When should I suggest to my husband I want an open marriage because I'm 99% sure he's cheating on me so since he's not going to stop & I can't afford to leave I was wondering if you could give me some advice when would be the best time to bring this up?

I know this may possibly be a serious question, but it reminds me of a scene I saw in 'Cashmere Mafia' last night; one of the women in this mafia found out about her hubby cheating and with who, and they were attending a charity event. The MC was doing a little intro speech about honouring a certain woman at the event (her) and as he was talking, she leaned closer to her hubby and said 'I know about (mistress's name)' with a complete composed face. He had to try and keep a blase face in front of everyone in the room, he just calmly said 'I'm sorry, what can I do?' she said 'Look around this room to all our friends...do it' (he looks around) 'I'm going to be taking one of them as a lover, I'm going to do things with him that would make your toes curl. Then I will end it and we can start a clean slate all over again' Then she gets up to accept her award. It was just cool watching how calm cool and collected she was and also how dominant she was in a situation like that. Tit for tat I guess.

Well, like stated you are not 100% sure. So, be a woman with respect for herself and confidence and confront him in! Why would you want to be in an open relationship? Do you not think you deserve better, love, respect, admiration, and lets not forget you are not only dealing with mental/emotional stress, but physical harm by sleeping with him and suspecting he has or is with another woman/women!!!

Personally, Now is the best time to bring it up, and if you are right LEAVE!!!!!!!!!!! Stay with a friend, realative, co-worker who ever; and that way you are leaving with your respect and PRIDE.... which he will have niether. If he is cheating let the little whore have him!!!

99% is not 100%.....wait til you have it all then, its time for a serious sitdown sofa talk....