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by Midnighttoker on December 1st, 2007
1 good reason is, if you do that, you can't make they're lives miserable.
by Redhawk on December 1st, 2007
A gallzilion reasons...and you've gotten some great ones here already....
Good that you found out NOW...
Good that YOU can walk away from THEM...
ICE CREAM, CHOCOLATE, FUNNY MOVIES, GOOD BOOKS, FRIENDS, ALL THE COOL PLACES YOU'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO GO TO AND SEE, A DOG OR CAT (OR OTHER ANIMAL) WHO WOULD LOVE YOU WITH ALL OF THEIR HEART FOR AS LONG AS THEY LIVE AND PROBABLY BEYOND THIS LIFE...all of your favorite foods... all of the really cool, nice and HONEST people you haven't met yet on this journey...The sun rise over the ocean...and the sunset later in the day that you haven't seen yet...
The music you love and the songs you love to sing, the baby you may have one day...and the lover you stand to have in your life...(you assuredly KNOW what sort of person YOU DO NOT WANT IN YOUR FUTURE...dang...NOW YOU KNOW...don't have to do this again, you can run like hell if the same sort of Red Flags appear!
The person you may not have yet met up with, whose life you will make a PROFOUND difference in because of something you will say or do...that makes a difference for them...
Because THIS was a truly CHITTY DAY, EXPERIENCE...but there will be more absolutely WONDERFUL ONES...
Because you are a much better person than your sister, and your poor parents/family NEED at least ONE CHILD who is not a horrible disappointment and a candidate for the next Jerry Springer show! (She belongs there...You, however..do not qualify at all!)
Because if you really think about it...YOU CAN'T LOVE HIM ANYMORE...he's a total prick...so that whole warm fuzzy feeling is OVER...you are done with it and him!
What to say to your sister...I have NO idea...get away from me comes to mind.
Hugs sweetie...it will get better.
by asweetguy4u2know saya R.I.P Nelson on December 1st, 2007
Because suicide is never the answer. How about that?
He was obviously an ass that was undeserving of someone like you. Consider yourself lucky this happened now and not after you were married to the insensetive ass.
As for your sister you have every right to be angry with her for betraying your trust like that. I hope though in time you will be able to forgive her for what she has done.
by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on December 1st, 2007
You have no reason to feel bad. You did nothing wrong. You have had two people very close to you betray you in a most painful way. I am sorry to hear about this. Your boyfriend is thankfully not your husband and you sister is a twisted slut. You are the normal one.
by broken on December 1st, 2007
Because he is obviously a dick, and you obviously deserve better. Don't get sad. Get angry. Anger is much more productive. What a f*ckin' loser. And HOW DARE your sister?! Live your life, and live it well. F*ck him. You don't need scum like that.
by LadyLuck on December 1st, 2007
Other than the exciting new prospect of finding a GOOD man and forgetting you have a sister?
You just eliminated two VERY negative parts of your life, you should feel more of a reason to wake up everyday than before. Your days just got two times better.
by TheBlackBradPitt on December 1st, 2007
1 Reason...Me....And a ton of other single guys who are looking for the right girl and i'm sure your the right girl for one of us
by peterpam on December 1st, 2007
You have done well not to kill them so now take care not to do something foolish.
by Rage Of Reason on December 1st, 2007
Why would you kill yourself?
What dod YOU do wrong?
Seems to me the problem lies with the boyfriend (should be ex-boyfriend by now) and the slutster.
by Lambchop Good Wool Ambassador on December 1st, 2007
I'm so sorry!!
by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on December 1st, 2007
One verry good one. You didn't do anything wrong and you should not have to bear the punishment for their act. Just remember living well is the best revenge. Dump them both and go out and find a better life without their drama.
by Jewel on December 1st, 2007
Like Lambchop, I am so sorry. This must feel awful.
