I kind of have advice from both sides of the fence on this one. As with anything, if porn is the exact reason for the problem (if he's more into in than you/would rather always just watch it and get off from it than being with you sexually then yes it's a problem). However, honey, he's a guy, and they all pretty much watch and enjoy porn. Hell I myself enjoy porn as well. Some women consider it cheating which I think is BS. Porn is not cheating. He's not involved with it, he's just enjoying it. If that were the case, Harlequin romance novels would be considered cheating from the guy's point of view lol since there are women who read, enjoy, and get off to those. Maybe you can research some porn and find some that you like yourself and have you both enjoy it/indulge in it together. My guy and I watch porn all the time and it can be good foreplay. But like I said, I don't agree with it if he needs it every single time, or 'needs' it to get horny, or ignores you when you're having sex so he can focus on the screen. It's hard to describe a balance because every couple is different. You just have to remember that guys are different, they like porn and it's just sex to them, nothing more. Sex, to some women, can mean deeper things and they may feel threatened by the porn because of this view. Most guys just get off to it then shut it down after they get off and there's no more thoughts of the women in the porn after it's done. That's the purpose of porn anyway. I think it's a good idea to sit down to have an open understanding conversation about it. Be reasonable but also express your concerns. Although I don't bash the porn, I don't agree that you should ever take a backseat to it. Good luck hun.
