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by DreAnna on January 11th, 2008
Pressure points..the base of the penis..make him stop before he cums..then apply pressure at the very base of the penis..you take control..good luck
by MG1942 Has a Life Penguin on January 11th, 2008
Try some benzocaine desensitizing cream. Usually sold as "Anal Lube" but also prolongs erection.
by that one guy on January 21st, 2008
I had this same problem when I was late 15 and and a little into 16. I'm with the same girl iwas then so i know what your talking about. So heres what you need to do. Have sex as often as you can for about a week to a week and a half, then just stop for about a week and a half to two weeks. After that the first time you do it agian, initiate it (basically jump him when you have the chance) and let him do almost anything he wants that one time, except for the thing he wants to do most. Then after that do it at your normal rate but let him do a little more each time. So you've gone from sex all the time, to no sex, then nearly unrestricted sex, and and now regular sex with slight restrictions taken away ( like slapping your a$$ kinda things). So when you've gotten to sex with nearly no limits except for the one thing he wants to do most just make it clear that he can't do that one thing and he'll just have to make do with what he's getting now for some reason that you make up (like your not ready). And every now and then hint that you might be ready and when you go to do it tell him he can't.
The reason this works is because of the way a mans brain works. You let him have all he wants and he thinks he's a stud and there's no need to do anything different. then he can't get any and he thinks that he messed up or that he never was a stud and your tired of bad sex. The reason that you have to wait for two weeks is so that thought of maybe i am bad and she is tired of it has time to come about. then he'll say to himself that the next time you have sex with him he's actually going to be a stud, and soon he will start to beleive it and it's that beleiveing that he will be that stud that you have to acheive. So when you let loose and do almost anything he's already in a frame of mind that he's going to give you the best sex you've ever had or die trying, it really will be for both of you. Then when you go back to normal sex he have a taste of that "forbidden" fruit, and keep on trying to get it agian. so when he gets a little closer each time he'll think that he has to make it better each time to finally get what he wants and to do that he has to keep it up, he won't dare let it get limp until he's made you happy. Finally when he's right there all he needs is that one little step to everything, one he's got the motivation because he knows what he wants and thats what will make it better, finally he'll have that drive because your saying that your almost ready, he might get it next time. and after a few weeks of i'm right there let him have it. he'll have every reason to keep doing what he's doing and knows if he fails he'll lose what he wants most.
(On a side note you'll be able to get him to do whatever you want him to, because he'll know that if he doesn't he won't be able to get what he really really wants and thats not an option. in a way he'll be addicted to you. and under you controll which is what every woman wants right?)
if none of that works go see a doctor.
by R_Berue on July 10th, 2008
You can show him my answer:
You never make love TO that person. You make love WITH that person. For the sake of the younger folks who read these answers, I won't get very graphic. I'm sure you can use your imagination.
I AM A VERY fortunate man. I had the wonderful experience of seeing my parents, both sets of grandparents and all my aunts and uncles behave as though they were constantly on their honeymoons with their spouses.
They would hold hands, hug, kiss, whisper things to each other, say, "I love you, _____!" and carry-on like many young people, who are in love, do in public.
They would smile at each other and tell each other
how beautiful, wonderful and thoughtful she was and
how thoughtful, wonderful and handsome he was!
WOW! What a great set of romance role models!
No, I never watched as they were making love in the most intimate way, but I DID see and learn from their examples and inter-actions with their spouses! As far as I know, no one ever cheated on the other.
That being said, one day my mother's father got in the car with me. I was driving him to the track. He "LOVED those ponies"! He was well-aware of the relationship I had with the lady I was dating and who would one day be my bride.
He said words similar to these:
I know your father told you what to do, but did he ever tell you how to do it?
I answered, "No".
He went on to say, "I'm going to tell you some things I don't think you'll learn from any one else. When you have sex, make love or whatever you want to call it, you don't behave like most other men. Most men are just interested in one thing and one thing only - satisfying their own selfish selves.
That's NOT the way to do it. You have to make absolutely certain she is satisfied. No matter how long it takes or what you have to do, you have to do whatever it takes to make sure she does what she likes to do best. You HAVE TO satisfy her first.
