Your daughter has to come to grips with what this "mixed marriage" may mean to her and her children (if so blessed). Perhaps her example may make a difference for this "nice guy," but that cannot be really hoped for. As a young Christian, I would not even consider a serious relationship with anyone who did not believe in God or in Christ's salvation. However many things are different in this permissive society. It all comes down to her and what she herself is ready to accept or not.

Assume TOTAL control of her life. Tell her what color underwear to wear. Follow her into the bathroom in case she wipes herself incorrectly. Crush her soul. She is not a person; as the fruit of her loin, she is your PROPERTY! For all of those who don't get the tongue-in-cheek nature of the above, you can fuck off too. And for all those who want to D/R this post, you are no better than this slave-owner.

this is one of the most bigoted and condescending posts I have seen here on AB... I have known so many good god fearing people who are are 100% pricks in real life ...wife beaters , child molesters to name just a couple of things but they are the first in the confession box so they can have the sins forgiven so they can do them all over again until the next Sundays confession so if I was you I wouldn't be throwing to many stones and I would be taking a closer look at some of the scum that hide behind the bible if I was you including in your own church

Did it ever occur to you that your daughter might not believe so strongly in God and the Bible as much as you think she does? I dated a guy who pretended to be a devout Roman Catholic because of how strict my parents are when it comes to dating. Later, I found out that he's not religious at all. Ouch. That burned. That's when I was really, really religious. At least this guy is being real with her about his beliefs. If she STILL chooses him, then what does that tell you? She obviously likes this guy more than she likes the Bible or she wouldn't be with him. Now I'm dating a guy who has a Muslim upbringing and I have a Christian upbringing, but neither upbringing gets in the way of our relationship. His parents found out he was dating me, but that didn't stop him from dating me. If my parents find out about him, that won't stop me from dating him. Perhaps it is the same for your daughter and her boyfriend. If they have similar values and they get along, what's so wrong with their relationship? You even say that you like him. Do you not approve of him because he is an atheist? In a way, I am not really being fair to you, because I understand how frustrating it must be for you. However, I also know how frustrating it is to have parents who feel it is their duty to disapprove of decent guys just because of their position on religion.

My girlfriend believes in God and the Bible and was brought up in a very religious home. I am an atheist and don't believe in God. I wondered for a while if we were going to be ok with such different beliefs, but we're fine. Really, it's up to them. If they're both mature and open minded about what the other believes, all will be well. My girlfriend and I get into discussions pretty often about religion and we don't always agree, but we agree to disagree and, for the most part, we do agree on the basic stuff. That's what's important. As long as they are mature and grownup about it, they'll figure it out.

One word, Acceptance.

She's grown enough to have a relationship, she can make her own decisions. It's not your business who she dates, unless they're physically abusive- in which case you still can't force anything, you just have to be there for her. Either way, I digress. This is not something you should butt into- you need to let her be in her relationship. It isn't about you.

I am an Atheist/Agnostic and my GF is Christian. If your daughters BF is like me then he will have no problem getting married in a church or getting any children Christianed. I see it as the wishes of my GF and as such am glad to let our kids get Christianed and get married in a church.

I have two friends, and we all really care about eachother, even though we all have completely different religious views: One is a semi-born-again Christian, one is an atheist, and I fall in the middle. We don't let religion get in the way of our relationship, and it would (should, at least) be that way in any other kind of relationship. If they love eachother - if they really do - there shouldn't be a problem.

I personally have a daughter dating an athiest, I don't believe in his thoughts of God which is nothing he has no morals and there for every thing goes....molesting daughters, gay rights....that is what there all for if he pleases..NO MORALS! I turn away what my sole can't handle and that is negitive people such now is my daughter.

You are a narrow minded bigot if you can't accept the fact that he will be a nice person without God in his life. Do you really think god would be proud of you?

are you scared because you are afraid it might ruin the relationship or are you afraid she might convert? If you are afraid it might ruin the relationship, well there's a million other things out there that can ruin a relationship that have nothing to do with religious beliefs....if you are afraid she will convert then I think that's a personal problem and one only she and her god can sort out. Spirituality is a quest we all have to take on our own and if she decides there is no god then that is her decision and you should still love her regardless. As long as he treats her well and loves her what do you care what he believes? his beliefs are as valid as your own since neither party can prove or disporve the validity of the other's

The only valid concern I can see you having about this is perhaps, for your potential grandchildren's religious upbringing. So first and foremost I'll try to address that. If your daughter really does hold to her Christian beliefs as strongly as you think, then I'm sure you can trust her to see to the religious education of any kids she might have with her Atheist boyfriend, and unless her boyfriend is something of an intolerant arse, I'm sure you can trust him to accept that. Which isn't to say that you can expect any grandchildren you end up with not being exposed to their father's beliefs, it's more to say that it's ultimately up to a child's parents to raise them, not their grandparents, so on that matter you should just trust your daughter and try to be open-minded enough to accept your grandchildren having a *Balanced* upbringing. I'm not sure what other concerns you might be talking about [you should try to make your questions clearer in the future], so from here I'm shooting in the dark... But if you're worried about your daughter's religion, then I'd say that's another thing you should just trust her to look after: If she does believe as strongly as you think she does, then you shouldn't be worried about her converting, and even if she does, you'd be a good mother to respect that.

The BIBLE states that we as Christians are not to be unequally yoked. There is a reason that GOD tells us this. I have a son who is a Christian and the daughter-in-law is Catholic....though some people say that Catholics are Christians...that is not my belief. The argue about how to raise the 2 boys they have and the mother-in-law has now stopped talking to my son. Does having differences in how we believe strain a relationship or marriage...? YES...it does put a strain on relationships and is not recommended by our SAVIOUR.

You have every right to feel that way, just as they have every right to marry if they chose to. My husband is Christian, I am an indifferent agnostic and we will have been married 24 years in a weeks time, so yes, it can work. We never argued over anything. We did what adults do, we talked and we compromised. Let them sort this out for themselves, the worst thing for them would be to have other people putting their views on their relationship.

Don't worry. It appears that your daughter is letting you down gently. Just keep your mind open and listen to both of them.

but then doesnt your saviour also say dont judge? a person is not defined by their religious beliefs or lack there of. its their actions in my opinion. and if he makes your daughter happy then thats all that counts :)

Important is what you achieve in life. Not so much what you believe is true. For now it is enough that your daughter and her boyfriend love and have faith in each other.

many many people marry that do not share religions and hardly encounter problems as long as shes not pressuring him to become a christian and hes not pressuring her to become an atheist, all is well no1 should be judged or deemed not fit enough for my child based on religion, like the colour of his hair eyes or skin, or anything like that saying hes not good enough for her coz hes atheist is as bad as being racist