There's a spot for him in my heart, and I will always love him in a way, but I could never EVER be with him again.

No I'm no longer in love with him/her. I've seen his/her picture recently and I told myself: What the hell was I thinking then? Or was I thinking at all?

Yes with all my heart, and I will be for the rest of my life. It's been 10 years since we broke up. We just got back in touch after his divorce and we talk everyday as friends. We live on opposite sides of the country with seperate lives. I have a wonderful boyfriend of 6 years that I will probably marry. But he's still the one I still dream of at night. I actually went to visit him last weekend, we had the most magical weekend ever but I could tell that I just don't fit into his life anymore ... at least not now ... though I still own a big chunk of his heart :) No one will ever be able to replace him and it kills me.

I met this guy my last semester of college in West Virginia named Brad Boyers and I consider him my first flame, my first love! We were together only 4 months and I graduated and moved to CA! After that I lost touch with him until the Internet came and I tracked him down after 22 years! At the time I was dating this doctor's son near my house and we had just broken up and I was so upset that I felt like the doc's son died in a tragic car wreck! So one day Brad called me and I told him that this doc's son died in a car accident and he felt so bad. He was ready to come out and see me or have me fly in to see him and we were going to be together again. Then I never heard from him again, until about 4 months later when I had already met someone else and married. I put "brad boyers" into the engines and this obituary came saying Brad Boyers (my old flame) had died in a tragic car accident!!!!! I could not believe it and was devastated, even more so with my old flame than breaking it off with the doc's son. I had looked him up on his birthday which is May 22! Brad died March 5! Here's the weird part! My father's birthday is March 5, but my father died on May 22! Brad's birthday is on May 22, and my dad's birthday was March 5th the day Brad died! I could not believe this and it took me years to get over this. I had lied to Brad and never got to explain so I called the Rabbi who did the funeral for Brad and told him the story and the Rabbi said do not worry, it's not your fault even if you did lie. You had a feeling deep inside yourself! So that was that. I compare every guy I met, even my husband to Brad. Now Brad is dead and I've not seen doctor's in 5 years so they are both dead really. But the best things is that out of all this horror I met a wonderful man who I have been married to now for 5 years! I love my life so much now and have taken 2 years of therapy to get over what happened. Just wanted to share with you!

OH YES. Were were just forteen when we began dating, WOW. I loved him. Well, we went to different schools, so it was hard to see eachother, then broke up. A couple of years later we got back together. Same situation, distance so we faded out again. Later in our early twenties, he came around again, but I was with someone else. I felt so torn. He left. I should have went after him but I didn't. Love has come and gone with other relationships and I have always tried to find him but always came up empty, until I found him on Classmates. I sent him an email through classmates and I waited. He answered me. OMG I was so elated. He wanted to call me, he did. It was great talking to him. We found out that we both always thought of each other and feelings were just sending both of our heads spinning. Here's the bad part, he's married with two boys. I have also been married, divorced and have two boys. He said that he couldn't believe that I had called at this point in his life. Why could'nt I have called 12 years ago before he got married. He doesn't have a bad marriage but the love is missing, he's comfortable. I am miserable. We have loved each other for 26 years and I think that I will ever find this with anyone else in this lifetime. Its only been 10 days since the first call and I can't get him out of my head, he calls everyday, several times a day. I know what I should do but I can't lose him again.

YES and it is PURE HELL! I wish I could forget!

Yes and No. It changes.

I started talking to my first love almost two years ago, 14+ years after we broke things off. We email on a regular basis and have really built a nice friendship. We went through so much the time we were together we will always have love for each other. I have been with my husband since 1992, he with his wife since 1994. But we will always be friends. I believe someday we could meet up again, for now we live 800 miles apart and we enjoy sharing old memories, playing 20 questions, and talking about our current life. For years, I thought of him, it was like I had put him up on this pedistal, but he belongs up there, he was my first love. When I contacted him I didn't know what his reaction would be, I came accross him by chance, like it was meant for us to be friends again. I saddens me to hear some of the things we both went through over the years, we could have helped each other. He will always be my "what if" guy, but I am glad he is in my life. We have enough respect for each others relationships that we don't talk about our feelings, but a part of me will always be in love with him, even if we would never be together.

Yeah. I think. We recently ( May 2008) started communicating. I had found his business website on the internet. We had dated about 15 years ago, and had a horrific break up. We talk once in awhile...email once in awj=hile...I still love him...I think he may me too....I just don't know though. We were together almost three years.

Yes, definitely. I dream about him often. He wanted to move a lot faster than I did and it scared me, but now that I'm older, I wish he was still around because I'd be ready to do the things he wanted from me, like get married and all. I'm still smarting a little from the relationship's demise, even though there are factors that would prevent me from ever being with him again. I The hurt never completely goes away, it's only lessened over time. I once read that the only way you can get over someone is to get "under" someone else, but maybe I just haven't gotten under the right person yet! :)

Well, there is something about the first. I hope Jack is well and happy.

Yes, and I found him on the internet and we talk to each other..We are still fond of each other...still after all these years...

I get this alot from my friends and family but I'm not. I'm still in shock that we were together for so long and then it ended just out of the blue in the cruelest fashion possible. I still ask myself how did that happen but I know without a doubt I would never want that back.

Sure, there are so m,any unanswereds.

I'm not in love but I will always love them.

oh yes i am but i cant tell him.i think he feels the same about me ? we met when we were 13 and were both 25 now. i had a child when i was 15 to somone else,we met up a few times as we grew up,but i cant get him out off my head.im with somone now but i dont know what to do!!! i spoke to my first love the other day and he say's we have a thing??? we always have.im so mixed up it hurts real bad. i want to be with him but i dont think it would work he is still very imature,were as i have had to grow up to quick.i hope one day we can come to our senses and follow our feelings!! who knows what will happen ? :)x if its love then im sure it will work out ...x

nope, I hate the bitch so much that when people ask me about my first, I lie and tell them about the second.

Yes i still have feelings for her, but i think it depends on the reason for breakup, in my case we were unable to continue it with time, since our likes and dislikes had changed when we attanded university. But even after all these things i am having a special place for her and hope if i could relive those days.

I answered in a weak moment and found my answer on Google. Yikes. Sorry I didn't mean to cause trouble. I hope I didn't.