I am dating man 5 ft 4ins, we are same height he is great guy but he is short, he seems to REALLY care for me, i really want to marry and have kids before i am too old, (34 now) do u think i should marry him if he asks or just keep looking for taller guy?
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if you love him you wont see how short he is - if you love him, you will want children just like him . A good man is hard to find.
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It sounds like you're not as into him as he is into you. Don't marry him if you don't know 100%.
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Some men are measured from the neck UP, and some from the neck DOWN. Presumably you don't have the face and figure of a supermodel (or else you'd be one), and he still cares for you. Don't be so superficial! He isn't!
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The most important aspects of a man have nothing to do with his height. If a man was 'tall enough for you' but was self-absorbed and insensitive, will that make him good marriage material? To be honest, if I were that guy and knew how much value you put on height instead of me as a person, I would rescind the proposal. There are many, many people who are not the 'perfect' physical specimen (as incredibly subjective that can be) but are the most wonderful people in the world! I think you should really look at yourself and consider what you TRULY feel is valuable in a person you might spend the rest of your life with.
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Move on and let this man find someone who is not quite so shallow to share his life.
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It's best to marry for love rather than height:)
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Maybe the guy is surprised that he has pulled a woman like yourself.You both need to be happy with eachother.Find out if he is 100% happy with being with you.I can be harder for a short man especially if he is getting ribbed by certain people.I knew right from the start i didnt want a tall guy.The tallest i would have gone for would have been 5'6.I was lucky with my guy especially only being a couple of ins taller.The tallest i was with was 6'4 i must have needed my head read.Then came along my guy who is married and we plan to share the rest of our life together.We are able to kiss pasionatly without the need to stand on tiptoes i love the way he just slants his head to peck me.He can even peck me on the head which he feels is a good point for him.I loves being the taller person in our relationship and proves alot of people wrong that he can succeed in life and love.
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are you serious? thats a question of a 10 yr old, grow up first.
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Think about it this way: would you rather have a man that's taller but isn't as great as this guy? Are you really that caught up in physical attributes that people can't change, enough to look for someone who doesn't feel right? People can't change their height but they can change how they act. If this guy treats you well and you like being with him, what's the difference?
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I hope you're kidding. What does height have to do with anything? What matters his how you two relate to each other and how he makes you feel. Besides, everyone's the same size in bed. Think about it--if he makes you happy, who cares how tall he is.
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What has height got to do with whether you love him or not and whether he loves you or not? What has height got to do with whether you can live with him for the rest of your life and wake up next to him and listen to him snore in bed or fart or listen to the same joke a hundred times and still laugh? What has height got to do with whether he makes you feel yum? Height is just a way of measuring how far you have to fall to the ground or how easy it is to reach things from the top shelf...nothing more.
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What kind of stupid question is this? You sound like a foolish little superficial brat ,and if I was him ,I'll move on and find someone who loves me for me and not for something as irrelevant as my height. What's so special about being tall anyway? He's short..big deal..it's apparent that you don't love him the way he loves you because if you did ,his height would be the last thing on your shallow mind. When you love someone... you love everything about them...you love them for who and what they are and accept them as god made them.Grow up and stop making a fool of yourself.If you love him and he makes you happy then marry him.If all you're worried about is his outside appearance than you're not good enough for him and he needs to move on and find a REAL WOMAN!
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If you do not love him do not marry him. If you really think that he is too short to marry you should not have gotten so involved with him.
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If you love him, and he asks, marry him. What difference does his height make?
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honestly this is question is really embarrassing for you. If a guy wrote something like this, their would be a thousand answers saying how he's a fuckin dick.... so thats gives you an idea of what i think of u, after this question.
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Wow I'd hate to be this guy. You're pretty much a terrible person for even asking this question. To allow height to weigh into who you marry is a horrible thing. I proudly down rate this question.
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i am sorry this is absolutely absurd. he loves you and you want kids and you want to marry him, but because he is to short you might change your mind. Maybe he should leave you because of your color hair.... thats just as reasonable. seriously. if you love him go for it.
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It is better to have loved a Short Guy than never to have loved A Tall.
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Seems to me you don't feel much for him, you just want to marry someone.
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We are ALL the same height in Bed;) If he is a good man-keep him. There are plenty of taller people out there that may not have the qualities that you want outside of their height. 34?? you are still young (we 30 somethings are STILL young)
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Size doesn't matter
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This is rediculous, shallow much? Hell arent we all the same height laying down?
