Are you completely honest with your s/o about EVERYTHING?
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LeeLee Chickybabe Avenger SLAB
ANSWERS: 100
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Yes, if there is something that I wish to remain private, I will say as much.
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Depends on how they react when informed of something! I couldn't with my ex now because she would get so ovewhelmed that it turned into such an argument! Usually about my dreams or sexual preferences, some are better not told! Is it cheating.....Some would differ! Witholding things...What comes next kind of thing! Know what I mean???
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Yes, without honesty there is no relationship.
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Yes!!! but only when I'm caught in a lie.
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I was always completely honest about everything as he was with me. Neither of us belived in secrets in a relationship. Any time you hide something from your partner you breed distrust in the relationship. In the end that distrust will destroy your relationship. In fact if you feel you shouldn't tell your partner something it means you shouldn't be doing it at all.
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Most things....can't tell him his presents now, haha =)
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I never lie. But if he asks me a question that makes me uncomfortable, I just say "I don't feel comfortable talking about it right now.." Like with issues with my parents and stuff. Lying is bad, and if your relationship is based on lies then that relationship is false.
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If you can't be completely open and honest in your relationship, I can't see how there CAN be a relationship. I have always been open and honest in my relationships. I have an ex, however, who is an "ex" because she lied to everyone, and expected everyone else to lie to cover her lies (also, she was completely incapable of commitment). Lying to me was bad enough, but asking me to lie to my friends AND my family to protect her (and to hell with my objections in doing so). And yet, she seemed so shocked and hurt when I couldn't deal with that anymore and ended things.
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Of course. I have been caught before in lies and I have caught my S/O in lies as well. We both have learned that it is just so much better to tell the truth about everything than to hide stuff. The only way I see it ok to lie is when it is about a surprise, like a gift. If they ask you "what did you get me", or "how much did that cost", then it is ok to lie, just because lying about those answers can't really hurt them, at least i hope they cant. Bottom line, there is no reason to lie, just be honest about everything. If you need to hide something from your S/O, its probably not something you should have done or gotten yourself into in the first place. It is always better to tell the truth up front about whatever it is and have your S/O hurt at first(if it is something that could hurt them) rather than for you to lie about it, risk getting caught, and then having it hurt a million times more when they find out.
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well i lost my s/o in the ditch so i cant say. sorry.
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Honestly no There are somethings they just don't need to hear.
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Most of everyone in my life s/o included I have a don't ask don't tell policy especially with things that would hurt their feelings. If they don't ask I don't tell unless its important & neglecting it will cause harm to them or me. But for the most part I don't intentially lie to anyone about anything but I won't go out of my way to tell everything when somethings can be misconstrued & cause a fight or arguement for no reason.
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no i am not but there are somethings he wouldnt want to know...just like there are some things i would NOT want to know...even if i asked, its like...JUST LIE and say i'm the best, lol
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up to a point I am ..to much so sometimes, but somethings are best left alone
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I am brutaly honest.
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Yes.
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Nope... I constantly round down the price of my toys to the nearest $10. I don't have any other reason to stretch the truth, or lie.
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I don't lie to him if he asks me something, but I'm not forthcoming in telling him EVERYTHING...Stuff I talk about with my friends I wouldn't say in front of him, I'd never say to him that the guy I saw at the gas station was a total hottie, but he knows all the important stuff.
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No. I have some secrets that I have promised others I will never reveal. No matter how much I love and trust someone else, that someone else has to respect my right to keep those a secret and trust me that I am not hiding something bad.
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I always insist on being honest but it is up to the other if they truly are who they say they are.
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Yeah, for sure.
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yes. absolutely
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Yes
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Yes, I'm useless at trying to lie to her...
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Dude if she knew about what i do behind her back she would fucking leave
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No. There are things about me no one needs to know. There are things about her no one needs to know. I've asked her private questions that she doesn't feel comfortable answering. If it has nothing to do with US why should I impose. That's how we work, and it works great for us. She knows if she needs me...Im there implicitly, as her for me. We don't worry about, 'oh is she mad at me...oh gosh...what's she thinking', if I need to know, she'll tell me.
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Most things yes! Other things, no! I still want to be able to talk to you haha
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No. I haven't reached Buddhahood like everyone else here apparently. Really important things? Yes. I would never cheat or anything like that.
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NO, sometimes on little things I may not be, or if being honest meant hurting his feelings, but on the important stuff I am. He is most probably the same way, and as long as it causes neither of us any problems, I'm okay with it.
