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by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on December 28th, 2007

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Do men who feel they aren't (loved, appreciated, lusted after) at home feel the need to obtain some stamp of approval from any woman just so they can feel desirable or have a positive self-image?

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  • by greywolf on March 9th, 2008

    greywolf

    Yes, but it isn't just men. Women are just as likely to seek out that form of validation to boost their esteem if they aren't getting it at home.

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  • by Drastic on December 28th, 2007

    Drastic

    They should just speak up and say something like, "I don't feel appreciated! Where's the love, woman?"

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  • by the VP wears a Wicked COAT on August 5th, 2008

    the VP wears a Wicked COAT

    I would say that most men need to be "stroked" and if they're not getting it from their S/O, they can easily turn to another who will. Relationships for women can be complicated but for men, it's pretty easy...if you stimulate their mind, body and soul, they're yours forever.

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  • by Anonymous on September 20th, 2008

    Anonymous

    Yes. Men need to be told that they are "the man" just like a woman needs to be told that she is beautiful. Men want to feel desired just like a woman does. We like it if our s/o initiated love making sometimes. If a man's inner needs aren't met, it makes it alot easier for another woman to come in and tell him everything he wants to hear. Then an affair begins.

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  • by Anonymous on December 28th, 2007

    Anonymous

    As humans..men and women...we all need to feel appreciated, loved and praised.

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  • by TrickHBD on December 28th, 2007

    TrickHBD

    definately......some men who are happy at home, still find the need to flirt....they don't cheat, but just get the confidence boost

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  • by Pete Parker on August 5th, 2008

    Pete Parker

    I would say always. Men want to feel they still on top of their game at home with the missus or companion. Yeah we might get old and fat but we still need loving from their partner. I definately think it works both ways. Too many partners instead search elsewhere to feel appreciated. Not cool.

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  • by gtravels loves her life penguin on December 28th, 2007

    gtravels loves her life penguin

    They might feel alot of things, but if they are truly men, they will discuss and work on these issues with their spouse and not outside the relationship.

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  • by Joshk29 on November 7th, 2008

    Joshk29

    I think that loving a man can be difficult for women because they, like men, love the way that they want to be loved. As a man, its simple to love us. Keep it simple: tell us that we are not only the man, but your man, keep yourself in shape and respect us. Think of what it would take for another woman to attract us and then be the other woman. Cut the nagging. Seriously, do you really think that telling me somehting 30 times will improve the likelihood of it being done? As much as you may hate it, we need your constant approval, much like what our mothers would provide. Save the candles and other ambiance

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  • by CMK10131980 on November 7th, 2008

    CMK10131980

    well yes we are human after all, if we feel as if our mate does not love and or aprciate us and to spite our best efforts are not recieving said validation it does effect our self esteem, and it may drive a man to look for that validation else where.


    I believe any person would. I pernsonly make it a point to do 3 things every day. 1) kiss my wife
    2) tell her she is pretty, sexy etc
    3) tell her I love her

    and I am sure she feels loved

    well guys need it to :P

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  • by Fella on November 7th, 2008

    Fella

    I think it's more to do with the male ego then a feeling of appreciation. It may sound silly but guys egos are incredibly important (although they may not even know it!) and also very fragile.

    A guy needs to feel like he is a he-man to his partner. He needs to know she wants him, lusts after him and (funnily enough) respects him more then any other man. If he doesn't get that feeling his ego will hurt and he will feel depressed etc. It's that that will drive him to look for another woman to re-stroke his ego.

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  • by MrsMJJackson on November 16th, 2010

    MrsMJJackson

    This is actually totally true men do need to feel loved. Make a long story short my boyfriend now husband when we first started dating would be calling me everyday 3x a day and all times of the night. He would say how he wanted 2 hear my voice and hear me say I love him. In the beginning of our relationship I was nonchalant I wouldn't say I Love you back because i didn't want him 2 think that I was vulnerable and needy and scare him away. H e would try to tell me how he felt about me or hold my hand and I would answer him with a joke or call him a wuss. I HAD NO CLUE that men are sooo sensitive he told me finally that it hurt his feelings when I acted like that and that in the beginning of the relationship he was almost ready to walk away because he wasn't getting the love, attention, affection he needed. Needless to say I shaped up real fast and it worked because we are married and ecstatically happy now together. And I tell him how adorable, how handsome, how sweet he is and how lucky I am to have a husband like him and how special he makes me feel everyday. B4 I always assumed that men didn't need all that stuff that as long u did what they wanted or asked 4 in the sheets that was good enough boy oh boy I was dead wrong.

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  • by paulhalonen on March 5th, 2009

    paulhalonen

    If the woman is doing the mans job, then the men feel.. what am I here for. It doesn't matter anymore you can do it without me. Women want to feel cherished when men need to feel that the effort they put in is acknowleged and that they are needed in the womens life. When they do somthing that made their woman smile and showed grattitude, that is all they want. Then the feel that they matter but if they get back... is that all? or now go do this... then whats the point... am I a slave?

    It is a fact of life!!!

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  • by Jane on November 7th, 2008

    Jane

    i think thats what it all comes down to when PEOPLE cheat

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  • by AnonymousGirl on November 7th, 2008

    AnonymousGirl

    That's pretty selfish, whether it is true or not.

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  • by kiwisoccer on December 9th, 2008

    kiwisoccer

    Yes esp if you stop having sex on the reguler
    Just like if a b/f stops lusting or telling how beautify and sexy his g/f is

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