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Wait until the child is born and demand a DNA test. If you had such specific expectations of a child, such as that it be male instead of female, maybe you aren't really ready to be a parent - children do not live in order to fulfil our dreams - they live to fulfil their own. Please seek help from a relationship counsellor; this issue seems to be more than you can handle at the moment.
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I am so sorry for your pain! First, I do agree with the previous answer, I would want to be sure the child was my husbands before I made any decisions regarding the baby. You need to take care of yourself right now, you need to deal with the adultery, the anger and pain that comes from it are long lasting and painful. IF you decide you want to remain married you then also need to look at what this child will bring to you and your husbands lives. A child is always a wonderful blessing, but you will be forced to deal with your husbands infidelity forever because of it. You will need strength and a lot of support to ensure the child doesn't pay for the mistakes of miss x and your husband. I wish you the best, and I hope if you decide to stay with your husband and this child becomes a part of your life you are able to open your heart to him...with time. Good luck!!
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I would ask for a dna test befor jumping to any conclusions. If it is provento be his what's the point of staying with someone you can't trust?
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You sound like an intelligent woman, and as if you care and bond deeply. Given that, I don't see how you can avoid intense pain. However, you might be able to ease it, and the constant focusing on the state of your relationship, by getting into something you can find absorbing and social, like taking a course of study which will result in your becoming a professional in some field. Give yourself permission not to worry about the home front. If the dynamics of the new situation look as if they are going to tear your family apart, don't feel you won't be able to find love (or peace) somewhere else. "Sing a new song, Chiquitita."
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Yes; You need to get rid of the cheating SOB and re start your life .... You do not need to keep a lying , cheating, SOB around who will do it again , No matter what he says or does to make ammends .... It will be very diffficult at first ; BUT ..YOU deserve someone who will actually LOVE You and treat you like YOU really need to be treated ... with love, compassion, and LOYALTY .....
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Yes, important advice. Leave him. Now. Turn off f the computer, grab your purse, and go. File for divorce before 9:00 Monday morning. It doesn't matter if you love him. Get him out of your life.
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I'm sorry that this has occured. This type of thing should never happen. Unfortunatly, it does. First of all, seek a counsler, talk to a friend, pray about it. Once you put your feelings into words, you'll only see how bad you have been affected or how it has not affected you that much (but I'm sure that it has put on a lot of emotional stress). From a spirtual point of view, if he is a repeat offender, then it's time to go your seperate ways. Everyone makes mistakes, and you made a commitment to this man. As for the child, get a DNA test to prove that it is his. Until then, see a counsler, pray. Get out of the house and do what you love. It may take your mind off of things. When the child is born and it is his, you still need to treat the child with respect it. After all, he did treat your child with respect. If you are still unsatisfied, then it's time to get a divorce. Until then, figure things out and maybe seperate. Hope this helps. :)
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