Take him to court for child support after the baby is born -- It's child support for your baby and your baby deserves it -- If he gets busted by his wife , well you both knew better

You messed with a married man, you now both have to deal with the consequences - and will have a child that will bind the two of you together forever. I am not personally against abortion; I believe it's a woman's choice. Your choice is to keep this baby, and he cannot force you to give it up.

*NOT JUDGING* if he's not divorced yet, is he planning to or does that just look like how it's going to end up if he tells his wife he's been having an affair?

I am always stunned by the messes we can get ourselves in to. What is it with people and not wearing condoms????? You messed with a married man, sorry no sympathy there. The child is yours, I wouldn't be counting on this man for support, even if he does end up with you, what he did to his wife he will probably do to you. I suggest you make every effort to secure a future for you and your child and next time be a bit more choosy who you pick for a boyfriend. You deserve better.

It's not really your rights I would be concerned about, but the baby's rights. It will have a right to be supported by it's parents. You need to get a lawyer right away to represent your and your baby's rights in court. It's too late to leave his wife out of this. He has committed adultery, and there's no getting around it.

Remember your foolish behavior the both of you, the only victim here will be your child. I am against abortion but, I believe in the right for women to choose . I just hope you will treat this child as a child and not as a pawn. Take your BF to court and sue for child support, and if this is required than your BF is a loser for disavowing his own child.

He's legally and morally obligated to support the child. If he is going to pull that off without his wife finding out, it will be tricky. But your prime concern has to be that child's welfare, so do what you need to do. If he refuses to support the child, you'll need to take him to court -- and that will be the end of any secrecy from his wife.

No offense to your boyfriend, but he can't just mess around with you and not expect consequences for his actions if he wants to be realistic. The baby is his baby, too, and not just yours, therefore he has to help support the baby. You do not have to give your baby up for adoption or abort your baby if you do not want to. It's your choice. Not his. Also, please be more concerned with your baby than you're concerned with yourself and your boyfriend.

As everyone has said, there are consequenses to being involved with a married man. Usually, when a relationship starts out with lies and deceit, that is how it will end up as well. You now have a baby on the way and to think about having an abortion at this stage is a horrible thing. Do you want this man in your child's life? If so then you will have to take him to court and also deal with all the drama to come, including his wife, who by the way is an innocent victim in this situation and you cannot blame her if she is angry. He already has a family and not only has he cheated on his wife, but also his own children. Instead of being with you he should have been with his family. If he treats his own family this way, do you honestly think he will treat you and your child any different. If he does leave her to be with you, things may be fine for awhile but they will eventually become difficult in the long run. He will have to deal with an angry and hurt ex-wife and the three children he already has, not to mention all the child support he will be forking out. He is headed down a long and difficult path. I would urge you not to go any further and just think about you and your child.

Pardon the language, but fuck him! Put him down as the father of the child and take his ass to court. He made a HUGE mistake. Don't take his crap.

Keep your baby and sue him for support. It is his own fault if his wife finds out.

Oops--should maybe have thought about "boyfriend" "married" "3kids" BEFORE putting yourself in the situation of having to worry about "what rights" you have. But that aside-he should be responsible for child support. Please don't use this child as a way to get him, keep him, or get back at him. Make the best choice, as a mother, that you can for your baby. And perhaps you can learn from this experience.

exactly, if you are 17 and screwing around with an older married maan who is already a father of 3 then you should have used your head before your got pregnant. sorry to be so bold but it's true.

THATS EASY....your body

its your body you can do what you want...if he isnt there to raise it, you can demand child support from him through the courts...

Of course he doesnt want his wife to find out. Would you want to know though if your husband was having an affair and she got pregnant? If he doesnt want his wife to know then he just wants his cake and eat it too and now baby makes three. He needs to take responsility for this baby and the baby's best interest should be put first. Not as a pawn. Good luck to you and your baby and I hope you think more than twice before seeing a married man again. You could be wearing her shoes and not literally. Good luck!

You are dumb

nvm your on your own

http://www.onetruegift.com/Birthmothers.htm helpful people

abort, have a kid with someone your gonna be with. You don't need the headache and I don't wanna pay the taxes for you to be on welfare

you didnt say if he was separated or not. You just mentioned that he isnt divorced yet. Since he has already done the marriage/baby thing he may not want to have more kids but now that you have a bun in the oven and plan to keep it, he needs to take responsibility for this child. You do have rights and with a DNA test to prove paternity he will most likely have to pay child support. I can only hope that he will be supportive in other ways too. I hope you will think twice before seeing a man who is legally married. It shouldnt matter if his wife finds out if they are divorcing anyway. If he doesnt want her to know then he may not be going through a divorce as he would like you to think. He may want his cake and eat it too.

Solution #1:Name him as the father on your baby's birth certificate.Have him take a DNA test to prove paternity and take his ass to court for child support. (You might even get $1 before his wife kills him) Solution #2: Blackmail him into paying you or you'll tell his wife!!!!!

Wow....well, you can file for child support.... I just have to ask, is this really the drama you want to bring a child into?( sorry, none of my business) There still is a great chance that he want pay the child support, so if you are going to bring this child into this world, be prepared to love it and provide for it. Unfortunately in our society the primary resopnsibility of the child is on the mom. As you stated, this man is married and has 3 kids. If he hasnt left yet, he probably is not. Please dont complicate the lives of these kids. Do your fighting in the court....

First you gotta say to yourself "it's my baby, i'm not going to abort it". forget about your boyfriend. obviously he isn't going to be a good father if he wants to suck it out with a vacuum. i wouldn't be worried about you boyfriend. i would be worrying about raising your child. a child needs a father figure in it's life. i would try and find another boy friend. one that will respect you and your choices and will be a good father to your child. at this point it's all about your child and nobody else. good luck.

BRING ON THE DOWNRATES!!!!! this is bs. you got yourself in quite a predicament. if this guy doesnt want to pay child support he shouldnt have to. he screwed up. you did as well. how is it 100% a womans choice??? a child needs its father just as much, if not more then its mother. whether or not his wife finds out should be the least of his worries right now. men get fucked in court 100% of the time. if you want the baby... keep it and EXPECT to support it 100% by yourself, but hopefully hes a halfway descent man and will be there for the child and help financially support it. or if you want to abort... pay for it, do it on your own. dont expect any help from this guy at all. ur just as much to blame for this as he is... actually i think your more to blame seeing how its your body and you should have been a lot smarter!!!!!

Tell him if he does not want to be in your babys life the up his and to stay away from you and your baby.until he wants to get ride of his wife and marry you and help u r just tell his wife and help u. U need to desinde on which one u do.

dump him