Recently my wife and I had a threesome with a girl who works in a restaurant. It was my wife's idea and she is also her friend. One day she called me and we met in her place.We had sex without my wife's knowing. Should I tell me wife now?

It's guys like you who give threesomes a bad name. Way to go.

never tell.

No and don't do it again without your wife present..If you tell her all the trust will be gone in the relationship..I agree with Madison Lector, you ruin it for others, because you couldn't just be happy with the threesome, you had to still go behind her back? pretty low

You should tell her. As your wife, she deserves to know who you're sleeping with, especially since it wasn't her. You would want to know if your wife slept with another man I'm sure.

You should tell you wife. It would be the right thing to do. I suggest thinking very hard about what you want to say to her. She is going to get very mad. She may decide not to be with you anymore. These are the stories that everyone knows about how a threesome ruined a relationship.

The threesome was something that was agreed by all parties to happen, and that nobody would get in 'trouble.' You have used it as a way to begin an affair with the third woman. You have betrayed your wifes trust, gave you (almost) every man's fantasy.

Good luck.

I wouldnt suggest that....your wife's idea was for three of you and if she finds out you did the other friend it might prove to be your undoing....

O hell no!!! Dont even go there!!!

Last year, my husband and I had a threesome with a friend (woman) who also worked with him. Within a week of that they were having sex at work, and not telling me. A few months later I found a note that they had passed back and forth the day before. It was an eye opener to say the least. 8 months later, I am still dealing with the heartache of knowing that the ONLY reason I did this is because I trusted him completely to never do that to me, and of course he did. If he would have immediately came home and told me........it would have hurt a hundred times less!

you have two options:

1 - Say it was a one time thing, never do it again and don't mention it. This assumes you don't have a guilty conscience.

2 - Tell your wife - explain the ambiguity you felt about the new relationship with her and beg for forgiveness. Oh, and understand you won't see either of them naked for a while.

Yes u should tell ur wife....my hubby and i did that and then he went behide my back and met with her and has sex, but i found out and it really hurt me, but everything is good now...good luck!

She has probably hooked up with her as well (without your knowledge...) "was my wife's idea"...


Anyway, tread lightly.

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What is your motive for telling your wife? Do you feel guilty? Do you need to confess your sins and be forgiven? That's childish. Just shut up and keep it to yourself and DON'T MENTION IT TO YOUR WIFE, unless you're prepared for a fight or a divorce.

You're not a little boy, and your wife is not your mother. Be a man, and don't ask your wife to be your mother-confessor.

If she finds out and confronts you, THEN it's time to admit it.
 

Yes. You love your wife don't you? Yes. Tell her and remind her it was her idea. Guilt is crushing and honesty is best. You're wife approached this honestly and you should too.

What is your motive for telling your wife? Do you feel guilty? Do you need to confess your sins and be forgiven? That's childish. Just shut up and keep it to yourself and DON'T MENTION IT TO YOUR WIFE, unless you're prepared for a fight or a divorce.

You're not a little boy, and your wife is not your mother. Be a man, and don't ask your wife to be your mother-confessor.

If she finds out and confronts you, THEN it's time to admit it.
 

the threesome you had was one thing, the sex at her place is another. it's called cheating. just because she agreed or allowed it once doesn't mean you now have an open marriage. it doesn't give u carte blanche to fuck her friend again and again, or anyone else. you fucked up mister. you placed your marriage at risk. how you deal w it now is your problem. if u tell her i hope she loves u enuf to forgive. ........and no. no way is it your wife's fault. you can't blame any of it on her. she was open and up front and didn't go behind your back. she included you. you were just too much of a dog and too immature to handle it.

Welcome to the danger zone, including another person in your sex life is risky, you just cheated on your partner with her best friend and you want to tell her?

It will depend on your partners ability to forgive and understand her role in all this, its not inconceivable that she may not mind but you know her best, there is a risk that this will end the relationship.

yes be a man tell her cause if she finds out any other way you'll wake up 1 mornin with your tackle on pillow next to you with a note saying your low life scum. you never know she might say she wants the threesome all the time.