ANSWERS: 5
  • Of course you can stop thinking about someone if you truly want to. Find someone or something else to occupy your time, and therefore your thoughts. Why anyone would return to someone who hurts them is beyond me. Perhaps try imagining all the ways your life is better off without him. Good luck!
  • I feel your pain, believe me. The only way to stop thinking about him is to only remember ALL the bad things about him, and remember that he didn't deserve you anyway. Be ruthless in your thoughts about him. Eventually you'll stop thinking about him. I did.
  • For the same reason we cannot stop thinking about a burn on our hand when we touch the oven accidently. For the same reason we cannot stop thinking about a broken leg in a cast after that skiing trip. For the same reason we cannot stop thinking about a sore throat when we have strep. Constantly thinking about someone who has hurt you works on the same premise. It hurts so we think about it. It has nothing to do with 'WANTING' him. It has everything to do with needing to remember what an asshat he was and remembering what we do not want in the future. You don't have to stop thinking about him to heal. You just have to remember why you will never go back into that kind of relationship again. Good luck, Sweetie - you're worth better than that!
  • O.C.C.U.P.Y yourself whatever that means take a cooking course, go to the gym, take long walks by the shore,read books, watc dvds, go to different movie theatres, stop talking about him, try new restaurants even it takes 30 min. to drive, throw b-day parties for your friends, make cookies and muffins for children, travel, get out of your town to see new places, get out of your comfort zone to meet new people. Please stop expecting that he is gonna come back some time soon cause he is not going to. Get up and move on. you are the only one who feels sorry for you. People are moving on. I am sure you have a great potential. So use it.
  • I'm in the same boat and all these things are easier said than done. Just try to focus on something, anything, I started a hobby. Planting flowers in the yard. My yard looks like a florist but it helps me. I still think of him while i do it but it keeps me sane enough to go on one more day

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