During sexual activity, i'm really not sure what turns him on. and when i ask him he doesnt answer me. how do i give great sex? and great oral? and what do you do when you don't want to swallow? can you not?

OK-man talking-you sound kind of young and inexperienced. i hate to sound like a parent but are you being careful about STDs and pregnancy?

now-with that out of the way.

tell him you can't please eachother if you don't communicate. maybe he's uncomfortable, but ask him if he minds you telling him what you want. that might get him in the mood to tell you what he wants. lol-if not, at least you'll be getting what you want.

the issue of swallowing has been discussed ad nauseum. oviously it's ok not to if you don't want to-just be descrite, like a tissue, about getting rid of it-don't run to the bathroom, spit out in the sink and gargle!
but, why don't you want to swallow?

I'm thinking he's frantic because you are pregnant by 1 week! Which, on it's face is fantastic, because it is crazy that you'd know a week after a menstrual period that you'd conceived, have had a chance to buy a pregnancy test, and confirm that indeed, you were carrying a child - a miracle in and of itself considering your profile states you are male!
Wow! I SUSPECTED the second I had unprotected sex that it might not have been the best choice, and could have monumental consequences, but by far, you've got me beat by a country mile what with facing far reaching decisions about what you might do/not do, combined with your need to fulfill sexual fantasies of a man capable of impregnating another man! Good on you, I say! And about what turns "him" on, why not just try what works for you?

you dont have to swallow if you dont want to...right before he ejaculates you can just play with him so its not in your mouth...OMG why am i telling a kid this? Ok um use protection and be safe, hope you're in love...go get em tiger

No sex is great sex unless you enjoy doing it, if you are only diong it to please your man it wont be as good
and he will sense this too. A man loves to know your intrested too, lovemaking is 2 sided be a giver as well as a receiver,step up to the plate and take over,men like to know you just cant wait to have them. I really dont think a man is too much concerned if you swallow its not really that that turns them on,just my opinion of chorse.

do what you think might turn him on..or maybe do what would turn you on! chances are he'll like it! Sex is a combined activity. it takes 2 to tango! if he's not going to help he can't really expect you to just know and do everything he wants. he needs to communicate with you. as for oral...tell him that he MUST let you know when to stop so he won't ejaculate while you are performing oral on him. If your problem is simply just not wanting to swallow, have a old wash cloth/towel beside you and simply spit it out when your finished. good luck!

If you're boyfriend won't tell you what turns him on then you have to find new ways to ask him, everybody is different, and I'm sure there's ways to get him to spill the beans -- some people think what they like is too kinky to speak, and their afraid you might deny them the pleasure, or worse, think worse of you for wanting something unusual. Though probably... the things that feel good to you are a good place to start guessing.

re: oral -- you don't have to swallow -- keep an empty glass, and a glass of water handy -- if you've got a mouth full of gooey stuff -- spit it out into the glass, and rinse with the glass of water.

As a guy, I know stroking my willy usually turnes me on. Try that.

u can use a condom and just before orgasm finish off with your hands

Have you tried asking your teacher at school?

My boyfriend didn't really tell me what he liked either. He is kind of shy in the sex department, but that hasn't stopped me! We have been getting better and better at sex. It only gets better.

I try lots of different things, I ask questions, I explore. Search the web, get some books. Better yet, watch some porn, or look over sex positions online with him. Eventually he's relaxed and has become more trusting of me and I've learned what he does and doesn't like. Now even he knows too, and will ask me for things. ;)

He's lucky to have a girl like me, I guess. :)

I will skip the safe sex lecture. Tell him you want to please him and tell him to let you know what he likes. There are three ways your bf can communicate his reaction to what you are doing. Verbally either directly, Oh yea baby, or indirectly through moans, through voluntary muscle control, grinding, grabbing, and so on, and lastly through involuntary muscle reactions, trembling, shaking, ejaculating. Try different things and listen for your partners reactions. As for an out on the swallowing you can always let him finish on you not in you. That is real porn movie style and many guys think it is cool.

try tickling and then poking a finger up his butt when he's on the job...guys dig that stuff.

as far as swallowing is concerned, just treat him to blowing all over your b00bs instead.

enjoy

Well my bf was kinda mad at me the first time i done it to him. but now he is okay with it. but i mean if he likes it, he wont tell you to stop. but use condoms if he is a random person