There are more ways to hide your tracks then just using the delete on history. There is no way I know of to delete the "delete" button. If you want to track him you could get some tracking software which will log all computer activity but hide the process so no one can see it.

Don't all men look at porn? I personally don't see it as a big deal if a man watches porn, I sometimes do myself... It's you he his married to.

You need to treat your husband like an adult and as a partner, that would be a good start. He could also be stopping at the strip club on his lunch breaks. Do you follow him around all day too?

Here's what you do: Go to My Computer> (your main hard drive, usually called C:)> Documents and Settings> (whatever his username on the computer is)> Cookies. You will get a readout of temporary files from different websites he's visited. You can also try: My Computer> (your hard drive)> Documents and Settings> (his user)> Local Settings> Temp. Check out the files that come up. If he is looking at porn, some porn pics may come up. To view these files, though, you have to make sure you can see any hidden folders your computer has.

http://undelete-plus.com/ Undelete plus is a free software tool that will let you recover previously deleted files (including files emptied from the recycle bin). This won't help you recover deleted browsing history, however it will recover any other deleted files (temporary internet files, cookies, etc). If your husband is smart enough to delete his browsing history, chances are he is deleting the temporary files and cookies as well.

well you can look at the temp files if you go through my computer control panel internet options browse history view files it will all be in there if he hasn't deleted those to. Ask him about it. he might feel really shameful of it.

Click on My Computer. click on Internet Options. go to top of page at your home page setting. erase that website location and punch click. Most of all the websites visited will appear.

According to Dan Savage, the leading sex advice columnist, "All men look at porn". Further, he believes it is beneficial for men to be discrete about it and for women to look the other way.

I have to say I agree that porn is not the issue, it seems your self esteem is what needs to be helped. I personally like porn on occasion, you can use it to spice up your love life.

Checking out what your husband has been up to behind his back seems a little extreme, and also leads to a downward spiral or paranoia and distrust which is not healthy for a any relationship let alone a marriage. Have you considered confronting him about it and actually having a proper discussion with him about your fears? Its not good if you feel like that can't talk to your partner, maybe its not the prospect of him checking out pornography that you should be worried about... Last and foremost, you really need to work out yourself what your problem actually is if he IS looking at porn. Why does this bother you? Why does it offend you? Remember that just because you are a couple and you have committed to each-other, doesn't mean that you are the same people. Everybody's different, we know that, but there's a very big debate on whether pornography is right or wrong and you and your partner seem to possibly follow either sides of it. Talk to him, its the best and fairest step forward.

It is a fact that looking at porn is UNHEALTHY. It can cause serious mental issues and serious marriage issues. Do not for one second believe the people that say it is okay. If you know or suspect your husband is looking at porn, you need to confront him. Don't become angry. It is a issue for a lot of men. It is a hard addiction to overcome. If he has a problem, try to help him through it and let him know that you love him no matter what. If it hurts you than it becomes a not only his problem but your problem as well and that isn't fair. It won't be easy but it is possible to work out! I promise! Good luck!

If this is such a big issue for you, instead of checking up on him, how about you check out some therapy for self esteem issues. Look, when he gets horny, and you aren't available, would you rather him spend some time with a screen, or spend some time having sex with another woman. Get over you paranoia, and let a man do what all men do when actual intercourse isn't an option. If it is really that big of an issue for you, have him take some dirty pictures of you and use them. That way he can get his jollies, but technically, the only woman arousing him is you!

First you need to establish the fact that lusting is wrong. I know it can cause you to feel ridiculous when people say there's nothing wrong with porn. Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

You need to talk to your husband about this instead of trying to tract where he has been. For those of you who are telling this poor women that the problem is her self esteem, you are morons! Pornography is addictive and destroying to a marriage. Not all men do it, and to give that as an excuse is a pure copout. How about we hold men and women to a little higher standard, especially married individuals.

Is it possible that there's nothing to find because he's not been doing anything untoward?

And what is the problem with him looking? Unless he's contacting people online and having text- or phone-sex with them, then does it really matter? (Or is it so against your religion or morales?) It's VERY hard to cheat using porn. In the old days, if a man wanted to look at stuff like that, if he couldn't buy magazines, he MIGHT go to a house of ill repute and ACT out his fantasies instead of looking. Besides, I know men who do NOT want to take Viagra or Cialas, and online porn HELPS them, if you know what I mean. If you have no problem with him looking, why the cloak and daggar? Why do you NEED to know if he is or not?

I think your husband is unhappy in some way. You need to find out what is making him unhappy and turn it around. I do consider pornography to be cheating. I never did until I found mine to be looking at it.

