Do you mean she found out that you like porn,or did she find you looking at porn? If she just found out,then I would say that she acting pretty childish,if she found you looking at it,then I think that you are being disrespectful to your wife's feelings,if you knew how much she hated it....

I dealt with the same thing early on in my marriage....told him how I felt and that was the end of it. No porn in the house....I am not so naive to think he doesn't look at it at work or wherever but I don't want to know about it either. Makes me ill to think he does though.

well, which is more important to you? Her or the porn? Sometimes you have to make sacrifices for love, especially if something hurts the other partner. Know that she feels it's a replacement for her and she is very threatned and hurt by it. If she says it's cheating to her, then that's quite a painful thing for her to experience.

Are you watching it, or is she just upset that you think it's okay? There could be a huge difference there.

If you love her and want to be with her that much and you see it's bothering her that much then maybe you should quit watching it! I can see why she wouldn't want you to touch her because I kinda went through the same thing with my man, it made me feel like I wasn't good enough for him because he was watching all these pretty, skinny, and naked girls...

I can understand where your wife is coming from, i have had the same kind of talk with my partner, and in m case i felt that the porn was more important than me and he preffered it to me so i can understand how hurt your wife is, i dont mind if my man looks at porn just dont do it when im in the house, and most certainly dont talk about it!

Explain to her that she is far more important than the porn, and sit down and have an adult conversation about it, to find out exactly what she is feeling!

Here is a painful truth: In the eyes of your wife, you cheated on her. You can't convince her otherwise.

Make your choice: you or her. A lot men wreck families and marriages over porn. Don't be a statistic, be stronger than that.

It's just porn. The makers of it don't care about you like your wife does. I don't blame her for not touching you. You knew how she felt and did it anyway. Live with the consequences.

Suck it up and be a man - dump the porn.

I understand how your wife feels,I hate porn and my hudband knows that I do.I've tried to meet him half way and watch it with him but thats still not enough.I dont know if you still watch it or not.But if you do and your wife finds out you have she will feel more upset.It's not enough that she feels like she is lacking something you desire.It will make her feel like her feelings dont matter.It's all about you in other words.Another thing you may not have thought about is that she may not be withholding sex to punish you but to save her own feelings.What I mean is that if she is hurting and upset over this then all it would take to make her feel worse is for you to say something while having sex that she thinks sounds like something from a porn.It can make her feel like your thinking about someone in the flick.Then she is no longer in the mood or just completly turned off.Thats my thoughts on it anyways.I will say one thing though.If men took half the time on there partners as they do looking at porn I dont think there would be as many women that hate porn.See alot of guys can take hours looking and searching for porn but then they dont take any time to talk to there partners.Women need to have a connection with there partners.Where most of the time a man just wants the sex as long as he is happy he thinks the woman is happy.So heads up guys thats not always the case.

Seems to me you have a few choices (if you really felt comfortable with "dumping all the porn" as an option you wouldn't be asking this question).

1) Give up all your porn and demonstrate to your wife that this is so. Chances are this is the lose-lose solution for you, because she sounds like the kind of childish person to hold a grudge and continue to deny you sex unless you further kowtow to her future unrealistic demands, but you'll at least get to kiss her and sleep in the same bed.

2) Don't give up the porn, but go through elaborate disguises and trickery to convince your wife that you have given up the porn. This is probably the best solution, especially if your wife continues to withhold sex on a grudge. Retaining your porn collection (DVDs hidden under loose floorboards, computer video files in password-protected directories, magazines hidden in encyclopedias, etc.) means you will continue to have sexual options if/when she denies you sex for having done something she didn't like in your past.

3) Divorce her and find a woman who likes porn. Probably a bad idea, as like with #1 it involves overreacting to the situation as badly as she did.

Personally I have to wonder about a woman who thinks that you viewing a pornographic image of a woman who is nowhere near you and would never consider hopping into bed with you in full Victorian neck-to-ankle clothing (let alone naked), is *identical* to her holding a real live naked muscular flesh and blood man in her arms and allowing him to perform multiple sexually immoral acts on her helpless naked body, forcing her to new heights of submissiveness to his masculine power, and preventing her from achieving her own sexual release until he permits her to do so (uh, oh, I just made you view porn...don't let her know, okay?). So much so that she wants to punish you as if you had done something similar with another woman. Such childishness could lead to her thinking your porn viewing is "permission" for her to run off and play with another man (if she hasn't already done so...).

I don't blame your wife. That is totally disgusting. If I were her...I would either be leaving or you would be leaving. I am sure you have not thought about how hurt your wife is and I am sure you don't know the horrible things she is feeling about herself...and I am sure you are so wrapped up in that garbage that you don't see your marriage is going to hell. Very selfish on your part.