Please give yourself time to deal with this. Just hang on. Don't damage yourself. Place the hurt and anger where it is due...on them. Not on yourself.
by Da Azian Boi on December 1st, 2007
You have every right to be angry, but you should not kill yourself over something like this. I know it may seem unbearable, but just don't throw your life away.
by Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony on January 18th, 2008
Yes, you can save this moment for a future episode of Jerry Springer. I'm sorry. I caught my husband of 5 years in his car with a 16 year old mounted on top of him (he was in his late 20s). It IS painful, but you have to let it go and move on with your life. The pain fades with time. . .I promise.
by Galeanda on December 1st, 2007
Yes....Why punish yourself for their stupidity and hurtful, selfish behavior? Live and be happy, get revenge that way.
by JTP on December 1st, 2007
Because you can take both of them out with a large caliber weapon!
by Firebrand on December 1st, 2007
One good reason is that neither of these two peices of worthless humanity are worth your life.
Stay around and make them feel bad by having a GREAT time. Go out and have fun and find an honest trustworthy man and let him know what a cheap slut your sister is.There are many men in the world and you have your choice of good ones
Regrettably you cannot choose your family and you are stuck with a dishonest tart as a sister.
by EyeMutePoet on March 25th, 2008
It may not seem like it, but you will find someone better. Its nicer that it was only two years and not your whole life that it took to find out that guy was a prick. You still have your whole life ahead of you to find your perfect guy. =)
by Anonymous on December 7th, 2007
What? Kill yourself??? No silly... you'll find plenty of other men down the road. Yes, it may have been wrong, but your life is worth more than a boyfriend.
Be the bigger of the two... just take care of your own needs and let things go... easy to say, but hard to do... but you must not let this destroy your life... It's just a relationship gone bad... you get involved with another relationship where the guy will treat you like a women!
by - M.C.S. - Dave on December 1st, 2007
What they done is not worth you're life. Besides what gain could you get out of it? "NOTHING" Be lucky you seen this now and not later down the line when you may of both been husband & wife with kids to bring up......M.C.S.
by Bartman on December 1st, 2007
Just be happy you found out before it was too late. Be happy that now you know that your sister isn't trustworthy. It will save you lot of problems in future.
by Rince on December 1st, 2007
I'm so sorry to hear this, don't do anything silly, give yourself time to lick your wounds and decide where to go next with your life, Good Luck with it.
by Stick it!! on August 6th, 2008
Plenty of reasons. First of all he is not worth it,
You deserve better. Had a similar experience a few years ago with my room mate. After catching them together, I broke up with him. I was truly surprised when I woke up the next day, I did not think I could live without him. He married her and she made his life an absolute hell. When they broke up he called me. I went to see him and OMG, I wondered what I ever saw in him, really. When I think of the tears & years I wasted on that guy it makes me sick.
by Anonymous on March 14th, 2008
Hell no. If you want to get back at them let your sister have the dirtbag. It's not like you should be protecting her as she clearly didn't care enough about you. Be happy. You just got rid of a sleazebag.
by call me Kat on March 14th, 2008
Dump that chump, disown the sister, and live like you are the best thing since sliced bread. If you don't let it get you down, you'll find someone even better, and that will show them you are too good for the both of them!
by Cowboy-Matter of Fact on January 18th, 2008
Missing the opportunity to get revenge?
by dawnskye on December 19th, 2007
ok ya I can give you a good reason or two. Why should you die? They are the two jurks who should be feeling bad. With sister like that ...sheesh, and hey count yourself lucky you didnt marry him then find out this is how he is. Dont take this lighly it is just really messed up that they would do that to you. But at the same time, take care not to take it personal if he cheeted on you he would do it to anyone. its not you its them they are the messed up ones here.
take care.
by calypso on December 17th, 2007
You are going about your thinking all wrong. You should be wanting to kill HIM (and your no good skank sister) NOT yourself. Plese find someone to talk to.
by fredwine on December 1st, 2007
why would you want to give them the satisfaction of killing yourself?It is painfully clear that they have no respect for each other let alone you,Keep living and make there life a living hell for everyday they see you they will always remember that night that they thought they had destroyed you,And that will piss them off ten fold.So stay alive and reap the rewrds that will be coming your way now.
by Brina on August 11th, 2008
You must live to torcher them by having a better life with sombody else.
by LeaderXFX on May 8th, 2008
When bad shit happens to you, I find it makes you learn, grow and ultimately become a better person. It gives you that chance to revamp your life and the strange thing about it is that you're actually motivated to do so. This gives you the perfect opportunity to quit smoking, go to the gym, or get a degree. A few years down the road you'll run into that sleazy bastard and you'll feel SO empowered by what you have become.
by casspandra on May 3rd, 2008
You definatly shouldn't because theres someone wonderful out there for you AND HE IS NOT IT..