Your brain is the most important sex organ. Your brain controls what happens downstairs. When you aren't sure about what to do or how to do it, ask her what she wants you to do. She'll tell you or she'll show you. When you're making love, you think of other things - not what's going on at that particular moment with that particular lady. When you think about what you're actually doing, I guarantee you'll never satisfy the lady in your life.
He went on to explain about holding hands, hugging, kissing, caressing and taking things one step at a time. He described a lot of things I heard of but wasn't sure about.
During that ride, one of the last things he said was:
When you are absolutely sure she is satisfied, then you can do what you know is best for you - but not one minute before.
That's what I was told.
Thank you, Gran'pop. I love you. I miss you!
Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it!
VTY,
Ron Berue
Yes, that is my real last name!
Sources: My wonderful family!
"THE University of Hard Knocks"
also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons"
by Freemind on January 23rd, 2008
im thinking he is just being lazy or just got bored. dont take this the wrong way but i used to have this girl and the first few months sex was great then i just got tired of doing it with her so its like 3mins or less. if you really try to control it, you can! most of time my slong doesnt even have rest time, just hard all the way and i could cum 2-3 times without withdrawing. (just dont do it when your fertile) ^_^
by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on January 12th, 2008
I don't know what you can do. He has to do something. He's either very nervous and his blood pressure is too high, or, you are so hot to him that he can't hold back.
Here are some ideas. For him:
Viagra
B12 vitamins
Ginko Biloba
Exercise
Yohimbi (an herbal sedative)
Anti-anxiety pills (The kind that doesn't have an adverse effect on the sex drive, of course).
Niacin
by txanon on January 11th, 2008
There are desensitizing condoms. Also, my boyfriend and i find that if we stop just as we're about to finish, slow down, and then build it up again, it ultimately increases the intensity of the orgasm. Even if he is selfish, he would have enough logic to at least try it.
Also, next time he asks you to give him head, suggest a 69 position, he may find it more pleasurable when you are both doing this [I know my boyfriend does!].
Quest has a point, even in an intensely loving relationship, a lack of successful sex could put alot of strain on a relationship.
I hope this helps!
by Indigo- in the library with the revolver on January 11th, 2008
tell him to wear a condom - that usually makes me pretty numb and prolongs the fun.
Edit: And that was my male alternate personality, called Commrad (aka my friend who forgot to log out of my name when I left his house). Uh, yes, good answer. Do that.
by btodd on January 11th, 2008
I wasn,t badly effected by this problem but try this because it's fun any way.
Do oral or use your hand but do it slowly and delay making him cum.
When he is about to cum. stop.let him calm down
do it as many times as he can stand
this will help him with control, You might have to squeeze the base of his cock to start with to stop the cum
by Possum on January 11th, 2008
spend more time in foreplay and take it slow. if he's getting ready have him slow down or stop and rest in you till he calms down.
if he just jumps on and goes after it the you need to coach him.
plus, he ought to get you off a couple of time before he goes in.
by Missk on August 16th, 2008
Me and my Boyfriend had the same problem for a while. When I asked him why he said he was so turned on that he couldnt hold it any longer...lol
The way we overcame this was during sex when we were both close to climax we held off and just kissed really gently so we were close to each other but not with him penetrating me! Its great now and we do this most the time and it works..
Maybe your just to hot± lol
K
by ChicChick on July 18th, 2008
Take control. Be on top. When you sense he is about to orgasm, slow it down, or stop for a second.
by Kizz miazz on January 29th, 2008
I didn't read all the comments but I think you all kind of miss it.
Let him cum fast. The let him please you orally or with a vibrator, fingers, everything. When he is ready to go for it again he should be really turned on watching you have those wonderful orgasms and do it again.
The second time he should be able to hold off for a while. Maybe by this time it won't matter for you. But it is part of training to control your body and not have your body control you.
It has to start somewhere. Look at the masters of body control and the things they are able to do. Give him time and work with him.
by Quest81 on January 11th, 2008
Tell him (in a sensitive way) that you do kegels to make yourself tighter and if he would like he can do them to have more control over his orgasm. All he has to do is stop his urine mid-stream and hold it for thirty seconds every time he pees (when time permits of course).
Also if you are aware of his cues and know when it is getting too intense for him you can slow down the action or change angles/positions.
