Well, i do notice that he strogly believe his religion and it's very unfair for me to ask him to convert when he don't believe it. For me, i believe with islam although i'm not so religious. England? Are you sure we can get marry there without him to convert?

Forgot to tell you that he's living in Thailand and i live in Malaysia.

I don't wanna sound like a sayer of nay here, and I will likely get docked points...but honestly...if he isn't a muslim and isn't going to convert, and you are a muslim, and practice...you can't get married anyway. Country has nothing to do with it since God>nation and God said no to the whole thing. If you still feel that you should get married and that you know better than God does about it, I guess you would be saying that you don't believe in what the Qu'ran says and that would make you a non-muslim..then it wouldn't matter where you got married. Sorry to sound like a jerk, but that's just how I feel about it

If you are adults, you can probably get married anywhere you want in a civil ceremony. Marriage laws are not all based on religion. The most important part is that you both should live in the same place. As long as he is in one country, and you are in a different country, you cannot get married.

memang susah nak dijawab kat sini semua islam ker? jawapan macam pelik jer

bismillaahi; wal-Hamdu-lillaahi; was Salaatu was-salaamu `alaa ashraf al-mursaleen sayyidunaa muhammad wa `alaa aalihi wa Sahbihi tasleeman katheeraa... `amma ba`d... <<< translation >>> (in the name of allaah; and all praises belong to allaah; and prayers and peace be upon the noble, the seal, master muhammad and upon his family and companions be much peace... to proceed...) <<< end >>> The prophet muhammad عليه الصلاة و السلام said: " إسلام الدينٌ نسيحه " "islaam is the deen (way/religion) of advice" so we understand from this together with the fact that allaah COMMANDS us in the qur'aan to forbid evil and enjoin good and the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said that if we see an evil we are to stop it first with out hands and if we cannot then we must stop it with our tongue and if we cannot then we must at least keep it in our hearts that this thing is an evil and is not good for us. Firstly, it is 100% Haraam (forbidden) for a muslim female to marry a non-muslim, as allaah says in the qur'aan: وَلاَ تَنْكِحُواْ ٱلْمُشْرِكَاتِ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنَّ وَلأَمَةٌ مُّؤْمِنَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكَةٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَتْكُمْ وَلاَ تُنْكِحُواْ ٱلْمُشِرِكِينَ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنُواْ وَلَعَبْدٌ مُّؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْ أُوْلَـٰئِكَ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى ٱلنَّارِ وَٱللَّهُ يَدْعُوۤاْ إِلَى ٱلْجَنَّةِ وَٱلْمَغْفِرَةِ بِإِذْنِهِ وَيُبَيِّنُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ "...and do not marry al-mushrikaat (idolatresses, etc.) till they believe (worship allaah alone). and indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) mushrikah (idolatress, etc.), even though she (the idolatress) pleases you..." which means even men are forbidden from marrying polyutheists (pagans, ie. buddhists, hindus, etc)... and the verse translation continues: "...and give not (your daughters) in marriage to al-mushrikoon till they believe (in allaah alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) mushrik (idolater, etc), even though he pleases you..." and we see here that the muslim men are being COMMANDED by allaah NOT to allow their daughters to marry non-muslim men! and the verse translation ends: "...they (al-mushrikoon / polytheists) invite you to the fire (of hell), but allaah invites (you) to paradise and forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc) clear to mankind that they may remember." (2:221) and here, in this final part of the translation you can understand that allaah is saying to marry a polytheist is something that will take you to hellfire and to abstain from doing so and to follow allaah's commands will eventually lead us to paradise. Hell and paradise have been mentioned here in this verse right after the command not to marry polytheists and not to allow the muslim women to marry polytheists in order to point to the fact that doing so is one of the things that leads away from paradise as well as towards the eternal fire of hell. For your benefit i have here an exerpt from an English translation of tafseer al-jalaalayn about 2:221: "this was revealed as a rebuttal of the idea that it was shameful to marry a slavegirl and that it was better to marry an idolatress free woman; though you may admire her, because of her beauty and wealth: this provision excludes the womenfolk of the People of the Scripture (as indicated by the verse [Q. 5:5], [lawful to you] are the chaste women among those who were given the Scripture). And do not marry, off believing women to, idolaters, until they believe. A believing slave is better than an idolater, though you may admire him, for his wealth and good looks. Those, the people of idolatry, call to the Fire, because they invite one to perform deeds that merit this, and for this reason one should not marry with them; and God calls, through the voice of His prophets, to Paradise and pardon, that is, to the deeds that merit these two, by His leave, by His will, so that His call may be heeded by marrying with His friends; and He makes clear His signs to the people so that they might remember, [that] they [might] be admonished." and an exerpt from an English translation of tanweer al-miqbaas min tafseer ibn `abbaas about 2:221 also: "This was revealed about Marthad Ibn Abi Marthad Al-Ghanawi who wanted to marry an idolatress woman by the name of 'Inaq. Allah prohibited such marriage, saying: do not marry idolatresses women (till they believe) in Allah; (for lo! A believing bondwoman) marrying a believing slave woman (is better than an idolatress) who is a free woman (though she pleases you) though you may like her comeliness and beauty; (and give not your daughters