You need look at it like its a good thing you caught the jerk now rather than several more years and a few kids later... the guy is a looser.
And as for your sister...id be more dissapointed with her than with him.. Men come and go but family should stick together.. I hope you and your sister can sought things out..
by bigtomk on April 2nd, 2008
Yes, here's a reason or two. How about, the fact that no guy, not even the "perfect" guy is worth destroying your life and the peoples lives around you. Usually people don't stop to think about all of the family and friends that would be destroyed emotionally if they were to act on something like suicide or any other kind of hurtful activity. Another reason is that no matter what it seems like now or maybe even a year from now, I promise that the pain will eventually go away. It's hard to see someone you love, and who you thought loved you in bed with someone else whom you love. This is some kind of hurt that I can only imagine. I am sorry on behalf of all men for your boyfriend's actions, but don't let one idiot ruin everything in your life that you still can look forward too. There is always tomorrow to fix yesterday.
by Jane on March 25th, 2008
WTF? Yes there are many reasons not to they are just hard not to see right now. Your boyfriend and you sister are lacking a lot of class...my god.
remove yourself as far away from the situation as possible and for the longest time. If you aren't living in the same house as either of them that is a great start...if not then you might want to get another place to live...
by Fox Happy on March 23rd, 2008
I say go for it. You only get one life, so if you're that dumb then there will be less people like you to reproduce.
by msfoxxybee on March 22nd, 2008
Why would you give so much power to your boy friend and your sister. Them sleeping together is not about you it's about them, and their dishonest ways. They have to live with that guilt. Your sister was wrong for betraying you (blood should be thicker then water. Your boy friend should should be history.
by lilmswildflower on March 14th, 2008
OH HONEY, DON'T KILL YOURSELF............IT'S THEM THAT NEEDS TO PAY....PAYBACK IS A B***H!!! SUGAR IN GASTANKS, EGG THEIR HOUSE, YOU KNOW......WHATEVER MAKES you feel better. worked for me!!!
by JTP on January 18th, 2008
Because you have yet to dismember your boyfriend and push your sister out of a third story window?
by th0mkat on December 26th, 2007
Uh, yeah!
First of all, the biggest reason is that you will validate your boyfriends actions. Most people in your shoes (and I've been there) think their "loved one" will see what they did to you and will feel guilty and sad you're gone...when in fact most of the time they just think, "hmm I was right. that girl obviously has issues." Don't let him be right!
Remember, the best revenge is a life well lived. Don't worry about him. Now is the time to focus on you. Decide what you want to do and do it. The happier you make yourself, the more you will realize you don't need anyone else to make you happy. Once that realization comes, so will the love of your life.
As for your sister....usually someone who does something like that to someone they love has their own issues. You said she was younger, and she is obviously seeking attention. Feel sorry for her. Pray that one day the obvious void she has in her life will be filled by her own sense of self...and not by lying on her back.
by Lotteda717 on December 19th, 2007
Why would you kill your self? Dump the so called boyfriend,now!You can't dump your sister but, she needs to explain to you why she did this.Listen and try to work it out. She will always be your sister. Most important,Dump the jerk.
by Kal-El on December 7th, 2007
A million reasons you shouldn't kill yourself...how about reasons you shouldn't kill HIM.
by singwell-is off researching a lot on December 4th, 2007
Why should you suffer and die? They are the bastards. Let them have each other. THey deserve the misery they will get when one of them betrays the other as they have betrayed you. And you will have the last laugh.
by Chaysgirl24 on December 4th, 2007
Uh yeah! It's not worth it! Gid rid of him! And try to remember that blood is thicker than water! I know how ya feel my girl! How old are you all? I had this happen to me when I was 18, he was 19 and she was 13!!! >:O(
by koldkanuck on December 4th, 2007
Threatening suicide is not the answer walk away good luck to your sister, he'll do the same to her guaranteed.
