I have been married 7months & my husband announced to me that he does not love me anymore cause he can't handle the commitment and just wants to be friends again, he has also physically & emotionaly detached himself from me. Any advice
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Sorry to hear this has happened to you,if that were me i would dump him and get on with my life and find someone who would appriciate me.
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That is devastating. Have you tried to reconcile? Marriage counseling? Any form of counseling? I think before he gives up, he at least needs to say that he did try to make it work and fix it. =(
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Very sorry, that sounds painful. Has he actually left yet? People say all sorts of things in the course of a relationship, and often back up and try to erase them later, change course, etc. But actions speak louder than words. If he's still with you, it's probably worth trying to just "give him some room" so he can work it out. Even if he leaves, that's not necessarily the final word... he may come back. Some couples break up and get back together again many times before they get it worked out. Try to take care of yourself. Breathe deeply, take long walks, forgive yourself for any mistakes you may have made, and consider what it might take to forgive him. Sometimes life twists the road around in strange knots on the way to a solution, and about the best you can do is try to keep walking in whatever direction seems like "forward". Good luck.
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kick his butt to the curb...he obviously didnt know what the vows he was saying meant and he cant go play with every toy in the toy store anymore...let him do what he wants...he'll realize hes messed up then itll be him asking for advice...
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Life is a process and we are constantly evolving. I've heard of many relationships that ended up being stronger after going through a hard time. Sometimes we end up taking each other for granted until, for whatever reason, you temporarily lose each other. This could be one of those situations for you. Best of luck.
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Do you love him? He says that he wants a friend. Be his friend. It seems that he has a deep seated problem. Perhaps depression? You say he is “detached”? That raises a red flag. Depressed people tend to withdraw. The problem seems to lie within him. The old “pressure from commitment” sounds as if it could be a cliché, an easy way to mask his pain. See if he will get some outside help with you – like some professional counseling. Perhaps that might uncover the root of the problem.
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Is he having anotehr affair? I would say do not go behind him and make him feel how important your love is and how important you are in his life. Stay away from him for some time. Keep your self esteem high and do your regular things in life.
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I am so sorry to hear this. It seems that he was and is to immature to get married. Maybe, he does not know what love is. My advice is that you separate for 6 months. He goes and lives somewhere else and you get the current residence. Neither one of you is to pursue a relationship outside the marriage. Then, if he still wants to call it quits, then get a divorce. Good luck.
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Remember that the first year is the hardest. Did you get married for the wrong reasons? We're you forced because of a pregnancy etc... Sometimes people just aren't in touch with themselves which makes it hard for their partner. I would suggest giving him his space and taking time for yourself to figure out if he's worth fighting for. Good luck
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RUN; don't walk to the nearest Divorce Attorney .... Do It BEFORE it is too late .... and be sure that YOU get what is yours and that you have coming to you ... +5
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Let him go. It would be a curse upon him and yourself to keep together something that isn't love, it would be nothing but a burden, for both of you.
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Oh what a terrible thing to be experiencing. You poor darling. You must be shattered. Try and let him go as best you can. He is not worth it
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I am sorry that is so sad. but look on the bright side, it wasn't 15 years.. If it were me I would let him pay the bills, and do my own thing. there would be NO friendship..
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I know that this must be hard - but marriage is about fighting through it. If you believed that you could live together 7 months ago, you can again. And what about all of the time before that? I'm sure that it's just the stress and pressure of knowing that marriage is forever. Ask him to just give it another 3 weeks, and then see what happens. The detachment is probably not wanting to hurt you if you break up. But because of it, you are going to have to be a little bit forceful - by which I mean demand his attention. Hope I helped, comment if I left anything out that you may want to know. (+1.) (Also, so sorry that this question only started to get so many answers recently. If you were meant to be, you can still make it work. Go for it:D!)
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Yeah, divorce court
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