How is she evil? I understand it's difficult when there's a step parent involved. Have you tried being friends with her? Try not to blame her for what happened between your mom and your dad.

convince her that he cheated on her and somehow find proof or you can just talk to her about your problems and ignore her?

Find your twin sister and then take your twin and your step mom camping. Put rocks into her backpack and then stick her inflatable mattress in the middle of the lake while she is sleeping on it....It works in the movies!!!!!!!

That would be HIS choice if he wanted to break up with her, not yours. No matter if you can't stand her...if she makes him happy, thats what matters. I cant stand the man my father married, but she's happy. So I just ignore his exsistance.

Nothing. It is his decision whether or not to stay with her, not yours. Any actions on your part in this regard will show you to be immature. Is that your objective? A better plan would be to sit down with your father and talk about your SPECIFIC, CONCRETE problems with how your stepmother is treating you. Then you can work on this together. Good luck!

Here's your chance to grow up. Your father found someone to love and create a life with. Why would you want to hurt him? This woman is not your mother, and it can be very difficult to accept another woman in your father and family's life. The adjustment can be rough and take a long time. Trying to break them up will only make it worse. Your father made a choice in introducing this woman into the family. Your step-mother made a choice to take on at least one child and try to adapt to a new family knowing she's not you mother and it could be difficult. Now it's your turn to make your choice. You can decide to also adapt to the changes that have happened to your family or you can create strife by refusing to. Try to see the circumstance from all sides; it may help you see the human side of everyone involved. Good luck.

Not sure why you say she is evil...is it because she married your father and you can't get away with as much as you did before she came into your lives? Grow up.....you father is happy...he is in love. He still loves you. Your step mom accepted you when she married your dad. She did a lot of thinking about taking on a ready made family.

when you come of age, move out. If she is truly evil, contact the police or a priest. But breaking them up proves how immature you are.

Watch the movie "Problem Child" and "Problem Child 2" and take some tips. Finding a large love rock may be difficult though.

This question gets the saddest question of the day award :(

That's his business. This happened to me too, I married a woman with two sons. One hated me and rejected the union right away. He thought he could continue a relationship with his mother and ignore me. I stopped that. He was absolutely and completely cut off from his mother for 4 years. The other one tried to play me long term, it took him that same 4 years to work his way out of even his Mother's good graces. Right now he is persona non grata, and at a very vulnerable time in his life. If you like being a castaway, follow your own will on this matter. The moral to this is, get right or get gone!

SLEEP WITH HER.. THAT SHOULDDO THE JOB!

you can't do anything and you shouldnt do anything. Hate is a strong word and wastes a lot of energy - focus on something else

I may not know your full situation, but here goes, my mother died when i was 13 and my dad married a few years later. OMG you do not know how pissed i was and i guess i still am on the inside. (Theyve been married for about 2 years) i wanted my dad too only me and my biological bro, but i was told one time to try and give her a chance. now i'm not at the peak level of "great step daughter" believe me i sometimes try and make her life hard just to see where she is. but you know what? She is a human and one thing i found out is that she is smart and she is a really good person to talk too about anything. try and find something in your stepmom that you think you might like and go for it. now on the other hand if she is just a total b**ch and she yells alot, drinks, drugs, abuses you, then you might want to bring this to your fathers attention. (just try not too yell too much, that never seems to work) but look, just like what Gidioun said, your dad may have found his own personal happiness and trying your best to break them up will most likely in the long run hurt the relationship you have with you dad. just try and be paitent and instead of focusing on all the negative (like she gives you a bed time or controlles how long you stay out with friends) look at something she does good. like maybe loves your father or maybe you just don't see it, maybe she wants to be a good mother to you. try and be open-minded to the situation and look at the full picture. like i said before i don't know your situation but don't let the first thing to come to your mind be "Get the hell outta my house." even though i know it is there. then again it is your life and you and ultimatly you know what you want for yourself and where you want your life to go.

set her on fire...but then you'd go to jail? is it worth it? or maybe she's not evil, maybe you just dont like her because who likes Step Mom's? Think about it.

You can take her camping and have her bang two sticks together. That will keep the bears and mt lions away.

how is she evil?

How old are you? Are you old enough to be allowed to go live with your biological mother, grandparents or another relative? Maybe that would solve the problem. Hate and evil are very strong emotions. Please don't do anything you'll be sorry for.

You could kill her. Your dad's not gonna want to be married to a dead chick.

unless she is seriously abusing you emotionally or physcialy i think there's a chance you could be over reacting. not saying you are but the chance is there. do you really want to be responsible for breaking your dad's heart and ruining a chance at happiness?? I can tell you now that its not that easy for some ppl to find love and when you find it you cherish it. As his child there's a pretty good chance that your his first priority, don't abuse that power tho. There are other people involved in this besides yourself and even tho you can see it now the sitation prob isn't as bad as you think it is and not everyone is out there to get you or to go against you. stick it out for a bit and if it continues then maybe voice your concern somewhere if and when its appropriate to the right parties.

