Yes she's being unrealistic! I would be worried if my husband didn't find other women attractive at some point. It is not normal to only look at one person ever. Try not to mention it a lot though, it will just upset her more. She is obviously very insecure, maybe something has happened in her past to make her feel like this.

No. apprently, your girlfriend is not fulfilling your sexual desires. porn is contagious and has ruined many marriages. magazines, internet....does not matter. the results are still the same. When you truly love someone, respect plays a major part in your relationship. watching or reading porn, is a slap in the face to the other party. it sends a signal, that you have a definite problem......lack of respect for your girlfriend. what if this situation were reversed and your girlfriend watched porno naked men on the internet and playgirl magazine? it works two ways, you know. Unrealistic? no. disrespectful? yes. this problem will only mushroom into a separation. its bad news for a couple, married or not. porn is cancer for the mind.

The words 'unrealistic' and 'normal' (as in another answer to this question) are ill-defined terms and subjective in their usage. You will always find someone to agree that something, someone, some attitude, etc., is 'unrealistic' or 'not normal'. However, this is just their opinion, not a fact. If you want someone in this forum to say that your girlfriend is wrong to try to limit your pleasure this way, you will find someone to do it, in fact you already have one answer that agrees with you. This is still only an opinion, though, albeit one that you can accept. You have also received an opinion that probably doesn't please you, one that warns of danger in the activity that you find pleasurable. Again, that is someone's opinion. Your girlfriend has informed you of a boundary that she wants respected in the relationship; it is a fundamental boundary to her and one that she probably will believe in for a long time, maybe forever. It has created a conflict in your relationship because you don't have the same boundary as a value. This doesn't make one of you 'right' and one of you 'wrong.' In the absence of a religious aspect to your relationship, this is just a difference in secular values. That said, it is a very big difference in values, since it can involve basic perceptions about fidelity, trust and exclusivity in the relationship. If this is a recent issue, I suspect that your relationship is also recent since these things surface somewhat quickly in today's dating scene where sexual activity begins early and preferences are vocalized shortly thereafter. If you find yourself trying hard to change your girlfriend's attitude towards this, alarm bells should be ringing in her head that you might be too controlling. If you find yourselves arguing frequently about it, it is obviously too fundamental to each of you to resolve, at least without some professional help from a couples counsellor. If you still cannot resolve it, it may be time to realize that you are not compatible enough in this area for the relationship to be healthy and to last. Then thank each other for the time you have spent together and move on to new relationships - there are always new relationships and each time, you will have a better idea of what you want in a partner and how to let them know about yourself before getting very involved. This is my opinion only; your mileage may vary.

I can see both sides of this issue. I know that just because a person (yes women look at porn also) looks at porn it doesn't mean they don't find their partner attractive. I also understand that your girlfriend is feeling insecure possibly because she thinks that if you need to look at porn she isn't fulling you. As far as the answer, their are movies that are more geared towards women, you can see if she is willing to watch one. Make sure it is geared toward women getting some advice from the rental place if needed. Other than that if the relationship is really important to you. You can go see a counselor for a one time session to see if you can resolve the problem.

Not only unrealistic but a liar to boot, she is so full of shit I can smell her from here. The only time othe women should not arouse you is when you are dead

Well first I should ask how is your sex life going? Is there a frequency issue? I enjoy looking at porn, watching it too. But most of the time I am only doing it when sexual frequency between my fiancee and I is very slow. Shes not always in the mood sometimes we go 4 months or longer (8 is our record not that i'm proud of that) without having sex. Maybe you aren't receiving as much attention from her physically that you need to keep you focused on her.

When I was in my 20's I had this expectation of my husband. After much growth, I found this to be unrealistic and too much pressure on a relationship. Also, it is only human to look at things of beauty and that includes other humans. Why not observe her - certainly she finds other males attractive, actors, famous personalities, friends. Point it out to her when you see it and maybe she can get some perspective.

dont worry, shes stressing over nothing. If she says that you're the only guy shes found arousing since you got together shes lying through her teeth. If shes not she has no sex drive and is naturally an incredibly jealous person. If she can't accept that you like porn find someone else thats not as bashful. however if you prefer to jack off to the pictures instead of having sex with her it is reasonable. If you look at porn all the time she has grounds to dump you.

hell naw she aint being unrealistic! i am a woman and i am also disturbed when my man wants to watch porno while we do the do. as a woman we want to be the only woman on the whole earth to turn you on...(that's unrealistic!)..but hey..thats what us women dream. how would you feel if she told you that she finds images of other men sexually arousing? honestly...how would you feel? somethings are better left unsaid..ya feel me?

I think many woman have problems with men looking at porn because many men pull there expectations up way to high when they look at other females like that. it makes it so the woman have to force themselves to like it just so that a relationship with that person can continue.

