My friend said, if you choke and stuff your doing the oral wrong. i do gag reallllllly bad and i do choke sometimes. does that mean im doing it wrong? how do you do it right for it to go in your mouth more?

Would you stick a luscious, yummy, and absolutely divine scoop of strawberry ice-cream directly into the deepest confines of your throat? No! You wouldn't, right? You would savour it, lick it ever so gently, enjoy each and every stroke of your tongue against its smooth, silky surface; well, think of your guys penis as that tempting scoop of strawberry ice-cream and.., well, I hope you'll now know what to do next...

Judging by your questions here, you're farily new to the world of sexual relationships. Do yourself a favor -- go slowly. Sex can be an intimate exchange and bonds a relationship. It can also be deadly and change your life forever. Always, always, always use protection and keep in mind that you can contract an STD through oral sex.

Not everyone will have the same 'talents' with regard to oral sex. And while popular culture would have women believe they should be bottomless pits, there are ways to offer pleasure without being uncomfortable. There are techniques you can research online to add pleasurable stimulus through subtlety.

And talk to your boyfriend about what he likes. That will help you refine your techniques even more. You should both find sex pleasurable, so keep the doors of communication open.

You have to learn to control your gag reflex. Here's a link that might help.

http://www.ehow.com/how_2098053_control-gag-reflex.html

Your friend is wrong in saying that there is a "right and wrong" way to do it. It's up to you to decide how you're comfortable doing it.

For instance, I'm a guy and I like it when they gag during deepthroat, it really turns me on. Does it get the job done as far as the girl taking it deep? You bet, plus the gagging which makes it even better! So choking it down is not an "incorrect" way of doing it, so long as you don't mind it, and especially if he likes it that way. Because it does work.