by Sherbear on December 3rd, 2007
Well, 2 years might feel like a long investment in someone but come on now! Do you really think ending your life over some douchebag is what you should do? Of course not. Yes you're in a LOT OF PAIN right now but time heals and every day will get a little better. And shame on your sister! Tell her she can have your sloppy seconds and as for you: life goes on, this will just make you smarter and stronger.
by vtblob350 on December 1st, 2007
if you kill yourself how will you be able to get them back? itching powder while oldschool still makes for a great laugh to brighten your mood
by NotAPeoplePerson on December 1st, 2007
I'm very sorry, i can only imagine the hurt you must feel. You can't punish yourself for their cruelty. You will get through this, even if it seems like things aren't going to get better, slowly but surely it will be fine. And you've got all us AB'ers to talk to! :D
Good luck hun.
by koldkanuck on December 1st, 2007
Hello!
Women often make the mistake of trying to impose their own needs on men. Men are pre-programmed by nature to have sex with as many women as possible. Sex has nothing to do with love to men. Sex is a biological necessity; love an emotional one. Women have a much more difficult time breaking these up.
That is why men can still be in love with one woman and have sex with others. It's nature's way of insuring that our species survived as long as it has. It's only be the past 5,000 years or so that we've tried to make things different. That isn't to say that men don't want to be monogamous. They are concerned about their partners and her feelings and many men successfully stay true to a single partner their entire lives.
Thus, it's difficult to draw a parallel between what a "good woman" is to a man compared to a "good man" to a woman. Women have evolved to try to establish pair bonds as a way to insure the greatest possible success for her family. Two parents greatly increase the likelihood of the survival of children in many ways.
So, all that said, where does this leave you?
First, this is the reason why "making him suffer" isn't a good strategy. He's not "committed" to you by his own admission, and feels he needs to pursue other women. Even if you talked him into it, he's not really going to accept is as his own.
Second, it appears that you want something for him that he doesn't want himself. That's a difficult proposition to try to enforce.
What can you do?
Frankly, there's not too much you can do other than to:
1) Try to get him to change his mind and be the monogamous partner you want him to be,
2) Be with him, knowing that he may not be faithful, but that he loves you; or,
3) Move on and find someone that DOES share the same goals you have.
I'd hate for you to spend a huge amount of time and effort trying to make someone something they're not, only to wind up right where you are now. If you're goals are different from his why not turn that energy into finding someone that DOES share your relationship goals?
Many people make the mistake of believing that there is only on "soul mate" for them in the world. In fact, there are thousands! Who knows how many of them you've past on waiting for this guy to the man you want him to be? It's something to think about anyway.
Good luck, much love....
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by Anonymous on September 29th, 2009
Well he's gone(well I hope he has otherwise he'll try it again and again with her) and no doubt bragging about how he got two sisters into bed but think, you can make your sister's life hell by bringing this up or threatening to do so at every opportunity for the rest of her life! for example:- at the dinner table 'are you going to take all those peas, LIKE you take my boyfriends'.
by mindineuphoria on September 2nd, 2009
O wow, I'm sorry to hear that. Honey, you are so much better off without that man. You can be a strong, independent woman and seek happiness by finding yourself. This will enrich your life, and you will find something you are great at to build self esteem & work toward healing any conflicts you have within yourself so you realize that you are indeed a wonderful person. I realize that I do not know you, but I know that everyone is capable of amazing things. You did love him, but the reality is, he did not show it back and you must know that you deserve true love. There is something deeply wrong with your sister. Do not go down to her level. Karma will come back and people that are headed toward a direction that causes harm to themselves and others, it will just keep getting worse for them. I wish the best for you.