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Well, considering that it seems you are only concerned about being with this guy until you find a taller guy I would say cut him loose and move on. Hopefully one day you will find a "tall" guy that treats you like crap because it seems that what you deserve.
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I think if you are basing your decision, about whether or not to marry this man, on his height you are not ready to get married to anyone- regardless of their height-or your desire to "marry and have kids before you are to old". Your whole question screams I am not ready to get married. You seem to see the world as revolving around you and men as inter changable potential sperm donors for your future children. Honestly I think you should break up with this poor man.
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that's a horrible question. if you really love him, it doesn't matter how tall he is in real life. it matters how tall he is in your eyes.
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What the hell does height matter
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height doesn't matter.
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i can't believe you are asking this.... how would you feel is he asked... maybe i should start looking for a younger woman? because there is a chance that you will not be able to give him the children he wants... i think you should just leave him. you don't love him!!
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Im sorry, this Q doesnt make much sense. To only care about having kids before you get too old, and to be so concerned with his height, but to suggest he cares about YoU...but you havent said anything about loving him, or caring about him? Maybe you need to wait!!
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Are you worried your kids will be short?
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I hope you really aren't that shallow.
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Is this question for real? If you really love this guy, so what about his height? But don't just marry someone because your biological clock is ticking. I wonder if you are mature enough to have kids yet if you are so hung up about this guy's height.
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My biased opinion: No, you shouldn't reproduce there's already too many people like you wanting to be swept off their feet that keep people like me from finding someone with the same qualities your looking for but opposite gender. Let the guy reproduce with somebody who actually loves him, for him, to contribute to the happiness of other people like me. Anyway: Nobody can tell the future, nobody knows how you feel, it's up to you and what you prefer to marry for. The chances of what your longing for are getting slimmer as time goes. Here's an opportunity, play it safe and take it or take a risk and leave him. I don't completely know your feelings towards the situation, so yeah.
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Hey, I just turned 40 & am a 5'4 man. My parents split when I was 3 & I moved around the world growing up so no normal social network. I've always been mocked by coworker men as a midget the 22 yrs I've been on my job. Having seen many shows as well as 1000+ dating ads of women between 4'8 & 5'3 who all said they wanted 5'10+/tall etc. never less than 5'8. I got the impression pretty much all women out there felt like secretive woman & I didn't try pursueing anyone. just focused on work & hobbies. Itseemed hopeless & depressing. I'm extremely lonely & your responses have really suprised me. Maybe I actually can find someone that would love me back. That really is great if times have changed. Thank you people for having a heart & being human.It really really means a lot to me. Of course women like secret can forget about it I could care less how attractive she is being like that. Thanks all. I'm still in shock & speechless. I've been just waiting to die alone but it's pretty unbearable.
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Love comes in all sizes, shapes and forms. You should feel very blessed to have a wonderful man who Loves you and is even considering marrying you. You definitely need an attitude adjustment. I'm sure some other gal with her head on straight would be more than happy to take him off your hands. Time to grow up and fly right or your guy is going to fly away.
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This isn't a serious question is it?!! If you are truly concerned about something so trivial; you need to reassess your values.
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I cant believe people have given you positives for this question. You are the same height. Whats the problem? Maybe you should keep looking for someone else, let this poor guy find someone who loves him for who he is.
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OMG!! The same height makes for some very interesting and satisfying positions!!
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you sound insecure and too worried about the outside appearance thats a sound of insecurity it does not sound like you would bring happiness to his life.so no don't marry him he needs a woman more grounded and stable
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Well, on her side here, lets just look at the other side of the case. Woman need to feel looked after right? Genetically (according to Darwin) a woman should be looking for the largest strongest male to raise her children. Tall people get paid more and get more promotions in comparison to short people and are looked at in greater admiration. I'm only 5'5 3/4ths, but my boyfriend is 5'11 and he gets a lot more attention than his shorter friends. His 6'2 friend got a job on the first interview (as a plumber) as opposed to the small guy who interviewed before him. The reason was probably that the small guy wouldn't be strong enough or tall enough to do the work as efficiently as the tall guy. It's a hard cold fact of life. It's probably not right but seriously, just looking at it from the other side of the spectrum.
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Cmon, its not his fault he is short...
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