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My best friend is a guy. he asked me out and i said no.but he keeps insisting to give him a chance..now i only like him as a friend but then i dont want to ruin our friendship!!!what should i do?

By ollie canz Asked Dec 11 2007 9:43AM
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by Anonymous on Dec 12, 2007 at 1:20 am Permalink

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i've been to that..talk to him and tell him you dont want to ruin your friendship and that's what really matters to you.. if you say no to what he wants, then no! let him respect you for your decision. if not, maybe give him a little time to think or space.
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by Tzigana on Dec 11, 2007 at 11:34 am Permalink

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Stay firm and hold your ground. Ruining a friendship over a crush is no good. He'll learn that one way or another.
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by teddybear on Apr 14, 2008 at 2:26 am Permalink

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nothing wrong with going out as friends..who knows it might turn into a good relationship..
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by Happy to be me on Apr 7, 2008 at 7:43 pm Permalink

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If you really dont feel that way about him just stay strong. Its hard cuz you dont want to hurt him but its his choice to not respect your choice. Free will and all. Im in same situation, my friend keeps writing me these depressing poems about our lost love. Its sad. Hang in there.
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by ontario210 on Dec 14, 2007 at 3:29 pm Permalink

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I've seen this before as well...

You don't want to hurt his feelings, and that's completely normal. However, by leading him on and not being firm, you're only inviting him to continue the chase, which could lead to a worsened situation.

I've know friends who gave in and tried going out, leading to broken friendships and messy situations. If you've only been friends for a little bit, he may not be a true friend. He might have been trying to get you to like him during all this time, and is only interested in dating/sleeping with you.

In either case, be firm. Don't give in unless you like him too, and think a relationship would work. If he still pressures, start blowing him off (tell him you're too busy to hang out, this and that), and firmly tell him you don't like him in that way, and that until he stops trying, you can't hang out with him. This might be hard on him, but it's the only way you can remain friends. If her actually values you, he will understand
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by Scoops on Dec 13, 2007 at 9:21 am Permalink

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ok, you have the right to say no and just tell him that friendship, right now, is as far as it goes. If he doesnt respect your decision then maybe he isnt as good a friend as you thought.
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