I think you should be glad that he's looking at porn on the internet and not out on the streets....relax...let him look...he's not cheating on you.

oh just let him look. Stop being so jealous

I cannot believe some of these answers!!! I think if a man is looking at porn, THERE IS A PROBLEM!! I think it is cheating. If your husband or man is not satisfied with looking at you and is going to look at women somewhere else, you need to have a chat! You women who think it is no big deal, have a problem. Your husbands and boyfriends are probably cheating on you!! Statistics show that men who look at porn cheat on their wives of become molesters. You cannot look and lust after something like that without eventually getting the urge to do something about it. SO STOP SAYING IT ISN'T A PROBLEM!!! Seek counseling, or dump him.

Why don't you just ask him? He'll either tell the truth or lie and most of us know the "tells" when our husbands are lying. (For instance, my husband always touches his face before he lies and his face turns red after he lies.)

you should talk to him, mine used to watch it too. i used to check his history all the time too, and i knew he was deleting it. to me porn is the same thing as cheaing. I dont need to change anything i look great, i told him. And i said that next time he does it im leaving. and i was dead serious and still am.

My ex gave me the boot over suspicion of looking at internet porn. Turns out she was mistrusting, evil and watching my every move. Turns out she had secrets of her own. In that situation, getting booted was by far the best thing that ever happened to me.

Been there, done that, could write the book. I'll be honest, there are programs that you could get without even thinking twice about the delete history option. There are also searches that can be run on the computer that will list what sites, what pictures, and what times that he looked at those things. The issue, however, is not him watching porn. The issue for you is (unless I'm mistaken) him lying about the porn, and for him it would be your need to know about it. Just leave it be. Unless he's on MySpace picking up highschoolers who star in said skin flicks, take it from me. Pick your battles. If he feels like he has to hide something as trivial as porn from you, his wife, he's gonna start hiding bigger stuff. And seek out someone who he's comfortable being himself around. And all you'll feel is miserable, because (realistically) what was the porn really hurting?

He's a GUY. OF COURSE he's looking at porn on the internet. The real question is, why are you being so sneaky?

If you go to the Recycle Bin, if there's a picture of papers inside the Recycle bin. You can enter it and whatever files are in there..If you double-click it comes up with a box with the word "Restore" at the bottom, you click that then good luck with hunting for wherever the file was first saved lol Plus, he is a guy. They do look at porn as disgusting as it is :S

First of all there is nothing wrong with you for feeling nervous about your husband looking at porn. Second of all there is nothing wrong with him for looking at porn. Unfortunately the more you demand he stay away from it, the more he will be drawn to it. That's just human nature. Try a little bit each day to reduce the level of jealousy and hurt you feel by telling yourself you are the one he chose to spend the rest of his life with. You are the one he chose to share his deepest hopes and dreams with. If he is ever ill, he knows you will be there for him and he for you. He wants to share laughter and joy with you and wants you there if there is saddness and tears. Those women in the porn are never going to replace you and he knows that. Men are very able to completely separate themselves emotionally from their sexual desire when viewing porn, or so I'm told, lol. But, I believe it is true. He doesn't see those women and want to share the history of his life or his future with them. It is just a means to feeling physical gratification and maybe getting some ideas for ways to keep your sex life interesting and on fire. He is no more attached emotionally to women in porn than he is in love with his hand when he uses it to masturbate. I'm sure you appreciate a handsome man when you see one, but you don't want to run off and leave your husband do you? Good luck!

Tell him that you keep getting pop up's with his name on them that say he has been soliciting under aged sex sites and you dont know how to get them off now. Porn sites are notorious for invasive pop-ups that steal your personal information and incorporate them into the pop-up itself. In the same way that your ISP homepage knows your name. That'll get him! Tell him to knock it off or his name will end up on a national internet pedophile solicitation list! LOL... I just made that up... LMAO! You know what they say... One good lie deserves another when it serves to catch a liar in a lie. Scare tactics work best!

Here's some advice from somebody who has been married for two and a half years. Guys have natural urges that they need to get out. It's hard for us girls to understand, but guys need a release and sometimes we aren't there for it. You're FAR better off letting your husband look at porn...the other option is cheating with a real life person. It's best to just let him get the urge out at home than to have him wonder off with a co-worker. I know your husband probably isn't the cheating type and I'm not accusing him of that, but he IS a guy, and we can't always be around when they're in the mood. I understand how you feel. It seems sneaky of him to do that without telling you...it makes me feel like crap when I know that I've been at work busting my butt all night and I come home and find porn in the computer history. It used to make me feel really rejected, but I've accepted it. I always figure that it's better than coming home and finding out a REAL girl was with him.

