Why do some people assume you have a low self-esteem and are putting yourself down and hate your life if you say things like "I'm not the prettiest girl around" if you're a girl or "I'm not the most attractive guy around here" if you're a guy?
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Weird isn't it? Then if you say "I think I am pretty good looking" or "I'm very good at this" people say "She has tickets on herself." You can't win. :-)
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I think everyone has a special beauty...either in or out...so just ignore what people say and believe in yourself...trust me if it meakes u feel better that ur not the pretties girl around hey...why not...at least ur not lying to urself.
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I can say that "I'm not the most attractive guy around here" because I'm humble. I choose humility over arrogance. Many times people mistake humility for low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is a personality component which is lacking in individuals who have a dim view of themselves. They plod through school and the workplace with a dark cloud over their heads. It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you think you are not as good as everyone else, then you aren't and your performance will show it because you can never get beyond this self-imposed delimitation of one's inner worthiness.
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We all can't be the prettiest girl or most attractive guy around. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging the truth.
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In this world there will always be people prettier, smarter, braver, and there will always be people uglier ( I dislike that word) , less intelligent and more cowardly, the point is we are who we are and frankly if we can admit our faults and still like ourselves we are doing ok in my book.
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Well if you are saying something neg about yourself that will be an assumption that you wish you were better in a certain area---we all have self esteem in some mannor of life. We all wish we could improve in---esteem helps motivate us to improve.
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I personally think it's just being modest, and I hate when people tell me I have a low self-esteem just because I'm not conceited.
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I think people say "low self-esteem" because when one has low self esteem it is exactly those types of things that people say. Self esteem is in the most basic sense "how much respect one has for one's self" or in even simpler terms.. its what you think of yourself. So if you say you don't think you are the prettiest girl or most attractive guy, then you basically have a low opinion of yourself and your looks. It does not mean that you don't think of yourself as capable or smart or any other trait, but in your own opinion, you feel as if you are less than other around you. That is what low self esteem is. With all that said... of course people will take this to the extreme, you could just be modest in your self assesment, but people will assume the worst in most cases.
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People are merely reacting to what you are telling them. They don't really assume anything. Unless they know you personally, they have no idea of how you really are. Just saying that around someone might not cause them to think that way, without some kind of emotion on your part. Most people not only listen, but look when speaking and the combination usually helps people to draw the conclusions they do. It's human nature.
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It is amazing, but it happens just like you say. If you tell someone something wonderful about yourself, you can be just as disappointed. Don't praise or blame yourself for faults. Be the example you wish to display and don't worry about them.
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most people dont neccesaraly have low self estem that say that. however they do want attention. why eles would you say it.
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There's always gonna be someone who's prettier than you, relatively speaking. It goes without saying. What would you accomplished by telling someone the obvious? It would appear that you had unspoken physical issues with your appearance.
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Depends on your definition of pretty, what's pretty to someone could be that fact that a guy/girl is smart, or has a cute laugh. There is no one prettier/attractive than anyone else for everyone's definition is different.
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