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  • comfront them and explain why you are feeling in a particualar way,bring in examples/evidence of certain- things-doings that is upsetting you from certain reactions and behaviour they are showing.. Communicating and expressing what u feel is essential and it should make a biig difference, am sure they will understand but mostly acknowledge what you are saying... i hope this has helped.. Good luck!
  • I am not one on confrontation so I just deal with it...which is NOT the way to handle it. I hope you would be able to ask them if you had done something to upset them or maybe they just "didn't think"....sometimes that is all it is....they just weren't thinking.
  • I deal with the fact that everyone doesn't have to love me. LOL
  • simple...just dont give a damn..But have to re-think why there must be a reason behind the isolation...say sorry if its 'my' mistake but seriously, dont give a damn if they think isolation is a new way to have fun...hehe
  • I choose to be slighted and left out by friends(not you guys)neighbors and relatives.The only people I owe my life to is my mom and dad and nobody else. Other than them, the rest of my so called family can kiss my ass.
  • things like that can never bother.i am myself when i am alone.now that i've quit drinking,i am very unsocialable. i have all the friends i need right here on AB but would feel sad if someone just pissed on me.
  • I treat them the same way the next time I see them when I'm with friends & if they say anything I would say how does that make you feel???? Now you know how I felt...
  • By learning to accept yourself as you are, without judgment. You are unique, absolutely perfect in the Universe, just as you are. And so is everyone else. We all create our own reality. If you recognize your own greatness, and can fully accept it, then nobody can "slight" you. They are just acting as they are. It is you who have decided you were slighted. You can just as easily feel yourself honored to have been excluded from what you know will be a dull and boring experience. Nobody can slight you. You can only do that to yourself.
  • Ha! Well I guess I have not mastered that. Was slighted by my mother day before yesterday. It was a huge hurt...but life goes on.
  • LOL ok maybe tomorrow..
  • I have become even more of a loner since Peter has been gone so I am quite happy not to be invited anywhere. In fact I am becoming so bad I am affronted if people suggest visiting me.
  • Find something else to do or find out if you pissed someone off somehow..
  • In my opinion, it will differ based on the relationship. A "friend" - if they are really a friend, then confront them. There may be a misunderstanding or something that needs to be worked through if you value the friendship. A "neighbor" - it will probably depend on the situation that you were slighted/left out. If they invited the entire neighboorhood over except you - I would ask why (maybe through another neighbor if you don't feel comfortable approaching the neighbor that slighted you) If it was something less dramatic - maybe it was just a lapse in judgment. I would let it pass and next time you have a get together be sure to invite them. A "relative" - that gets a little more tricky and probably deserves some investigation as to what/why/who etc. Normally if a relative is slighting you, there is an issue that needs to be addressed. Hope this helps!
  • I have had this many many times. I think it is because people assume that I cannot attend because of my son being autistic, or they feel uncomfortable with autism. I understand it, and I am not offended by it.
  • It depresses me.
  • 1. ask yourself why you have such a feeling; do you suffer from low self-esteem, or lack self-confidence, and/or, 2. ask the other person if you have made an unintended faux pas.
  • Everyone has that feeling at some time or another. When you are younger it bothers you more. As you get older, you get to where you could care less. If it's a close friend just ask them if they intended to do whatever it was and tell them it hurt your feelings.
  • I guess I realize, it's not all about me. Not everyone will or has to like us. Keep it to yourself b/c confronting someone on this particular issue just makes things awkward. People should "want" to be your friend or want to hang out with you. The people who truly accept you for who you are will want to spend time with you and make the effort to do so.

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