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  • - "I shouldn't have to ask for it" is a red flag -- the fact is, you DO have to ask for it with most men, most of the time. Expecting something other than that is risky: there are very few men (I count myself among them) who proactively think "I should pay more attention to her!". It's a lesson we have to learn over and over again. Life is much easier for everyone if you can express your needs and not fall into unrealistic expectations. - Don't break up with somebody unless you really mean it. This is not a video game, where you can die in a crash and hop back up on the motorcycle 2 seconds later. Certain kinds of actions have permanent effects, and saying "I'm leaving you" is one of them. Even if you get back together after that, it takes a lot of work to heal the rift. - If he's not responding, he may well be done with the relationship. In that case, you want to do your best to learn whatever lessons there are and move on. We all make mistakes, we all have to live with the consequences. It's not the end of the world, you can love again. But maybe not with him.
  • What you should be doing is communicating your relationship wants and needs. This doesn't stop but gets MORE important over time. Of course you have to ask for what you want. No one is a mind reader. Please think longer and harder before you break up with someone over a single issue the next time, and then decide 3 minutes later you want them back. Some people really do not like yo-yos. What should you do? Apologize, say you acted hastily, and have a good discussion about what you both need in this relationship. Good luck!
  • Don't pull that trigger if you don't intend for the bullet to hit home. When you pull out the "break up" card, you are asking for exactly what happened: him to take you at face value and move on. As for asking for attention......oh,my dear dear girl. Anything with a penis is oblivious to the finer nuances of a female's emotional needs. You DO have to ask for it. I'm not telling you to be a shrill harpy who demands all of a guys time and focus, but sometimes they need a subtle nudge to remind them to be good boys.
  • No offense, but what did you expect? Watch your mouth next time.
  • If someone doesn't tell me what they want for their birthday, they aren't going to get what they expect or wanted. Sounds like he's excellent at commitment, I wouldn't respond to someone saying they had 'heard' something and told me they were breaking up.

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