALMOST' did? What is he trying to tell me?" My advice is to grow up and keep it to yourself. This sort of thing will happen for the rest of your life. You don't need to confess it or boast about it. How would you feel if she 'confessed' something similar that she did? Ten-to-one, she'd be too smart to mention it.

no dont tell her i can understand the dancing part but as a woman myself i would be devistated that my boyfriend of five years kissed another woman...this will be thrown in ur face CONSTANTLY my friend...dont. take it to the grave...

Only if you want her to dump you.

Firstly congratulations, you have done at 24 what I could never have done then, im proud of you! secondly, what happens in vegas should stay there, you didnt bring back an STD, your not yet married, what she doesnt know wont hurt her; just tell her you played with the slot machines and got free drinks.

It's suprising.. How people are telling you to be dishonest... Yesterday I answered a question 'whats the secret to a good relationship' and answered 'keeping SOME secrets' and recieved -20 for my trouble! But yeah, Don't tell her.

As long as nobody else you or she knew was there then i wouldn't say anything as she will not believe that you turned down sleeping with a girl so it'll cause a whole load of problems and she will likely finish with you. You danced with a girl big deal, and you knew to stop it with the other girl at a kiss. No real harm done.

Sounds to me like you DON'T love your current girlfriend very much! Best to tell her so she can find a kind who is NOT so easily "free" with his affection; yes. . . .I consider "kissing" being affectionate!

My initial thought here is to wonder whether a guy who responds to this question will say to keep it a secret, whereas a girl will tell you to say something. Since it is the feelings of your girlfriend here that are most important, this alone should say something to you. Before you do anything like that, I think it is far more important to think about what happened, and what are your goals in this relationship. The facts are: 1. You danced with another girl while you were on your own. This is absolutely nothing of importance, since it should be perfectly acceptable for you to have social interactions with another person. Of course, if the dance was a lap dance, that is another issue completely. 2. You kissed her, and she asked you back to her room. This is a problem, in the sense that you were clearly sending out vibes that you were available. Kissing her was a big vibe here. The reason it is a problem, is because you should not be doing this if you are in a committed relationship with your girlfriend. She needs to be able to trust you. So the important thing you need to think about is how you act in the presence of others when you are away from her. Are you in a trusting, committed relationship with her? If you are, then learn something from all of this. In the future, act in a way that will be worth her trust in you. If you cannot be mature and do so, then I fear this relationship is in dangerous waters. So have an open, intelligent, thoughtful, mature conversation with your girlfriend, but accept the possibility that your behavior means she may be less trusting of you in the future, at least for a while. Learn something along the way. Learn to maintain her faith in you, to act in ways that justify her confidence.