I feel like he's trying to push me away but he says he's in love with me, should i back off and just let him go or should i try to fix things

There really is nothing to fix. The only thing you can really do is flat out tell him that you feel like he is trying to push you away. Other than that you just have to leave it alone.

Give him space. You continue on with your life...have fun...go foward. If it is meant to be...he will be back. :) Good luck

We could never push someone to be with us. If he wants to be free, then, there's nothing for us that we can do but give them their freedom. That is when they will realize that they really do love us. Let us let them realize it for themselves.

Well, you've recieved a lot of advice, now what do you think? Will you be better off if you know that he is moving on for certain without telling him how you feel, or is it really important for you to be up-front and honest and truthful about mending things ??? Me...I suggest you be truthful...if thats how you feel, and you don't let him know, you'll always regret not speaking your heart.If he has any respect & feelings for you, he'll let you know...be prepared for the worst, and hope for the best, and you will learn something important about yourself.

You definitely need some answers, so I would communicate with him. Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't want to continue with the relationship he will tell you. Then get on with your life. Their are alot of fish in the sea. If you let him go and he comes back and you are willing to accept him back then maybe it was meant to be.

Wow you took the words right out of my mouth. Mine says he doesnt mean 2 and he loves me but Im getting irratated. If you havnt tryed to fix things id try that, Im going to. Good luck!

I am in the same exact boat, other than he is already divorced but has a very hard time. It has been a year now and we still are working on things. At times he wants me, he will call and say I miss u baby and times its like what ever. It drives me nuts it is like a rollercoaster ride and unless u truly love someone you want stay in a relationship like this. When my guy needs someone to talk to he is always there. I have been with him for a little over a year and I have yet to meet his daughter. He came by my house the other day and she was with him and he didn't even introduce me to her.I was hurt, he says it isn't anything.I decided this week just to back off.I give too much to him and I do love him and he knows this and I worry he might be taking advantage of the situation just a little.Backing off is a good idea it lets you know where you stand, when he does call don't say I miss you, I love you. Let him say it and if he really has he will say it.

Sorry there is zero information here to guide you with. Don't know.

Even though you may not want to hear this because I didn't, sometimes guys just have to be all to themselves for a while to get their thoughts together. They go into their "man caves". It doesn't mean they don't love us, it's just their way of decompressing. If you push and push he will fight and keep backing away. BE PAITIENT!!! He will bounce back (until the next episode)Get busy doing YOU to take your mind off him so much. He still loves you.

don't let go yet cause it is so hard to let go someone you truly love but what you should do is to give it a try! but what i want you to do is that if you feel like calling him go to your call log and check if you have a miss call from him or any received call and if no then ask your self that why do i keep on thinking about someone who is not bothering himself to even call me?

so don't call him, don't send smses maybe for a week and see if he doesn't call you, if he calls you avoid saying ( i love you or i miss you first) wait untill he says that first and if he say he love you or miss you just say okay and he would start thinking and he would ask you if you don't love him or miss him?

then say oh sorry and just say i do, see if things change when he calls you then start calling him but avoid being the only one calling and don't come up with ideals for both of you to spend time wait for him.
tell me what happened after trying this: )

well, i feel the pain girl.

i am dealing with same thing right now. its SO cofusing but i have some good advice for you. its nice to get another persons opinion, but for one thing u know ur guy the most. if he ever gave u a chance to not trust him then trust yourself. everyone gives advice from their own opinion its up to us to figure out what is right for us. and then leave it up to fate. its wicked hard i know...but still. like friends give advice on their own experiences and some just like to put things in ur head like "he could be cheating" "he could be sick of you" bla bla bla...
i just know how hard it is i have been with someone for two years and he has these weird phases where he doesnt want to see me bc he wants his independence. men hate being smothered by a desperate woman, act almost as if you are aloof to it like that u have a life and u arent obsessed with him... also they hate fighting a lot! they hate talking about issues ALL the time i know its hard for us girls bc we like to talk about our feelings....and they dont bc they feel blamed and accused. the best time to talk about problems or feelings is when he and u are doing somehting or like u ask him if its ok before you do. its hard to make these adjustments bc we easily want to end something thats hard ecs. when its not marriage. but it can work. trust me i hope this worked...well i hope some of this helped....

its hard u dont know what to think ur always expecting the worse...but its ok, u will figure it out trust your guy trust doesnt make u weak it makes u a bigger prson and honestly if something does happen well u know what they say what goes around comes around..if he is unfaithful or does something to hurt you he will get that 10 times over fold! take care and good luck!

Space is the key. God take my word for it =/ i just lost the love of my life i swear .. a while ago it seemed like he wanted nothing to do with me, but he still said i love you, but something felt wrong. I was sort of controlling, i didn't like his friends, and i only got to see him on the weekends, so he spent all weekend with me. i didn't realize maybe all he needed was his friends once in a while. if I had of known then that to keep someone i love, they just don't want to be smothered, i would have done it for sure. Just reasure him that you love him, and maybe give him a bit of room, in time he'll knwo what he wants the most.