Final set up a word he can say if the cues aren't working light red light or just plain old stop. Then smile look into each others eyes and kiss. When he is ready to continue he will let you know.
by Damn Regret on October 16th, 2009
before sex, put his balls in your mouth and gently pull down a few times.... suck and pull at the same time. have both of them in your mouth and do that... he should last longer
by TayTay on December 6th, 2008
Make him cum before sex. And then have sex. It usually makes it longer If that doesn't work. Try durex condoms that have a certain jell in it that controls cumming in guys. Magical
by PeeNut62 on August 28th, 2008
Let him control the pace. That way if he is getting too excited and your not ready, he can slow down or control the motion. I do it all the time, with my wife of thirty years. I can keep her going by going deep inside and pushing but not actually moving inside her. Pressure on her clitorus but no presure on me.
Works - Just try it.
PeeNut
by CanadianPilot on August 28th, 2008
Have sex more often, he'll get used to the feeling and he won't cum as quickly. Just go fuck...do it...do it NOW...and then do it again after :) round 2 should last longer
by DA BEN DAN yanggui zi on May 27th, 2008
Well you could take it as a compliment (and it probably is)..but if your boyfriend suffers from pre ejaculation it is no laughing matter to him. I think he should see a doctor..there are ways of helping people with this problem...and it IS a common problem. good luckk.
by Doggie S on January 23rd, 2008
Condoms, to lessen the sensation.
by that one guy on January 22nd, 2008
Another thought, double sack it or even triple sack it (number of condoms).
by DJ_Kremlin on January 14th, 2008
you have to be able to read your body and he yours. A guy can cum in seconds or it can last for hours. It's all about having sex together and not just pounding away until someone blows. On your end, you have to see when he's getting close and slow down, maybe even stop for just a couple of seconds. He has to be able to control it as well in a similar fashion, if he feels like he's about to blow, he needs to slow down or stop and let the sensation pass. It's a learned behavior for men. Takes some time and practice. See physiologically and instinctively it's blow and leave.
by Big_Sexy23 on January 11th, 2008
Tell him you would like to get yours and if you do not get your the next time then get a new man. You could buy toys. Try the toys first and make him jack off before you do it.... It might help..
by deltabtry on January 11th, 2008
Have him see a doctor, there is a medication for this(ointment). Or you can try an old fashion remedy, that would be a rubber band.
by Bugs-Bunny on October 16th, 2009
Suck him off first ... then let him recover about 10 minutes and try sex again.
by momshouse on July 31st, 2009
Well what works for me, different problem but same fix, is to milk him all day before you want good long sex! See fast orgasms don't feel as good and don't satisfy, jack him off in the morning, have him jack off for you, than have him watch something sexy with you and see how fast he can cum, then at night you can arouse him and he will last a long time for you!
by minnie mouse on January 27th, 2009
Don't ride him so hard girl lol maybe you work it to well for him to handel
by bigpun_55 on November 5th, 2008
suck him to completion first then work him hard again always take the easy one in the mouth makes the 2nd one take forever
by Curious kid on October 11th, 2008
You will feel him getting really hard and into it before he comes when you feel that pull out and switch position it will give him a break and not hurt his feelings. Besides he will most likley feel like the "man" for lasting so long and not know why!
by snatchsniffer on August 28th, 2008
when he's getting heavy in the jigga jig department, frighten the living piss out of him by a blood curdling scream - Guaranteed to stop him coming, and the next time your going on the horizontal mambo, his brain will be ready to be shocked again, slows him down a treat. I lost my cherry at 10, and the 18 yo who had me did it to me, and I never suffered preEjac ever - mind you it does take longer to get stiff but it works and lasts a long time. by the way she also taught me that ladies ALWAYS come first!
by Combat Medic on July 29th, 2008
I personally practice my breathing control and can go from 30 min to an hour. That said about 15 minutes is what we avarage and that is after I have nibbled on her a bit. I am a giver.
by WhenNRome on July 26th, 2008
There isn't really anything yo need to do but dude needs to take to heart these steps. Do as much research on the PC muscle and get into a routine of strengthening his ability to control his ejaculations. Link below:
http://www.askmen.com/love/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html
There are other ways to stop it but it will take time and conditioning on his part. He will have to stop masterbating so much unless he follows one simple technique. Do not allow himself to cum for 20 minutes but even better don't cum at all. Build up stamina by not allowing it to happen and in turn he will be a better lover. If he is not doing Rosie then maybe it would be a way for him to practice going as long as he can before cumming. As with anything that we are lacking in knowledge.....research!