in marriage to idolaters till they believe) in Allah, (for lo! A believing slave) Allah says: giving your daughters in marriage to a believing slave (is better than an idolater) is better than your daughter marrying an idolater who is free (though he pleases you) though his body and strength may please you. (These invite unto the Fire) they invite to disbelief and to works that lead to hell, (and Allah inviteth unto the Garden) by means of His divine Oneness, (and unto forgiveness) through repentance (by His grace) by His leave, (and He expoundeth thus His revelations) His commands and prohibitions regarding marriage (to mankind that they may remember) so that they may take admonition and refrain from unlawful marriage." The first post was correct, but i must also point out that having boyfriend/girlfriend relationships is also Haraam and is one of the major sins. The punishment for this sin is mentioned in the qur'aan where is says 100 lashings (with a whip) for the one caught fornicating (practising unmarried sexual intercourse). My advice to you is that your eemaan (faith) is at an all-time LOW!!! Seek the aid of allaah by drawing nearer to Him through obeying His commands, reading more qur'aan, studying islaam more in-depth, remembrance of allaah, charitable acts, good deeds in general, good character, putting allaah before anything and putting the messenger of allaah before all human beings in your heart and through your actions... One of the attributes of allaah is "ar-raheem" (The Most Merciful). The exegesis' of the qur'aan say about this the attribute "ar-rahmaan" (The Oft-Forgiving) that this is allaah's mercy for ALL human beings on earth, especially when they cry out to Him whether they are believers or not; and they say about the attribute "ar-raheem" that this is allaah's mercy which is strictly reserved for the believers on judgment day and the disbelievers/unbelievers will not get allaah's mercy on this day... My advice to you at this stage would be that, as well as maintaining all the basics of islaam (ie. the belief in the shahaadah, the 5 daily obligatory prayers along with the two compulsory sunnah prayers of fajr & witr, fasting, charity, pilgrimage, etc), you make remembrance of allaah after every prayer by reciting "astaghfirullaaha astaghfirullaah astaghfirullaaha, allaahumma antas-salaamu wa minkas-salaamu, yaa thal-jalaali wal-`ikraam" once followed by His attribute "ar-raheem" (The Most Merciful, ie. for the believers only) 100 times, then the shahaadah as follows "ash-hadu an laa ilaaha illa'llaah, wa ash-hadu an na muhammadur-rasoolullaah" 100 times followed by "Sallaa'llaahu `alayhi wa sallam" after every ten times (ie. so every tenth time it should be recited as "ash-hadu an laa ilaaha illa'llaah, wa ash-hadu an na muhammadur-rasoolullaah, Sallaa'llaahu `alayhi wa sallam")... The first du`aa after the prayer, which i have advised you to make, is a sunnah and the remembrance of allaah using the attribute "ar-raheem" is indicated towards in the qur'aan wherein allaah says that we should remember Him by His NAMES (not name, but nameS - plural) excessively, so if you remember allaah using this attribute of His and pondering over its meaning (whilst at the same time keeping in mind that it is IMPOSSIBLE to clearly understand the complexity of allaah's attributes and whatever we can imagine in our created minds then that is far from our Lord because He is exalted above being realised by our limited minds except at a very simplistic level) and it is hoped that by remembering allaah using this particular attribute your heart shall be softened and you will find yourself being drawn nearer to allaah and away from doing the thing He has forbidden and instead striving to do all that He has commanded as well as acomplishing as many extra good deeds at the same time... The final form of remembrance of allaah which i have instructed you in is not explicitly found in the qur'aan or sunnah but is composed of things from the qur'aan and sunnah and has been found to have a good effect on the character of a believer and the desire of the believer to draw nearer to allaah feeling thankful for the guidance given by Him alone... I hope you will return to the path that all muslims have been commanded to adhere to by allaah, as allaah says in the qur'aan (translation): "...hold tight to the rope of allaah (the qur'aan and the sunnah) all TOGETHER (ie. cling tightly to islaam and do not be divided amongst yourselves)..." I ask you "WHAT is wrong with just marrying a good practising muslim man???" Secondly i ask you "Do you REALLY believe in islaam and do you REALLY love and fear allaah and love His messenger???" Thirdly i ask "Do you actually WANT paradise in the next life? In fact, do you even believe in paradise and hell or the judgment day or the afterlife in any way at all???" If you do love and fear allaah and love His messenger and believe in islaam and everything about it then you should have no problem giving up your Haraam relationship for the sake of allaah and repenting (pray two rak`aat of prayer seeking allaah's forgiveness sincerely with the firm intention not to repeat that sin again) and being a good muslimah from that moment... You can call this japanese man to islaam as long as you do not spend time alone with him. Maybe, inshaa'llaah, if you do seperate with him for the sake of allaah and you explain why to him then he will be drawn towards islaam by starting to look into it (you should encourage him to do this at the time you explain the reason your relationship must end at least for the time being and that you can marry him if he sincerely accepts islaam and practises it devoutly)... This should be done via the internet and if you get any bad desires then you should remember allaah and remember that He knows and sees ALL... When we avoid bad deeds that we are tempted to do then we are rewarded for having not done the bad deed... If he accepts islaam then you should both strive to be good muslims and seek further knowledge from those qualified to teach you about islaam... and allaah knows best... *musa al-Hanafi*