I really love my boyfriend, and sometimes he feels like I'm pushing him away. I wish he'd take initiative and tell me how he feels instead of blatantly accusing me of trying to push him away sometimes. Perhaps your boyfriend is the same way? Try to work things out before jumping to conclusions! You might be right.. but you might be wrong, too! I hope everything works out. Good luck. :)

well, i feel the pain girl.

i am dealing with same thing right now. its SO cofusing but i have some good advice for you. its nice to get another persons opinion, but for one thing u know ur guy the most. if he ever gave u a chance to not trust him then trust yourself. everyone gives advice from their own opinion its up to us to figure out what is right for us. and then leave it up to fate. its wicked hard i know...but still. like friends give advice on their own experiences and some just like to put things in ur head like "he could be cheating" "he could be sick of you" bla bla bla...
i just know how hard it is i have been with someone for two years and he has these weird phases where he doesnt want to see me bc he wants his independence. men hate being smothered by a desperate woman, act almost as if you are aloof to it like that u have a life and u arent obsessed with him... also they hate fighting a lot! they hate talking about issues ALL the time i know its hard for us girls bc we like to talk about our feelings....and they dont bc they feel blamed and accused. the best time to talk about problems or feelings is when he and u are doing somehting or like u ask him if its ok before you do. its hard to make these adjustments bc we easily want to end something thats hard ecs. when its not marriage. but it can work. trust me i hope this worked...well i hope some of this helped....

its hard u dont know what to think ur always expecting the worse...but its ok, u will figure it out trust your guy trust doesnt make u weak it makes u a bigger prson and honestly if something does happen well u know what they say what goes around comes around..if he is unfaithful or does something to hurt you he will get that 10 times over fold! take care and good luck!

my boyfriend of 4 years. broke up wit me in february of this year.he said he just didnt feel the same way about me anymore, he said he dident love me anymore.its been 6 months since..and i still havent gotten over him. we still tak everyday and see eachother once a week sometimes twice. he says he needs space...then theyll be times when hed say were never getting back together...ther were times where i noticed he was using me for sex. for like 3 months..sometiems i feel like hes bipolar...oen minture hes so good. an the next minute hes pushing me away very badly...saying things like "if i have to start seeing someone just to get you to leave me alone..i will. he says the most hurtful things and i dont kno if ill ever able to recover from it or love anyone again. he says i never liked his friends or let him go hang out wit them, he says he was always wit me. its true...but ost of his friends are girls. an now that were broken up he hangs out wit them so much , picking them up from thier houses, goin to the club, talking wit them on the phone...i sit here and cry, because i have no hope or solution to what hes doing. and why...i jus wish someone would come in and save me oe give me some kinda of answer as to why or what is it that he really wants...today was the worst...we went to eat at a fast food joint. afte were done eating...he grabbed his keys and said "ok i have to go now. and walked out..left me ther..i ran out and follwed him...he said...i just dont want to be bothered wit u anymore, i have too much going on right now and im confused. i said to him, please let me talk and say waht i feel too!! dont just leave or shut me out of your life...please. he said...look im not seeing anyone or doing anything but i need for you to stop calling an texting me...if not ill put a block on your number to get you to leave me alone...at that point i didnt kno what to do..i jus got in my car...cried. for waht seemed like hours...and watche him drive away....i was thinking bout how up until last week hell call me or ill go by his house to spend a lil time wit him or hell join me at my doctors appt's...why s he doing these thigns and then treating me like shit..? im so confused and hurt..and i dont kno waht to do....

I feel the pain as well. I actually am dealing with rejection and i don't know why. A couple of weeks ago halloween night my boyfriend and I went to a party, he says I was all over his best friend and talking to him the whole night and barely paid any attention to him. I didnt mean to if i was and he freaked out on me on the way home. He also thinks that we did something which we didnt. He kicked me off the bed with his feet and then told me to sleep upstairs and then told me we were done. he cooled off a little bit and i came onto him i was drunk he was not.....we ended up having good sex and we have been acting like nothing has happened since then except.....he stopped telling me he loved me he has been distant, he works all the time and i never see him anymore. On Tuesday night i asked him to hang out and i mentioned the weekend before that i had off work wednesday and he worked 3rd shift Tuesday night so i thought we could spend a couple of hours together, i thought it was going to be just us and i get there and his friends are all there in his room playing video games! I felt jejected then, then he brought up his best friend again in front of his other 2 friends and him and i started arguing well when we all left that night i went to kiss him and he said he didnt need to. he has been avoiding me and i'm really hurt. I feel your pain completely, it hurts and you start questioning if there is something wrong with you or what you did wrong but all in all men are just immature.....everything i just said didnt make much sense.

I'm also dealing with the same thing right now. Mine is a little more complicated because he's in the midst of a divorce, but I've decided to back off and let him finalize that part of his life. Some days he pushes me away (at least that's how it feels to me) and some days he says he can't live without me and needs me. There's quite a bit more to this story, but to answer your question, which was my question about a month ago, I'm backing off.

help me i feel so hurt my boyfriend s pushng me away from hm because he feel that he doesnt have freedom when he started to be my boyfriend!????????