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Oh jeez. You kidding? What, how, who, how many exes, etc... no freakin way. What purpose does it serve except maybe to make them jealous? I speak of the important things -- the past is not so much important as the future imho :)
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You can't possible be honest in EvErYtHiNg.......One question: Honey, Does this dress make me look big?
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Yes, I feel I have to be as there is no one else I'm comfortable to open up to and I can't keep things inside. And he is such a safe, secure, sensitive listener, who never tries to solve all my problems bu tis willing to just listen if that is what I need.
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nobody is completely 100% honest about everything to everyone...including themselves
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I don't have one, but if ever, I think I would be. Lies would be exposed soon enough.
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i'm not sure if i answered this already but No i'm not.
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Hell No! You're joking right? I am never completely honest with my S/O. I want to stay happily married. If I told him the cold hard truth it would hurt him and achieve nothing but his hurt. I know that he probably doesn't tell me everything too. I love him and he loves me and I would like it to stay that way. Complete honesty and the bald truth would not help. BUT... On the big issues we do tell each other what we are thinking and if we like what is happening and such. We don't hide from any issues and we do talk about stuff and even get angry with other over things, and boy can we fight but completely honest - no way.
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Too much honesty can destroy a relationship.
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Fortunately or unfortunately depending on who you ask; I am honest to the point of being almost compulsive! So..............
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In reality...no It's thos lil white lies or those deemed insignificant that i'm not always upfront bout. But I always try to be honest. Anything that's important, has a big effect, and needs to be told, I say. It also depends on his reaction to the truth and whether it will help the relatinship or make it uneccesarily worse. Honesty is the best policy, but not always the most positive oucome policy. Careful what you choose.
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Actually no. It is hard for me to say some things that I want to say. But not because I just can't talk to him but in general it is hard for me to tell anybody what I feel or what I want so sometimes I'm not that honest but I try really hard to be so he knows most things. And he knows that sometimes I am not telling the truth because I can't.
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yes everything. i hate lies and secrets.
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No. I don't tell her the normal things men don't tell their s/o. Masturbation.... What I think about when I look at other girls.... other than that.... Every thing's the GOD's honest truth.
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I think I'm about the only honest man on here. Men masturbate, and men look at other women. Most of these men don't admit this to their women, but I'm surprised nobody is admitting this on here. Guaranteed every man on here is lying if they say they're 100% truthful to their woman.
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Yes:)
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No. But I won't lie. There are a few things that I simply do not discuss but they have no bearing on our relationship now.
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Yeah, but maybe not for long!
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If I can't be honest with my wife of many years, my best friend, then with whom can I BE honest? I share everything. She even asks what I rate different women that I ogle. Likewise, I ask her what she rates the hunks she looks at longingly.
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Yep. Communication is everything.
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I don't think it's ever right to intentionally lie to anyone, including and especially an s/o. I try to steer clear of lies. In a way, I am lying to my parents, though. They don't know I'm dating someone. I'm doing this, though, because I don't want to lose him.
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no. but i could be lying.
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Hey....Whats an s/o? Partner? Therepist? Stupid Question?
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yes, i do but thinking maybe i should not have now...
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no... i should be thow... im not like cheating on him thow, but i should def learn to be alot more honest with him about certain things
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I believe so. If he asks me about something. I'll tell him the truth. A relationship isn't much of anything without honesty and trust.
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No. The only thing that I am hiding from him is the fact that I smoke cigarettes. We both smoke cloves but they taste like shit. I would rather have my Newports but he doesn't want me smoking them because I have asthma & he is a reformed smoker. I wish I could come clean because it's eating me up having to lie to him about it, but it's hard to quit. I have tried about 25 times cold turkey & still can't kick the habit. I found a Dr. that does the "quit smoking laser treatment" for $100. I'll try that because I hate lying to him about it, but he won't budge.
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i don't lie... but some things never come up in a comversation, and maybe i prefer it like that.
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I am. In my thirtysome years of experience I have learned that the truth has a way to surface and that the world is indeed a small world after all. I would rather it come from me than he learn it from another source. He accepts me with my virtues and my faults and that is what makes our love strong.
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You know, I try not to tell him every single thing because I want to save a bit of time and get to other good stuff. But that really aggrivates him and he would rather I tell him everything about my day or how I am feeling at the moment. He listens to it all, too.
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Are you kidding? One of the keys to a successful relationship is knowing when to keep your pie hole shut. ESPECIALLY if you're a man.
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No, and no one is. If they say they are, they are lying. lol
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Oh hellllllllll no... Do I look like I want to be featured on a milk carton? I have enough secrets just under the category of "Driving too fast" to cause me to get an ass whuppin'. If she had any idea how fast I drive, she'd take a chunk of meat out of my a$$ big enough to clog a storm drain. So I just smile when she says "you got here quick!".