Yes. Click the Start button on the bottom left. Click on "Controlling Panel" Go to "Marriage Settings" Click "Divorce". Problem solved.

I have a similar issue. I've only been married a year and my husband does not seem as interested in sex as I am (at least not with me). I have never had this issue before. I am in good shape and attractive (I think :-) but he says it is stress, etc. etc. We are very close - pretty much best friends and I trust him with everything. A few weeks ago I was on his comp. and looked at his history b/c I couldn't find a site I had previously been on and...there are many! porn sites there from every single day M-F that he works from home. I don't think he does it all day but I'd say an hour a day anyway. I have cried to him about feeling like he doesn't want me and even asked if he thought the porn was an issue but he gets angry and denies it. I asked him again last night and he was furious that I 'accused' him of watching it all day. How can a person be so angry at being 'accused' of something they are actually doing? Anyway - he said he HAD changed since our last conversation and was not watching it every day. I was oging to tell him I knew but...he got so angry and lied right off the bat. I just didn't. I have never had low self esteem befor ebut it sure seems like he prefers thes other women over me. It hurts. Especially since we are basically newlyweds. I am adventurous in the bedroom and have never turned him down so??

we can do better than this. When the Savior taught the multitude, He said, “Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God” (Matt. 5:8). Could anyone wish for a greater blessing than this? The high road of decency, of self-discipline, of wholesome living is the road for men, both young and old, who hold the priesthood of God. To the young men I put this question: “Can you imagine John the Baptist, who restored the priesthood which you hold, being engaged in any such practice as this?” To you men: “Can you imagine Peter, James, and John, Apostles of our Lord, engaging in such?” No, of course not. Now brethren, the time has come for any one of us who is so involved to pull himself out of the mire, to stand above this evil thing, to “look to God and live” (Alma 37:47). We do not have to view salacious magazines. http://lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=f318118dd536c010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=00dd8fbe352fe010VgnVCM100000176f620a____&hideNav=1

Are you guys CRAZY?? How is this HER problem?? Her husband is being disrespecful to her and if he cared about her feelings than he would control his urges. He obviously knows it bothers and hurts her and youre not supposed to purposefully hurt the one you love. If she was ok with it than this wouldn't be a problem. The fact that someone here said "would you rather have him cheat" sickens me. Why should he have to do either? If he is sexually satisfied with her, which may or may not be the case, then he shouldn't feel the need to look at porn OR cheat. and NO, all men don't look at porn. Maybe she does have self esteem problems, but him looking at porn against her wishes and being dishonest about it certainly doesn't help, it just makes her distrust him and feel worse about herself in thinking that he would rather look at other females than to look at her. And maybe in his mind that is not the case at all, but she is going to continue to feel this way until he has enough respect and consideration for her to stop doing that and pay more attention to her, make her feel like she is the most beautiful woman in the world to him. Maybe he is the cause of her self esteem issues. Every woman wants to think that she is the only one for her man. Every woman wants to be her mans own personal "porn star" and its hurtful to know that the person that you have chosen to be with for the rest of your life is seeking sexual pleasure from outside sources. So to all those men out there that think it is NO BIG DEAL, we know how you feel about it and you ask us to accept it, but this is the way some of us women feel about it and your just going to have to accept that as well. I know some women would disagree, but there are many of us who feel this way when it comes to porn. You have to make a choice. What is more important, Porn or your marriage/relationship?

I have the same story going on. I expresed my feelings to him that its like cheating and it hurts a lot knowing he likes to watch other women, when i know i offer a lot in bed. He was insulted and said he will not do it again. I said that i love him so much i can do anything he pleasures him including watching porn with him. Everytime we go to bed i offer him to watch together and he sais he is ashamed. A week later i find out he made the internet adress toolbar not to remember any adress visited. (Can this be done?) In order to do this he might want to hide something. Anyway, i prefer him to watch it with me rather than alone.