It is a sad thing to spurt without giving you your cookie! So, maybe he should turn his focus entirely on satisfying you prior to entering you. You loose the intimacy of the so called connection but happiness on both parts is key to a healthy relationship!
by Anonymous on February 20th, 2008
There seems to be alot of different kinds of guys (sorry, I really CAN only speak for myself). These things are a little funny for me... If determined I may get there quickly, but certainly not in two minutes - and the tree doesn't fall 'cause it got off either.... just keeps on going (Yep, multiple orgasms here). That said, it seems you definitely have to slow the young fella down. Give it to him for a minute (but, definitely not two), then do some kissin' and huggin' and maybe a little more kissin' and huggin' then let the lad in again - keeping in mind you can't let him go all out. Over time (but, NOT overnight), he'll probably get the hang of how this is working out. Good luck and have lots and lots of fun. I'm rooting for you!!!
by Kaidou on January 20th, 2008
get a cock ring
by graduated pixie getting pissed on January 11th, 2008
There are things like cock rings that go around the base of the penis that put pressure on the vein and keep him hard longer, there are creams that desensitize him, there are special condoms, or you can use more than one condom,
If you are giving him head and he won't return the favor that's selfish on his part. You deserve to have the same pleasure as him, and you are young enough that if he won't some one else will be more than willing.
by roiboysatx on August 3rd, 2009
i am married and tend to come too fast sometimes. if my wife hasn't orgasmed yet i just ease my way down and bring her off orally with my tongue. its good for her and good for me.
by Anonymous on September 1st, 2009
Just jerk him off first and then have him spend some time pleasing YOU and then after that, he'll be able to last a lot longer to actually have sex after you've both orgasmed.
by Sodahead on September 2nd, 2009
The boy needs to learn to jump in for a second helping.
by Aiden23 on September 5th, 2009
You could make him do kegels it prolongs ejaculation and he wont cum so fast
by Anonymous on July 31st, 2009
Also the more often you change positions, the longer he will last.
by bubbletrouble on July 22nd, 2009
As a radical way, circumcise him in the dark.
by violentfemmexx1 on June 14th, 2009
have him jack off before you have sex with him.
by Anonymous on July 9th, 2009
talk to him. a lot of it is psycological. if he tried he could make himself last longer.
but tell him so it doesnt hurt his feelings.
like "u know, i'd love it if i could have sex w/u longer cuz it feels so great."
by josephstalin on July 18th, 2009
dump him
by stealingkidneys on September 23rd, 2009
fact is he probly is too turned on to do anything but. also if he is younger or hasnt had sex long give him time to learn how to control it lol my first time only lasted 5 min but now the shortest time when trying to make myself cum is 20-25 min also could be his brain goes into overdrive he is so worried he wont be good enough he isnt paying much attention to himself and cums and speaking as a guy it may suck for yall but to a guy its hell no exageration he will and does worry if he cares at all about you. and also the adverage time for sex in america is only 15 min so... lol anyway give him time if it still happens try durex condoms if its real bad he wont feel nothing and thus prolonging sex i used them my first year untill i was use to the feeling then used thick condoms then normal then finally none. (word of wisdom tho if u use the durex condom make sure the condom is still on cause after 2 min of it on he wont be able to feel if it comes off) anyway good luck! hope i helped
by kickit on October 5th, 2009
Solve your problem just call me...
by A is for Awesome on December 2nd, 2009
Get a new boyfriend.
by BootyLover on December 10th, 2009
tell him to get stoned and try
by Anonymous on December 10th, 2009
first of all how old and how experienced is your boyfriend...are you his first?
by slowandez on November 28th, 2009
I solved that problem with Viagra and he might try jackin-off before you have sex.Sometimes my wife will cum in two minutes also
What is wrong with having sex with younger women as long as you both feel good?
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VERY few people seem to know about that! I'm impressed! +3!
by Anonymous on February 20th, 2008
Thank you :)
by DreAnna on February 20th, 2008
learnt something today
by bubbletrouble on July 22nd, 2009
I never knew about that either. Points from me!!
by funnyfarqua on October 18th, 2009