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I feel disgusting after having anal sex (for the first time) with my husband. It was a good experience, we both wanted to try it for a while. After I felt trashy, I told him I never want to do it again. Why do I feel this way?

By muffin Asked Jan 23 2008 6:47AM
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by Beenthere on Nov 13, 2008 at 10:16 pm Permalink

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Yep. you getting fucked in the ass makes you trashy and you know it - your husband liked it because of it too - so its somewhat of a connundrum.
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by My Favourite Life on Jan 24, 2008 at 11:50 am Permalink

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It sounds like you are experiencing a value conflict. You believe (because of societal or religious norms) that this is wrong and you can't reconcile this. If you enjoyed it, don't collude with your own deprivation. You are engaging in consensual sex with your marriage partner. There is nothing wrong with what you are doing. I would suggest you read this post: http://mflife.wordpress.com/2006/10/12/anal-sex-101/ , and the next time you are in the mood, surprise him with a special request. If he is like me, he will love the ad hoc invitation. :) I hope you can get past this and not be so concerned about external judgments, though I know this is difficult for most people...to live their own private lives without the guilt of non-conformity.
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by Agostwriter on Jan 24, 2008 at 1:56 pm Permalink

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We grow up with a lot of stimas in society about what is right and what is wrong. Something two adults choose to do, with each other, especially in a committed husband and wife relationship, that was pleasurable, should be cherished. You are lucky that both of you liked it and could use it to enhance your lovemaking and relationship. It can be hard to overcome what society raised us to believe. And, you aren't obligated to overcome those feelings.

Also, some people like to occasionally feel "trashy" and find it a turn on.

You might decide to let your husband tie you up or give control to him somehow so that when he decides to take you anally, it isn't your fault and you might not experience the guilt but enjoy the experience.

Whatever you decide, good luck!
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Avatar Poodie13 Jan, 25 2008 at 07:06 PM
yep... you were "taught" it was "taboo", wrong, dirty... through society.. so you feel the same, even if you kind of liked it.
(ALSO, IT GETS BETTER IF YOU LET IT!)

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by Sandman on Oct 8, 2009 at 5:50 pm Permalink

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You feel that way because you know it's abnormal.
"Trashy" is a slippery word to define, but if it makes you feel trashy and it disgusts you, then it is trashy and disgusting. It might not be that to some other folks, but they are not you.
If both of you enjoyed it, it wouldn't matter whether it's trashy or not; but since you don't, then he's the one with the problem, not you.
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You didn't ask for my personal opinion but I'm going to give it anyway: it is abnormal, and trashy, and perverted, and a man would have to be at least a latent homosexual even to WANT to do that, if not a flaming faggot.
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by Altguy on Aug 26, 2009 at 8:04 am Permalink

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Thats why he likes it ... guys like to know that their lady is a lady in public and everyday but now and again he gets to take you up the ass and make you take it like a porn star ...

its a guy thing ... lady by day and porn star in the bedroom !!

Try offering it to him with a strapon and see how it makes you feel !!
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by kikiki on Jul 27, 2009 at 3:39 pm Permalink

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this what your anus look like after having much anal sex
http://rapidshare.com/files/259778175/analsex.jpg
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by bagkhan on Apr 1, 2009 at 10:36 am Permalink

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May be you like pussy more than anal.
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by PeterODB on Feb 13, 2008 at 5:54 pm Permalink

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I don't know why you feel this way, because it can be enjoyable and exhilurating. Besides it may be taboo, but people have been having anal sex for over 2000 years.
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by Kepi41 on Feb 13, 2008 at 5:42 pm Permalink

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I don't know why you fell this way. There are sertain muscles that make sex even more fun when explored. Get over it and have fun!
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