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I don't have an s/o. But yes, I believe honesty in relationships is very important. :D
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when i have one im completely honest with them.
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Yes. We began our friendship online by being completely honest and open, and have continued that into our marriage.
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yes, but its all about timing. if i know he's all riled about something, im not going to tell him the guy at work asked me out to dinner, guy at work knows im with someone and is just downright disrespectful like that (thats why he gets no love)... what id do is i wait for the opportunity, not a perfect day so to speak but a time where i can really speak to my s/o about things that i should tell him.
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100%
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Yes im completely honest with him.:-)+
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Yes
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well i was with my ex gf and it got me into loads of trouble. so right now i just act dumb.
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Most of the time yes, but sometimes I am guilty of withholding some of the truth or bending it slightly. Example: A few days ago, her anniversary was coming up and I had invited some friends to the best restaurant nearby without her knowledge. Furthermore a couple of weeks earlier I had ordered a rather special meal, and no-one knew anything about that. So, on the day, when she asked what I had up my sleeve I lied and said I'd forgotten everything and would just have to take her out for a meal. She was not very pleased but reluctantly accepted my offer. The surprise was fantastic.
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yes... regardless of how much she tries to teach me to lie to her I refuse to learn anything more than to not volunteer information she won't like,
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As much as I can humanly express. Perect? No. Brutally honest, definitely. It is liberating when you know there is nothing to hide and nothing to hide behind!
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yeah.. i dont hold anything back, and he doesn't either...our relationship is great
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98% that other 2% is very hurtful and doesn't need to be disclosed.
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Yes i was , there was no need not to be. Although If I was told something in confidence I would not pass it on.
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nope.......
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Yes, I think he pretty much knows everything about me. There are still some things I don't offer up unless he asks though. I'm mindful never to intentionally hurt others.
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I'm honest to my GF about everything that won't get me into trouble.
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I have been open about anything he asks me. I have even opted to give him extra information just because. I do however find myself holding back on things that wouldn't benefit either of us. S/O's don't need to know everything - I mean, I sure as heck don't wanna know everything about him. Once you know EVERYTHING about a person they become boring.
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No... I think that a little harmless secretive behavior is good for both. It implies that there is a smidge of indivisuality and privacy in your lives. As long as it is harmless and dones't involve anyone outside of the relationship in lieu of cheating or flirting, then it is okay. I fib about money sometimes. But I never lie about anything that would hurt him EVER!
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Absolutely not, but there's what I consider a very good reason for it.
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To an extent, anything I feel he needs to know, he knows. But I don't tell him a dialog of my entire day or anything that was told to me as a secret. Somethings are not my job to blab to the world about.
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Absolutely.
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I've told him everything I think he needs to know and in most cases spared him the detail. It took me a year to tell him the complete and honest truth, and I felt like Thomas Hardy's Tess at one point, not knowing if he'd stay or walk away. It brought us closer together. But, some things are best kept secret.
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No, I sometimes lie to my Scary Otter.
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Now this is a hard question. It depends on your self awareness. The more self awareness a person has... the more they can be honest with them self.
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s/o?
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If I had s/o I would be. I practice (or try to) radical honesty.
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No, honestly.
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Most things in generally speaking
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Honest? Yes, completely honest? No, you can't tell your significant other EVERYTHING or you'll go mad. Keeping some opinions to yourself is a good idea, or it could get in the way of the relationship. You'll learn about eachtoher in time, but there should always be something that you have that keeps your individuality. Although, being unfaithful is in every sense of the word unhonest, and a terrible lie.
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Who's *completely honest* with anyone about anything?! ;-)
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yes, but not 100% honest, i might lie on some things
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I am not completely honest with myself, let alone someone else.
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yes, sure, why not? i have nothing to hide
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No. I know how that sounds too but you'd really have to understand how things work before you criticize me for it.
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I almost always am.
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Yes. It is a very important point to me. Him, not so much. It kind of aggravates me, to be honest - but I'll live. He doesn't lie about big, major things... but things like "I'll be home at 11:30, and if I'll be later, I'll call" - then he comes home at 3:00 am with no call. To him, no big deal, he's home now. To me, that's 3 1/2 hours I was worried. *shrug* whatever.
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Without a doubt: Absolutely! Positively! AND I AM a monogamous man. I don't and I won't cheat. Thanks for asking your Q! I did my best to answer it. I hope the information helps. VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: Some personal observations and opinions. "THE University of Hard Knocks" Also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons".
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