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by angel_of_mercy on February 17th, 2008

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If someone keeps making comments about you, but say you are over-reacting if you defend yourself - what can you do?

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  • by ...... on February 17th, 2008

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    Taking up for ones self is something to be proud of. When someone uses the words your over reacting to the person they are doing wrong to is expected because this is a form of remorse without taking blame. It does not mean they will stop but shows that they see the pain they caused. Your asking what you can do and I have to say the answer is be yourself and continue to stand up for yourself. when you show that what others say has no power over you then they run out of things to say. Even if you feel justified in reacting, you need to understand that is just what they are wanting. It you feed them they will continue to hurt you. Best thing to do with people like this is ignore them and pretend it does not bother you but never stop standing up for yourself.

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  • by Miss Awesome on February 17th, 2008

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    You can punch them in the face. That's what I'd do.

    Or just ignore them. If they keep making comments, just calmly tell them that you really don't care to hear their opinion of you and you'd appreciate if they stop. Don't make it an argument or discussion, just end it.

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  • by Drastic on February 17th, 2008

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    You should tell them that they're overreacting by being an idiot!

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  • by LadyLuck on February 17th, 2008

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    Honestly, if you can't take the heat stay out of the kitchen. If they don't want you to make comments back, they should keep your name and anything they have to say about you out of your mouth. I'd let them know if they can't handle take it, don't dish it out. And, every single time they make a comment about me I would come back with something else.

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  • by Firebrand on February 17th, 2008

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    Ignore them, the snide comments are something that you come to expect ftom some people.
    It still hurts but you get used to it.

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  • by Doggie S on February 17th, 2008

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    Well, if that someone doesn't matter to you (like a random stranger or someone you don't love), then just ignore them.

    If that someone does matter, I doubt they would treat you that way.

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  • by Mylon on January 9th, 2012

    Mylon

    If I got paid for every time I've wondered that, I'd be a very rich man by now.

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  • by 23Skidoo on January 9th, 2012

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    Ignore them.

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  • by katy2 on January 9th, 2012

    katy2

    In my experience (I'm now 48) - those people who "really" know you, will either not pay any attention to what the other says about you; or may come to you to verify whether or not what that person is true.

    For those who choose to listen to the "other" person blindly; perhaps they are not worth worrying about. Or, in time, they will find that the person does the same thing to them; and will then realise that's what happened to you.

    Either way; if you know it's not true - don't stress. Unless, of course, the person is making the comments at work; and your job could be at stake.

    Peace Truth and Love...:)

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  • by angel_of_mercy on February 18th, 2008

    angel_of_mercy

    ok maybe if i elaborate it might be easier.

    my mom keeps making comments, like about the way i dress, my weight, the things i say and do.

    i could have taken these things for a while, but now it's getting to the point where its really hurting/annoying me. and what annoys me even more is the fact that my sister seems to have followed in her footsteps :-( both mean the world to me - but it seems like neither can accept me for the way i am, i see all thier flaws, and i dont care, i don't constantly point them out.

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  • by Random on January 9th, 2012

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    You have no choice but to attempt to force yourself to calm down. Some people are pathetic enough to needle others into bursts of rage. Don't worry, that's their problem, not yours. They can only get over that on their own, and so can you.

    People who take pleasure in emotional distraught are probably emotionally insecure themselves on some level. Just keep calm, and you can actually learn to control those people, if you so desire, although ignoring or befriending them would be preferable.

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