Ok first off dont listen to anyone who states you should let your husband look at porn, you are being overly protective or have low self esteme...what does that say about him if he is looking at porn. They have no idea what a women thinks when they find there mate, there one true love, the man they thought they new looking at other women...and mind you mostlikly lesbian..cause most men are homophobic and will not watch a male and female so it is always female alone or together and most ppl agree that lesbians are HOT. But most people who would have no self respect, they degrade themselfs and lose disrespect for the spouse. How do you think someone gets involved in adultry or phonesex/internet. It exculates. You see men are turned on by visual stimualtion, women are by emotional. we give sex to get love and men give love to get sex. Porn will ruin a healthy marraige. Trust me I Know. My wife cannot trust me anymore because of my addiction which started when i was just a teen. I would not say that its ok if you dont get addicted to view porn, cause to me, its like a low blow to my wife, what if i make her have low self esteme. Besides by viewing porn I am TAKING AWAY FROM MY WIFE what I should be giving her. I dont care if she isnt around, I dont care if she is not able to have sex, it is no excuse for me to look on line, movies or anything Porn related for a release. I beleive she deserves better then me looking at other women. The worst part about porn is it does get addictive, I still have problems with it, The even worse part is it ruined my sex life for months, You find your husband not as horney as ussual, not as romantic, or shall we say interested even on a non sexual level, well then he could be giving his attention and be captivated sadly by something other then you. PORN! Most these people on here are not married, or dont have a serious realation ship with each other otherwise they would have more self controll and respect for each other and there spouse, come one the person you are viewing is someone's wife,husband, sister, brother, uncle, ect. The worst part is the lieing. I have hurt my wife so badly with the lying, the sneakyness, IF IT ISNT WRONGE THEN WHY LYE ABOUT IT, SNEEK IT IN YOUR HOME, AND HIDE IT? It is hard to talk with your spouse about issues like this. Parcially because You want to give them the beneifit of the doubt, you want to trust them, but when you start finding things on the internet...or movies, magizines in your home, the lies most the times will exculate to further damage to your marraige. Marraige is a sacrede bonde between a man and a wife (MY PERSONAL OPPINION HEY WE WERE GIVEN BODY PARTS TO PRO=CREATE RIGHT, A WOMEN WITH A WOMEN OR A MAN WITH A MAN JUST DOENST FIT. I do however dont judge a person for there sexual oriantation, This is a oppionion, I know and am friends with ppl who respect my oppinion and it ends there)A man and a women are one, we give our lifes, our bodies, our respect, our values and morals become intwined. Dont expect for him to come out and tell you cause most men wont, it is shameful(NOT WORNGE..THEN WHEY THE SHAME) they are scared of what there wifes may think. A good wife will be supportive, and a good husband will be respectful and try to clear this kind of behavior, Once a man is not reciving his fullfillment or being captivated by porn anymore the marraige bed change. Some men even go impatent by viewing porn while trying to have sex with there wife because there sex drives, eyes and mind are set to the fantasy that the porn creates for them. I suggest sitting down and talking. You should be able to ask your spouse anything. Let him now it is out of concern for your marraige, your relationship, kids if you have them, they dont need to find that stuff...trust me they will when they get old enough..not good. If he says no then let it go. If you keep finding things that point to that, then dont worry cause eventually(hopefully this will not happen to you and your family) you will find PROOF. there will be no denighing it. He will have to fess up or lose his spouses respect, trust...which if he is most likly he will lose some anyway. If he is you both need to get some help. There are plenty of sites and books out there. And dont expect him to just be done with it...it is in most cases an addiction expecially if they have been into it long and hiding it. Be nice, find someone to talk to..you can even talk to him although it could make problems worse. But allow him to see why it hurts you, you know common thoughts'am i not good enough? is the sex not good enough? what did i do? Is there something wronge with me? and the biggest question of all...Does he find me unattractive after ten years of marraige? Is it over for us? There are things you can install on your computer for protection, This program is free and it tracts all of his/her web sites, searches it is called xwhatch3 you can get it here www.xxxchurch.com Yes it is a christian if you will web site, even if you are not religious or spiritual you can get help through here. alot of people on this site are not religious or spiritual but they find it helpfull, there are also blogs for hurting wifes/husbands, lots of ones about porn issues. There are some good books EveryMan's battle Every Young Man's battle Every Womens battle Every womens way to a healing heart(resorces for women whos husbands have been into porn) Hope this helps

I heard the "men will be men" theory when it comes to porn, thought it myself when I was first married. But over time the porn became an obsession, it started to bother me when I was pregnant, he would look at porn & not me (and no I didn't get all big and fat, I'm 5'4" and at delivery I was 130 pounds) but it felt like rejection. Over the years porn became more & more of an issue, we went from having sex 3-4 times a week to 2 times in the past year, it went from something that was out in the open to something I started finding hidden in the house, the money spent on it went from 1 or two magazines a month to last years totals where $2386.98 between magazines, DVDs & web sites, sounds bad ha? Well it gets worse, last year he lost his job, a very good paying job, because of porn on his computer, we are now separated, I don't feel I can ever over come the broken trust, the emotional pain, the embarrassment and lies. Not every man needs porn, especially if he claims to love you. You can't compete with porn, porn offers flawless, air brushed women, each one he views looks different, he doesn't need to nurture them, talk to them, romance them, cuddle them when he's finished with them or take there feelings into consideration whats so ever. Lust is lust, lust in the mind, heart or the pants, it can only be destructive.

whats the big deal if he is, and why are you checking up on him . all guys look at porn , so what!