boyfriend / girlfriend relationships are 100% FORBIDDEN and constitute zina (fornication), which is punishable by 100 lashings of the whip publically and this is an expiation of the sinful act for the believer in the afterlife. Fornication is a MAJOR cause of SEVERE corruption in society on a massive scale and results in so many problems which are best not encountered in the first place (therefore, the 100 lashings acts as a deterrent for the majority of people frightening them into not committing this act, but although the punishment will effectively act as a deterrent for most people it will not do so for all and therefore there will always be some people who will face this punishment in an islamic state serving as an example and reminder to onlookers). SINCERELY REPENT TO ALLAAH FOR YOUR CRIMES AND BEG HIM FOR HIS MERCY AND FORGIVENESS... CHANGE YOUR WAYS... I URGE YOU TO GIVE UP TAKING THE KUFFAAR AS YOUR INFLUENCIAL FIGURES WITH THEIR EVIL WAYS THAT SPREAD CORRUPTION IN EVERY PLACE THEY TREAD... I URGE YOU TO STUDY ISLAAM PROPERLY UNDER A QUALIFIED `AALIM... DO WHAT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO AND DO NOT MERELY TAKE LIFE AS A MERE AMUSEMENT AND GAME...

You can get a civil marriage in UK. He do not need to renounce his Buddhist belief and you do not need to renounce your Islamic belief. You can keep religion out of it.

Religion is unimportant in life except for the fanatics. You can marry in Australia or Europe or the Americas with no problem. Ignore the fanatics. They only make life painful and difficult instead of happy and enjoyable.