Is it ever okay to decline a request as a bridal party attendant, after you've accepted the offer?
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CaliGirl
ANSWERS: 5
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Not unless you have a super good reason I would imagine.
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It's perfectly fine. I was asked by my step-cousin to be a bridesmaid in her wedding in November 2009. I decided I didn't want to commit to something so far away and I wrote her an email explaining that it wasn't personal, I just wasn't interested. I didn't get into detail why and she is ok with it. Her mom, on the other hand, is trying to get me back but I told her no, I don't want to do it. I'm an adult, i make my own decisions. End of story.
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In the case that you are describing in your comment, it is not polite, no. When he was asked 2.5 years in advance and the wedding is now so soon, it's extremely rude. Sorry! I work with a wedding etiquette professional.
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Yes. "I'm sorry, but a personal crisis has come up, and I can't fulfill my duties and must bow out. I'm sure you understand." Should she be so rude as to ask after the emergency, you can say "It's too personal to discuss." You are backing out due to an emergency, right?
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Yes, provided you give enough advance warning to find your replacement. My cousin asked me to be one of her maids at her wedding. I accepted only to find out that she had chosen outrageously priced dresses and shoes which all the attendants had to pay for their own, about $800!! Back then I was a student and couldn't afford it but she insisted that I had to come up with the money, so I declined to be an attendant.
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