I think she is. As with everything, it depends on the person's situation and all but I will say this to all the women (even tho some or a lot may disagree): Men are different than women (surprise lol). Just because a guy watches and likes porn doesn't necessarily mean he's disrespectful to women or you, or is not into you anymore. It doesn't mean he'll cheat on you. Men are just more physical creatures. The sooner women realize this the better. My guy loves porn and respects women, doesn't cheat, and it has not damaged out relationship. Hell I love porn myself, we watch it and enjoy it together, and has enhanced our sex life. I understand how it can damage other relationships, but then again like I said it depends on the relationship and people involved. Someone who has security/self esteem issues would obviously be a lot more sensitive with this kind of thing. I think it only becomes a problem when the guy is 100% depending on porn for everything and becomes less interested in his girl/disconnected. But it can also bring you closer sexually and certainly spice things up. To each is own.

A woman never wants her man to get turned on by other woman. I know I don't. Look for the woman in the porn that looks most like her and show her what SHE looks like from behind and that's why you like it. My boyfriend tells me that everytime a chick in a porn looks like me and i love it because he tell me ...Damn baby look at that, that's exactly how your ass looks when i'm doing you from behind. And I know it does and it makes me feel good because I know it looks really good!!!

Absolutely. You're still human.

Not only is she being unrealistic, if she is claiming that other men don't turn her head she is lying. Some day catch her in the act of looking at men- at the beach, in a park, or if she watches soap operas on TV.

Of course its realistic to look at other people that u find attractive, even when u are in a relationship but I personally feel that when u are with your significant other u shuld have eyes only for them and i do not think that u shuld openly ogle other people. I know that my boyfriend looks at other girls when im not around but he better not do it in front of me! I notice guys when im not with him but if im with him i dont look at anybody else, i dont even want to.

i don't think the problem is that you find visual images arousing. that is normal, of course EVERYONE finds other people attractive. the problem is that you actively seek out other women to satisfy your sexual needs. it is, in many women's eyes, merely a step removed from cheating. comparing finding a man on a beach attractive to looking up images online and masturbating to them is not even in the same ball park unless you then masturbated on the beach with the guy in front of you. tell me honestly, if just looking is harmless, how would you feel if your girlfriend put her naked body out there for men to masturbate to online?

She is - but it's a two-way street. If you are making a big deal of looking at the other women (or pictures) then you are acting like a jerk and upsetting her like a fool. Look discretely, admire discreetly. Expecting your girlfriend to share your enthusiasm over another woman's tits and ass is absurd!

See if she will make porn of her self for you, thats what my girlfriend did. Just make sure you hide them in a very secret place. And it is unrealistic to say that you should only jack off to the pictures with her in it. You should show her the porn you watch, try show her that porn isn't weird. Encourage her to masturbate to porn also. And let her know that masturbating to porn is just a release it has nothing to do with love, you just have more testosterone than her. Here is a fact that can put things in perspective for her: Testosterone is a hormone that acts on your libido,when a woman is drunk and becomes horny from drinking, her testosterone levels rise to the same levels as a sober man on an average day.

Total unrealistic just because you are in a relationship dosent mean you can switch off your sexual attraction like a light switch

well you should not do it unless she is not looking and apalogize to her for doing it^^ tell her you love her and say no one else is as beautiful as she is

Yes she is being unrealistic.

Whatever you do, DO NOT listen to IvoryGuru!! If your girlfriend doesn't want you looking at other women, trying to convince her porn is just a "release" is NOT gonna help. As a matter of fact, it may hurt your relationship immensly. Once a person has a opinion, it is very difficult to change it.I'm am telling you these things from personal expierence. I do not think she is being unrealistic. I love my boyfriend, and he is the only one who turns me on. I do not want him looking at other girls. You being a man, will not be able to fully accomplish this task. So simply TRY not to look at other girls. Or at the very least whenever your girlfriend is around and there are other attractive girls around kiss her in front of them and tell her how beautiful she is. Then when she's not around simply enjoy WITH YOUR EYES. If your girlfriend catches you masturbating to porn, she may consider it cheating. 80% of women do. Understand your girlfriend is only like this because she loves you. I feel the same way she does with my boyfriend.

as long as we are just talking about still, images of professional models, yes she is being unreasonable. If you are actually interacting with the girls on cybersex sights, you are cheating. If you are checking out toher girls in front of her, you are disrespecting her and you dont care about her.

No, she might feel threatened. If you like her then why not let her turn you on. She is real and porn is fake. Which would you rather have?

Your sending a message to your girlfriend that somehow for you she's not enough. My advice, keep sending her that message and at some point she will find another guy who isn't so much into visual images as you are and might actually care more for her than pornobabe. Which I think she should do anyway. I mean why give up your satisfaction to make her happy anyway? She's not important.