I can never plan anything with my gf of at least 3 years.She always fights about something, doesn't talk to me for a few days, then makes up. What can I do?
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Don't try to plan things with her anymore. Do what you want to do and see how she likes that. Then when she doesn't like it you can validate your point to her.
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Listen to me carefully. Walk away. Find a woman that wants to do what you want and share your future. For God's sake, don't imprison yourself with some control freak. Lottsa fish in the ocean.
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I've done that and then am accused of not caring, being selfish, and that she'll let it go---as if it was my fault in the first place.
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Next time she doesn't talk to you for a few days, don't talk to her when she comes crawling back. You don't need a pain in the neck like this woman. Let her find somebody who will put up with her crap and set yourself free. In fact, if you can get hold of the Paul Simon song "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover" - listen to it to get in the right frame of mind.
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This may be learned behaviour,imprint or never taught how to communicate. 1st consideration counseling,If you have not brought children into this relationship.Give an aultimatium either change or I change with out you. Its a garante if and when children arrive she will yell probably hit and leave in her wake other broken souls. Counseling is a must for you both to continue to have a meaningful loving relationship.misery needs company
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Walk away, easier said than done, but really. Woman need to realise that they cannot give men the world of sh*t and then come crawling back. They do it cause they can and you men, always take us back, so therefore we do not see the error in our ways. The saying "You need to be cruel to be kind" is applicable here. Show her you love her but teach her respect works both ways.
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Just enjoy the hell out of the "making up" part. After all, you have chosen to put up with this for three years.
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Stop being a yo-yo! You're in a co-dependent relationship and that means you are not being yourself. Wake up before it's too late. Suggest relationship counselling, if she won't buy it then suggest not seeing her for at least six months. You'll be surprised to get yourself back again and may even prefer it!
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