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  • Secrets in a relationship are never good. You should ask him to be honest and tell you why.
  • Depends on the boyfriend. Check the bill (if you must), it's usually more telling. If you suspect he is up to no good, ask him before you resort to invading his privacy.
  • that hes a private person and dont want you nosing on on personal issues
  • thanks for your answer:) You see, I have asked him about it already, so i havent really had a chance to 'secretly invade' him. He's always checking my phone, and i let him cos hes paranoid as hes been cheated on in the past. But he always locks his (altho he finally gave me the password a few weeks ago). But the other nite i was just playing around on it, taking photos and stuff-and i was bored so i went to his messages. i only just got into it, and was laughing at a funny msg, when he noticed and grabbed it off me and refused to let me have it back. Then i told him i was upset about it and feeling paranoid, he stil wouldnt let me. Then i got it off him and he said he wouldnt speak to me for the rest of the night if i turned it on (he turned it off). So I thought about it, then gave it back to him and said "i trust you'. And i felt that way at the time, but now its eating at me and im getting paranoid about it... i need answers!!!
  • Well, it sounds from your own answer to this question as if he is playing a double standard - one rule for you and another one for him. He is not treating you as a person to be trusted, while at the same time he IS playing on your sympathy because of something in his past history. You are unwittingly contributing to this inequality by pandering to his 'paranoia.' This will never get any better, so be prepared to be controlled by him until you leave this relationship. He has no reason to change how he treats you because he is already getting what he wants. If I were in your shoes, I would let him know that unless you treat each other with equal respect, you are going to say goodbye and find someone who will treat you with dignity, respect and trust.
  • maybe he has too many porno clips inside his hand phone
  • He has phone numbers and/or text messages that he doesn't want you to see. Not too difficult to figure out.
  • Obviously he doesn't want you to see whatever he's hiding. I think you already know that. That's not necessarily a bad thing, though.
  • It means that he wants his privacy. Does he look at yours?
  • Honestly, it shows me an immature tendency within your relationship. Two adults who are committed to eachother need to learn the meaning of the word "TRUST". That means you dont have to share every bleedin' detail of your life short of being called Siamese co-joined twins. You both can be with eachother, & still have your 'own' separate lives; I understand that that might be a radically mindblowing concept for some people, but quite frankly I've been with way too many insecure control freaks to keep ignoring the crux of this matter. Its these sort of small idiosyncracies that are partially responsible for a large number of breakups within de-facto relationships. People need to grow up, seriously. Im not saying that its always this scenario. Sure, sometimes a pratt wont show his phone cause he doesnt want his girl to find out he's cheating or whatever, but then I assure you there will be other signs that an observant girl can easily pick up on. In my personal experience, the reason why she cant see my phone is simply because I feel its a breach of privacy. There could be messages from close friends who've written me something private about their problems, should she have to see those? am I not breaking the trust factor between me and my mates by letting her see those? I dont see why it should bother you really.
  • he is hiding something and when you finally do look... he will have erased everything.
  • mm .. i think you ought to discuss it with him . no point sitting alone and wonder what is it. if he still does not want to , just ignore him without contact for the whole week. Believe me that its effective, he will come back and ask why. thats the time to dicuss
  • It means he takes offense to the controlling nature of his mate, probably.
  • 95 % of the time, its because he's hiding something.
  • usually it's because he has stuff that he's hiding like girls numbers and text messages with naked chicks on em...yep THAT IS IT. he's a cheater.
  • Has he always been this way with his phone? Maybe he just likes to have his privacy. Im not trying to say that he is not hiding anything but there might be other reasons why he isnt showing you his phone. Maybe he is planning a surprise for valentines day and he doesnt want you to hear his voice mail or read his text messages. Have you confronted him about it? If so what was his reason? How long have you two been dating? If i knew more details i could help you out.
  • A relationship is not about having your own life. I'm sorry folks, but once you're with someone, you and that person no longer lead separate lives. There should be nothing you feel you can't tell the other person. If you are in a relationship and you both feel you don't need to be in on each other's private lives and you're both happy (yeah, right) then wonderful for you. If one person is NOT happy with it, they should not be told to 'get over it'. That's rather idiotic. That simply means you need to find someone who's willing to open up to you. He's probably cheating on you, yes. If he's not, I'd be really surprised.
  • Well I went throught the same thing. And it still occurs at times. But you need to realize that he is still with you and that's what matters the most. I never thought of it that way. I live with my boyfriend so that is on a different level. I am realizing that he does need his privacy. Because we are around eachouther 247 (literally) but in my case, its on of the ex girlfriend that i get paranoid about. because ive went through his phone several times and read her text messages. one time she was like "so does your mom know we're back together" and i was like wtf does that mean? so you're with her? and he was like NOO im just messing with her mind because shes gullable. and i was like still i dont like him calling anyone but ME HIS GIRLFRIEND "baby" but he told me alot of stuff that i should trust him on and besides how can he cheat if i live with him and he hasnt gone out lately? but the thing that gets me the most is that ill be using his phone and shell be on his most recent call log and i never heard him call her. so what do you think about that then?
  • What does it mean when you want to see your boyfriend's phone? By the way would you let him read your emails? You wont feel better before you get to see his phone so just do it (you may feel even worse afterwards so think twice!). Does he always go to have a shower with the phone in his right hand? Then try this, I don't know if it's working but it could be fun: http://www.reversephonedetective.com/search.php

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