I think you should just live it out and then get away at 18. I'm still waiting for my stepchildren to grow up and that will be YEARS....lol So all is fair to say that you can leave when you grow up.

Don't do anything rash. It might work against you and your dad might think of you as evil. Let their marriage be and wait patiently to move out. Maybe things can even improve with distance.

You really need to stop being so selfish. This is your fathers' life too. He isn't just living for you. I suspect you are just jealous that you are not getting all of his attention. Someday you will have a marriage of your own, and you won't want some other woman's child trying to destroy your happiness. Look beyond yourself.

Watch the movies Problem Child and Problem Child 2, get some ideas, and annihilate her.

I wish I could think of something to help you. I suffered through having an evil step mom. She was very cruel to me. Eventually my dad saw her for what she really was. I hope yours does the same, and that you don't have to suffer her for too long. Good luck!

Forty years ago I didn’t get along with my stepfather. I wrote this about him in 2005. http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20050619 Here’s what needs to be discussed on stepfamilies. LIVING IN STEP-FAMILIES: PRE-MARITAL EXPECTATIONS Before any couple "ties the knot" they should talk about what they expect from each other and from their marriage. When the marriage will create a step-family, this is especially important. People considering marriage often have different ideas of what they expect from each other. Discussing expectations prior to taking that big step will help a couple set realistic goals and make realistic commitments to each other. This guide, designed specifically for prospective step-families, will aid you and your children in discussing ideas and making plans for a satisfying family life. Creating a successful step-family environment can have many rewards for its members, but it requires more than love and good intentions. Flexibility, commitment and realistic expectations will all contribute to a successful step-family. Developing realistic expectations involves understanding and accepting the ways a stepfamily structure differs from that of a first-time family. An understanding of these differences will help create a satisfying marital relationship and family life. A remarriage occurs only after a marriage ends, either through death or divorce, and dreams of marrying and living "happily ever after" have been shattered. Because of this, parents and children often must deal with feelings of sadness, anger, hurt and disillusionment. These feelings must be overcome before children and adults can trust and have faith in new relationships. Also, because the parent-child bond originated before the new couple's relationship, stepparents join a family that already has loyalties, traditions, and roles established. Stepparents sometimes feel like outsiders. Children in step-families have had to cope with the partial or complete loss of a parental relationship. There is a biological parent, in memory or in actuality, who is still important to the child, and who will have an influence on the new step-family. Children remember "how my mom did it when she was alive," or that "Dad always lets me stay up late at his house." Because children may spend time in two different households with different rules and expectations, they need to learn how to make smooth transitions. They may experience loyalty conflicts not realizing you can love two people (e.g., father and stepfather) in the same role. They may need to learn how to deal with the differences in values and lifestyles between the two homes. Another structural difference must be considered before forming a step-family. A newly married couple usually has time to get to know one another gradually and make marital adjustments before adding a child with the accompanying new roles and responsibilities of parenthood. With remarriage, one is a new spouse and a parent or step-parent from the start. Because of this added complexity, it is especially important to discuss expectations and make plans for the transitions involved. Such planning has the potential of reducing stress for the couple and their children. Despite the complexities, (and sometimes because of them), a healthy step-family can provide many rewards and satisfactions for step-family members. For adults, remarriage can provide a new opportunity to develop a satisfying intimate relationship. For children who have witnessed the failure of their biological parents' relationship through divorce or have experienced the pain of a parent's death, witnessing their parent's satisfying remarried relationship can renew their faith in close interpersonal relationships. PRE-MARITAL DISCUSSION QUESTIONS Personal Goals and Expectations Jobs Household Arrangements Financial Matters Children Relationships With Others Communication Sexual Expectations UNDERSTANDING YOUR ANSWERS Personal Goals and Expectations Jobs Household Arrangements Financial Matters Children Relationships With Others Communication Sexual Expectations THE CHILDREN References Currier, Cecile (1982). Learning to Step Together : A Course for Step- family Adults, Step-family Association of America, Inc., 28 Allegheny Ave., Suite 1307, Baltimore, MD 21204 Coleman, M. and Ganong, L. (1987). An evaluation of the step-family self-help literature for children and adolescents. Family Relations, 36 (1), 64-65. Mills, David M . (1984). A mode l for step-family development. Family Relations, 33, 365-372 Visher, Emily & Visher, John (198 2). How to Win as a Step-family, new York: December Books Email me at George_McCasland@yahoo.com to receive the full document.