I'm the one who originally posted this question a long time ago. I'm amazed at the discussion it's turned into, while nobody ever answered the question. First things first: If anybody else is struggling with somebody hiding computer activity from them, I was not able to delete the delete option. However I did find Refog Keylogger, a FREE program that documents all websites visited, even keystrokes so you can find out what was typed into emails if you need to. It is password protected and mostly hidden. It is possible that the other person will see that a "keylogger" program is on the computer, so you might want to let them know that they are being monitored before they find out themselves. Just be sure to choose a password that they won't guess so that you're not wondering if they are deleting information from there too. You can find it at http://www.refog.com/ then go to the third option down, which is the free one. Good luck! For those of you that have joined into the debate, I am disgusted and saddened by the number of people that think that every man looks at porn. Stop trying the justify yourself by the "everybody's doing it, so it's ok" middle school mentality. Porn is destructive in a marriage because the husband (usually him anyway) is giving his attention to somebody else instead of to his wife. Most of us wives cannot compete with the airbrushed images that are out there, which just decreases his desire for his wife. As my evidence, my hubby & I used to have sex only 3-4 times in a year before knew about all this porn stuff. I would ask him about it, but he said it was normal. But he was the one who would always have a headache, be too tired, have too much work to do before coming to bed, etc. Since we've spent the last 2 years working this out, we now have sex 1-2 times a week. We didn't before because he was giving all his sexual energy to these fantasy women, while nothing was left for me. Yes, it did destruct my self-esteem and my trust in him, but all that is on the mend now. For those of you who are in a similar situation, keep talking, keep praying, keep seeking help & counseling, and keep looking forward to the day when you will be able to trust each other and know that your marriage will be rock solid "until death do you part." Good luck!

Why don't you just ask him?

you can buy a key logger and see where he goes on the internet for about $40. For about $80 you can have him neutered at the vets, and for $1500 a divorce. You want a Ken doll and he needs a woman.

Yes anything from a keylogger to screen capturer to file recovery. but really if your that bothered just get parental controls to embarass him out of it, it's an addiciton after all and nowadays you could end up on the wrong kind of porn site very easily....

if porn is okay then i wonder why most men and people and general feel the need to hide it? The person who posted this is very much like my story. My husband and I to now have a very good sex life and we are even more into each other then we were earlier into our marriage. We have been married seven years now. My husband and I both had porn addictions though not just him. I started at a very young age 5. Yeah 5 saw my first porn on my parents computer. We brought this issue into our marriage, but we were open about porn we watched together. But there were plenty times when we both watched it seperate. I cant explaine why it was such a thrill and why we as humans feel the urge to watch a movie over being with a real person, Just think that person you are watching is someones, daughter, son, brother, sister ect. Now my addiction ended when one day while looking for a video my husband said he hid for us to watch later i had found a video that he didnt tell me about and it made the inside of my stomach twist and i was physically nauseated. It was girl on girl action we had never discussed this in our porn watching before, I felt like he had cheated on me, I could complete with the ladies on the screen while i was there but how can I compete with busty blondes and brunettes that were 50lbs lighter then me and there sexual appeal had more on me and i was not there? I cant and I wont anyway long story very short 3 year and almost a divorce and marraige consuling, he finally told me the truth that everything i have ever found was his, every movie, mag, internet site ect. and he lied because he was ashamed and he is ashamed because he know knows it is wrong he opted to start doing some conceling with us a couple and to get protection on the computer and said he would not put it past me if i checked up on him. I hate to check on him, he is a big boy, if he wants to make the choice to get us back in the same place we were 2 years ago then its in his hands, he now knows how I feel. Ladies its hard to explaine to a guy how we feel about porn. I tell you one thing from experiance if it hasnt ruined your relashionship it will in the end, if you are married it will get into your married bed, if you are giving your eyes and mind to a picture perfect airbrushed person then you are taking from the one who deserves it the most the one who watches your kids all day, cleans your home or in some causes if its the women with the addiction the one who works 12 hours a day so you have that computer with internet access or that dvd player. Porn ruins relasionships and family's. Kids can stumble upon it, so very easy, I dont know about you but i sure wish i wasnt exposed at such a young age and Im taking a stand to make sure this addiction doesnt find its way into my home and into my kids future. I cant hold it past him if he slips i now he is human and i wont if he is truthful with me, its the lying that hurt the most. It always is.

Just ask him