ANSWERS: 10
  • Leave him. If you know what is good for you. That's a controlling tactic. And a nasty one. People who directly say that don't usually actually do it. And, besides, it wouldn't be your fault even if he did. You can't be held emotionally hostage. No one can accept that. No one should.
  • Its a form of control, the chance he would do this is next to nothing. Get rid and tell him you don't appreciate being blackmailed like this. Hopefully he wont try the same line on someone else.
  • get out now. He is trying to control you. It is in your best intrest to go, and it won't beyour fault if he follows though on his threat. It is just a scare tactic to get you to stay.
  • DrPhil is right! He is TRYING to hold you hostage! I have NEVER understood why anyone would want to try and force someone to stay, that didn't want to be there. He is also right when he says MOST of the ones who threaten suicide, never do it. My wifes old boyfriend did the same thing, yet he didn't go thru with it! BUT, tragically, a VERY small number do. Regardless, this is NOT your fault or your problem. It is his. He MAY need help, but it's not your responsibility to get it for him. Get out, and go on with your life. If you don't, you are in for a lot of misery.
  • Yikes! This is very scary,... for just maybe you had better call someone, even if it's your folks or a big brother. When some say things such as this, they mean sometimes, killing more than just themselves. The percentage is low though,... but why take the chance?
  • He appears to be reaching for a "domination point" to use as a manipulation tool. Get out! You may consider telling him that you could only love someone if they truly loved life, and anyone who would consider either suicide, killing, or any violence, has failed to earn your love and MUST be rejected ... do not bother telling him this unless you feel there is a chance of changing him and saving the relationship ... if you feel it is already over, then just leave, get a restraining order, and report his "death threat to self" to the police while you are filing for the restraining order.
  • By all means get someone else to help him, but do not attempt to do so yourself. This is blackmail, and deeply dishonorable. Tell him that, whether or not you would have done so before, you *have* to leave him now that he has made this threat. To do otherwise would be to condemn yourself to slavery.
  • leave and get help for yourself. You will probably fall for the same type of guy, boyfriend after boy friend. Break the cycle. Leave hime behind and he will survive.
  • My best friends ex boyfriend did this to her constantly so she wouldnt leave him.. Maybe you should let one of his close friends know. ?
  • As everyone else said, he's a control freak. Normal, balanced, healthy minded people don't make threats like that. Either way, he needs help. Break up with him and clue someone influential into his issues.

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