My friends tell me that all I seem to do is complain. I find it hard to stop however, how can I remember to catch myself before I begin to complain?
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Meg
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It can't be done overnight... the best you can do is try to think to yourself first... then speak. Go over what you want to say about anything that annoys you... if you catch yourself griping... stay silent. It easier said than done, especially if you are a vocal person to begin with, so it will take practice and patience with yourself from yourself.
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I have trouble understanding complaints in the first place. They are usually from someone who believes he/she is the victim of the universe. Recognize that you are the only one responsible for how you feel. If you feel poorly, it is because you have chosen to feel that way. If you feel fantastic, again it is because you have so chosen. Before you describe how you are personally feeling, after first checking with yourself to acknowledge that you are responsible for this feeling, check with your companions and ask if they are interested in hearing how you are feeling about yourself. If they say they are genuinely interested in hearing you discuss your own feelings, and your responsibility for those feelings, then go for it.
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Tie a string on your finger and whenever you look at it try to say something positive about whatever you are doing at that moment.
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Appreciation and Gratitude. Practice the *true* meanings of these two virtues, then you won't remember why it is you ever complained about anything before.
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Think about the words you say before you say them.
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