Growing up, I've realized that many adults don't think young people are able to love others in a romantic kind of way. At what age would you say is the age that a person is able to start loving another person in that sort of way?
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Just depends on the person. I fell in love a week after I turned 17. REAL love. It still hurts to this day that we arent together and its been over ayear now. Im 20 now BTW
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Age 17-19 is better--because you have a chance to experience what romance is and is not early. Adult are only protective b/c they dont want to see you hurt like they may have experienced. Romance is special when you let it come slowly--dont rush it---its better when it comes unaware fro someone you waited awhile for.
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I fell in love with my sons dad at 14, he was my first true love & the first deep hurt I felt when it didn't work out. Later as an adult we got back together & had my son together but again it didn't work out but I still have a soft spot in my heart for the love I once felt for him.
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Speaking as an elderly adult....and watching my own children and grandchildren fall in and out of 'love'.....I am experienced enough to know that what young people feel, altho' intense sometimes, is often hormonal....it is biological...., crushes....infatuation. The reason I can say this is that most of these 'serious' love interests fade over time. You will survive the break-up of a passionate first love. Therefore, my answer to you is that a 'real' love endures waaaaaay past the romantic stage...and for that to happen hormones need to have settled down...so 19 to 23 approx. is when a person is biologically mature enough to begin to 'trust' their emotions regarding another person.
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The one answer of 14 is so wrong, you may have feelings of love and caring at that age but it isn't true love at that young of an age, it's more of a crush than anything. Your body is way to chemically imbalanced with hormones gushing to know what true love is at that age. Now that I can look back 20+ years to my first girlfriend, I'd have to say somewhere around the 18+ range is when you truly know what love is and means. When I broke up with my high school sweetheart and fell in love with my now ex-wife, I really knew I was in love with her. It's not something you can ever put into words but it's a feeling in your heart and soul that you just know.
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Did you know: that in the first two years of ANY relationship... NO MATTER WHAT AGES THE COUPLE the feelings the couple have for each other are caused by endorphans. So the first two years is simply enfatuation and chemicals in the brain. Once you get past those two years and still have those strong feelings... then its love. So in my opinion, anyone can fall in love, after they have been together for more than two years... ;-)
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As soon as you know what love is, we have some family friends who are married and have been "together" since kindergarten.
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When there are no more boundaries are restrictions due to your age, when you can truly get a chance to get out and see what you might be missing. Not to say you can't have feelings for people but in hindsight you will see they were mostly crushes.
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Maybe you misunderstood. It's not that children can't love others in a romantic way, it's just that they are not mature enough to know which of their feelings are caused by hormones, and which are actual long lasting feelings. It is very true that children love. The hard part is knowing what "kind" of love it is, and to even realize that there are several different kinds.
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early to mid 20s.. when life starts getting serious and you realize that your success and your ability to become independent is more important than your selfish desires. You think about the future, how you can support a family and who would be the perfect spouse to help you raise your children. If you can't make sacrifices or compromises, then it isn't love, that's just short term baloney and a waste of precious time..but if you're willing to make those sacrifices and compromises through thick and thin and still manage to stay together.. then for me that is love. Either that, or some damn good endurance. or..whenever you start to realize the difference between an overwhelmingly passionate crush and someone who you love as much as your own mother in a way that you would never stop caring for them even if they misjudged you. Because in the end, they're all you've got when your material possessions are taken away.
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I think anyone can fall in love. I dont think you can really generalise it, there will always be exceptions. It depends on the mental maturity of the two people i suppose? I'm in love with my bf of 1 and a half years, you just know. Just my opinion anyway =] I suppose not really 10 year olds in a romantic kinda way though haha.
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I think people can love, love is real no matter what age at which it is experienced... the problem is all the other changes going on around you. The younger you are, the more changing and growing you have ahead of you; there's no way to predict whether you will grow together or apart. You can swear to only grow together but ultimately that's not controllable. It's easier to love and stay in love when you are older because your personality is not constantly changing - the person you love, and who loves you is much more stable.
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