by help me on December 12th, 2007

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I was with my boyfriend for almost 4 years & he broke up with me a month ago.I'm going to see him for the first time & want to ask him alot of questions to find closure or get him back .Can u please give me a list of questions that i should ask him?

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by - M.C.S. - Dave on December 12th, 2007
Come right out and just ask him whats on your Heart..........M.C.S.
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by sexy girl on August 30th, 2008
after 4 years he has not tried to contact you by Letter, phone, E-mail nothing thats your answer right there. Sometimes people can say a lot by saying nothing at all. if u know what i mean
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by help me on December 14th, 2007
what exactly does the person who broke up with you go through after the break up if you both had a good relationship? what are they feelings and how many times do they wonder if they might have made the wrong choice? and i am connecting this to my question that i wrote about my ex of 4 years and how i want to ask him alot of questions... thats my question
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by Anonymous on December 12th, 2007
Just ask why he broke up with you. It sounds like his feelings for you have changed. Perhaps he met someone else. Just ask him to be honest and then you accept what he has to say. Just remember you can not make anyone love you.
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by FallenMan on December 12th, 2007
You havent really given a lot of info, such as why you broke up and such but heres what would probably help.

First off its normal for people to want to know what happened when things end, so you will be justified with this as your background if you do ask questions.

*Why did you break up with me? This is the most important question you could ask, it determines if it was your fault, if theres emotions still there, if you have a chance etc etc etc.

*Do you ever miss us? Depeneding on the way you carry yourself and the ending of this relationship this question can be a suicide or a very good question. If he misses you or still wants to be with you then he will see this as an opportunity to confess feelings for you. If he was irritated by you or ddoes not like you anymore he may embarassingly tell you no or he will bluntly and harshly tell you no.

*Find out what hes been up to. Its normal for people to want to look for new people right after breaking up with someone, IF they arnt feeling bad about it. They will enjoy the single life but then they will get over it after awhile. If hes looking for new girls you may have lost your chance.

There are plenty of questions to ask but you just have to kind of see their reactions and know what theyre feeling. Sometimes its just as hard for a girl to see what a guy is feeling as it is for a guy. The best way to approach this is keep calm, dont seem anxious and dont give off the look of desperation. You dont have to act like you totally arnt into him, unless he really misses you then that could drive him nuts. If you act calm relax and well composed then itll give you the dignity to ask the questions you want to ask without giving the impression that you 'need' him. Needing people is a turn off. It makes you look clingy and like you arnt mature enough to take care of yourself, to love yourself etc etc. Dont embarass yourself. Worse thing you could do, to lose him not get him back and make him pity you, maybe even detest you. Also be ready to accept defeat. Itll soften the blow.
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by ak_spook on December 12th, 2007
first- dont ask alot, no more than 7 or 8 questions. second- just ask him straight up why? and if he says it was you, tell him you'll change and that you really want to be with him, if you still want him. third- expect the unexpected, he might say stuff you don't know or understand at the time. and lastly don't get worked up or seem desperate but show that you still love him.
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- I think this is a bad idea. If a guy wanted to be w a female that he's dated for four years, he wouldn't just leave. A person shouldn't beg a person back, and they'll "change"...chances are you won't & it'll always be rubbed in your face.
  
  Get the closure, if you need it that bad, and walk away.
  
  If a guy is not going to let you know he wants to leave, do you really want to do this again at another time in your life when your older? Or if he's actually "right" about leaving, did he drop hints, and you never got it? Those are things you need to ask yourself.
  
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  by Anonymous on December 12th, 2007
- actually many of my friends were in that situation and that worked for them. and people can change, just cause you don't think so doesn't mean they can't.
  
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  by ak_spook on March 7th, 2008
- If your with someone and they break up with you...what's the point of beating a dead horse? Honestly, what if this guy is dating someone else, and the ex has to show up at their door one night saying, "I need closure." Are ya kidding me? When they break up, thats CLOSURE.
  
  I'm not into drama.
  
  If this guy didn't tell her he wanted out to begin with there's only two possiblilities: this is a guy who just wanted out, and just left when he had the chance or he told her several times it wasn't working & she didn't get the hint. Its a sign of poor communication.
  
  It just sounds unstable to me, and thats all I'm saying.
  
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  by Anonymous on March 7th, 2008
- cause some people can act out of anger, stress, or get stuck on stupid and majority of the people are to scared, stubborn, or have to much pride to admit it. its like the phase " the road not taken" you dont know unless you try other wise you live life not knowing what coulds have been.
  
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  by ak_spook on March 8th, 2008
- After FOUR YEARS a guy wants to dump his lady and pursue other fancies...In normal relationships, after that long, you manage to become best friends and family. Burning the person who cares about you, isn't a thoughtful thing to do, and I don't think its wise to let a person like that back into your life.
  
  You are right though, it takes all kinds to make the world go round. Thanks for the conversation, ak_spook.
  
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  by Anonymous on March 9th, 2008
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