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Comments
hehehehehe
by gtravels loves her life penguin on December 1st, 2007
that is righht, i got a couple ideas already... hehehe
by maddygirl on December 1st, 2007
Now, aint that better?
by Midnighttoker on December 1st, 2007
yeah, i'll go eat ice cream first
by maddygirl on December 1st, 2007
Make it a double scoop, i'll buy!
by Midnighttoker on December 1st, 2007
alright..PARTY
by maddygirl on December 1st, 2007
And always remember maddygirl, living well is the best revenge!!;)
by gtravels loves her life penguin on December 1st, 2007
It sure is.
by Midnighttoker on December 1st, 2007
yep it sure is
by maddygirl on December 1st, 2007
Nice.
by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on December 1st, 2007
Good one.
by LadyLuck on December 2nd, 2007
great answer!
by Xtrmlyluckygal on April 2nd, 2008
Thank you, Xtrmlyluckygal.
by Midnighttoker on April 2nd, 2008
your welcome!
by Xtrmlyluckygal on April 3rd, 2008
amen!blow sumthing up in that b!tch!!
by Liev4life38 on June 21st, 2008
I've got the TNT!
by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on June 21st, 2008
Don't forget the lighter...unless it doesn't need one? I'm confusious
by Liev4life38 on June 22nd, 2008
P.W., Good news, will send e-mail soon.
by Midnighttoker on June 23rd, 2008
LOL!
by Tails616 on July 2nd, 2008
"living well is the best revenge!!;)"
wise words, wise words indeed (really, I mean it, it sounds sarcastic, but I'm not)
by GreenFreak on August 2nd, 2008
Green Freaks answer is right on.
by mttdal on August 22nd, 2008
yea and holding a grudge and getting revenge always hurts you more than them!
by claireelise87 on October 21st, 2008
Ok here's the deal, your sister's a Bitch & your x-boyfriend I hope-is gettn shit kicked all over town. Sorry babe but there really is better out here.
by Kno-Klu on August 27th, 2009
Your sister is a part of yourself. You have spent your entire life with your sister. You have shared so many things with your sister; so why can't you share your boyfriend? There is no point in getting depressed at such a simple issue. After all, he did not sleep with any stranger.
by Krishnashish on August 28th, 2009
OKAY I MUST SAY THESE COMMENTS ARE SO MEAN WELL SWEETIE I TELL YOU WHAT YOUR SISTER AND YOUR BOYFRIEND KNEW BETTER BUT YOU HAVE TO GET OVER IT PRAY TO GOD AND ASK GOD THE FIRST REPAIR YOUR HEART AND THEN ASK HIM TO FORGIVE YOUR SISTER AND YOUR EX AND THEN YOU TAKE IT FROM THERE REMEMBER TO ASK HIM TO LEAD AND GUIDE YOU IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION. AND WATCH HE HELPS YOU THERE IS NOTHING TO HARD FOR GOD TO DO. I REALLY BELIEVE IN THE LORD JUST DO WHAT I SAY AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS.
by MSGRAY06 on September 5th, 2009
WTF..Krishnashish,u for real???????
by Runs with scissors on October 10th, 2009
Evidently, you were just too much woman for him luv. Move on! Forgive your sister, but never forget. AND think about this, have you ever noticed that people ONLY want people they know they can't have and people that seems to be happy????
by Leansquad23 on October 15th, 2009
I'm sorry your sister had to be the target to bring out the real monster in this fellow. Just suppose you hadn't discovered who he really is.. your life could have been ruined.Right now it's going to be extremely hard to forgive the both of them -but, it is the beginning of your healing process. The main thing is to focus on your God given talents and abilities;realizing that you are a real gem! "Mr Right" will come along some day. Don't give up!!
by dottieb on October 16th, 2009
This very thing happened to me when I was married and I blame both parties, they knew what they were doing and neither my husband or my sister deserved my love since they couldn't or would't respect me. It hurt like hell but I got over it and this type of man is not worth the ground he walks on and certainily not you or me.
by Anonymous on October 18th, 2009
kill him not yourself
by good squarel on November 26th, 2009
I agree with both. I'm happily married 20 years & a romantic at heart. He just showed you how much he loves you. Now it is time for you to move on & find true happiness & that one person who will love you all his heart. Remember good things don't just happen; great things happen to good people. P.S. lift yourself up you are worth all the attention that comes your way! lol
by budda62 on November 28th, 2009