This is coming from a guy who got advice from girls over the years: Keep eye contact - not the piercing stare of a serial killer, but eye contact. Don't look down to the ground while talking to a woman. it is a sign of meekness and submission. When you ask a girl out, HAVE A PLAN. Tell her what you have planned and ask her if she wants to do that. If she says no, then ask her for suggestions. ----- "Going to the movies and then grabbing a bite" is not a plan. "Going to to see 27 Dresses at the 6PM showing at the Promenade and then going over to The Mill House for dinner afterwards" is a plan. Don't answer a question in a way just to please her. Show a little resistance and don't be afraid to disagree with her. Don't fight, but don't agree on everything unless you just happen to do so.

I would say definitely accept who you are and dont change yourself just for the sake of a girl! A girl should like you for who you are, not who you appear to be...falsifying yourself will eventually be revealed in the long run!

First of all i'd say believe in yourself. the fact you have posted the above comment shows your very self conscience, however if a girl does not like you for who you are then there not worth it. nobody should change who they are as then they will put on a false confidence, and which will eventually wear you down and make you feel worse than you do at present. Take life as it comes, find out the real you and lastly wait for someone worthwhile comes along. Good luck :D

I know this isn't an answer you wish to hear, but here is my take on this: Women being attracted to "Confident" guys is *BS*! (OK, maybe not 100% BS, but true in a lot of cases) 'Confidence' is just a code word for 'status'. In the male ego-driven world, what major factors are going to make a guy confident? 1) Achieving success in terms of career/wealth/power/position 2) Achieving success with women because of 1) or because he is physically attractive enough that he has opportunities anyway. In either case, his 'confidence' is just a marker for the fact that he is a 'catch' either as a status-object or as a sex-object. And, of course, as women will tell you once 'confidence' turns into 'arrogance' (not that they provide any clear distinction between them), it's a turn-off http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/293831 It's yet another side effect of our 10,000 B.C. brains trying to cope with a 2000 A.D. society. http://www.salon.com/mwt/feature/2007/08/06/mystery_qa/index.html My best advice: Be true to yourself and let the chips fall where they may. Trying to fake confidence that you don't have will most likely lead to embarrassment and humiliation. Good luck.

Self-confidence is believing in oneself in regards to what you set out to do (believing you are capable of achievement). Overconfidence is akin to arrogance or excessive pride. It's like having unmerited confidence--believing yourself capable of something, when you are not. It's a delicate balance, but a male is confident if he: Smiles and maintains eye contact Takes chances without being reckless Is bold without being an arrogant pig (i.e. run to catch up to a girl and confess that you've been wanting to meet her) Hope this helped.

If you find a hobby or at least something you're good at, you'll tend to attract women while you're doing that. I've had MANY girls hit on me from watching me cook in an open kitchen restaurant. Girls who wouldn't even bat an eye if they saw me on the street, but now I'm not paying ANY attention to them (focused on the food) and I'm doing something that I'm very skilled at. Because I'm skilled at it I exude confidence when I cook, at home or at work. Whatever it is you love to do (preferably something somewhat active) Just Do IT! and don't pay too much attention to them until they start paying attention to you (you'll feel it). Then stay focused on your task but act interested at the same time. If you give them everything upfront, there is no more reason for them to chase you...and no matter what they say, they like to chase you.

just be in yourself.. and dont be too over possesive abt yourself....thats all and dont be flirtious....

You get confidence from just saying things other people wont say also. Speak you mind more! Girls like a guys, who can crack jokes, and say whatever comes to mind. don be shy....and sometimes push the envelope....girls that that stuff.

Gotta love yourself, and evrything about yourself. Gotta talk confident, walk confident...act confident. Be precise with your words...and use an assertive voice. Dont walk clumsy, but do what you do...and add alittle swave (practice balance, and "tai chi") It will help you with your motions... Act confident by being precise with your actions...Its the way that you stand...hold your head, your hands arnt all figity...you dont feel "scared"... Being uncomfterble in your own skin is very noticable through body language. (even though goofy is sometimes cute) its better to have a man who is hard, and confident, assertive...and has integrity...why???? ...cuz they will be the same way in bed. They know what they want, theyll get a hard body...(and a hard you know what)...they have integrity to never let a woman "down"... So........ ...a good way to boost confidence is by jogging...working out..(those will do freakin wonders) take your vitamins, eat right...get a schedual going...a good schedual. Work on socializing with words...just...theres alot of steps, you just gotta be comfy...being you. DO NOT BE ANYTHING BUT YOUSELF. yOU CAN be confident yet different also... A confident man is confident in all he does. whether he enjoys...sports, or games, or playing with dolls...whatever. He knows what he likes, and does it...and does it his best, and doesnt care what other people think of what he does...CUZ ITS WHAT HE LIKES. He embraces it...and lets people know he likes it. Its all about your perspective....its all in your head. LEAP OVER that low self esteem crap...cuz what good is it? it aint gettin you nowhere...why not be the best you you can be???...why NOT?!?!?! DO IT!!!!!