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by animehero on April 7th, 2006

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My girlfriend has been talking a lot about this guy recently. I asked her if she liked him, and she said she did, and she would date him if she got the chance, but said she would not leave me for him. Is this cheating?

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  • by Merry Walker on April 9th, 2006

    Merry Walker

    No. This is your girlfriend being honest with you. Since open and honest communication is essential for any relationship to succeed, this is a good thing.

    See if you can find out what she likes about him. It might give you ideas for enhancing your relationship with her.

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  • by BigDaddyBS on October 8th, 2009

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    No. Her just talking about a guy is not cheating. YOU asked her if she liked him, and she admitted she did, and would like to date him if you weren't in the picture. She also said she would not leave you for him, so you have more of or better qualities than he does.

    If she drops the talk about the guy, then assume she's over him. If not, you might ask her NOT to talk SO MUCH about him, if it bothers you.

    Maybe she's thinking of him for a girlfriend, or relative.

    Remember that girls can be friends with guys and guys with girls without any cheating. It just takes TRUST. ;-)

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  • by Merriment on October 8th, 2009

    Merriment

    Life is long and you will meet people that "coulda" been something to you if you weren't already involved and/or married. This isn't cheating.

    It's possible to have a "crush" on someone even if you love your partner and are 100% committed to them.

    Lucky for you, your girl is honest about those feelings and that makes them far less likely to go underground and grow.

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  • by Route 66Truckerman on October 8th, 2009

    Route 66Truckerman

    Dump her !!! She would date him if she got the chance??
    Tell her she got the chance since now she's single!!

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  • by Grant aka Guybrush Threepwood on October 8th, 2009

    Grant aka Guybrush Threepwood

    hey, at least she's honest.

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  • by AnnieB on October 7th, 2009

    AnnieB

    No, it's called honesty. This is what most people would appreciate, but few people receive. What you choose to do with this information is up to you, but know, you are attracted to more women than just your girlfriend, whether you admit it or not. The difference is, she hasn't asked you...

    Before asking a question, consider the answer may not be what you want to hear. Not every one is a liar.

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  • by Answerninja on October 7th, 2009

    Answerninja

    wow.. Dude ive been through this before. My advide. WATCH OUT! This may seem like honesty but no. Women as i have learned have 4 stages when there about to cheat. 1. they mentions sum dude. 2, they threaten you with the fact that "IF WE EVER GO APART" first of all if a woman even mentions dating someone else she has absolutely no intention of a long lasting relationship. 3. If i could write a book about cheating id call this chapter "little White lies" YOu notice that she starts to lie about the little things, then the bigger things. Eventually she starts to lie about who she is with and what she is doing. and the final stage she distances herself from you and everything that has to do with you. You start to fight about the little things. Your sex life plumitss. and she stops calling, texting you more and more often. Then she cheats.. My adive.. Confront her.

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  • by scatty_mini on September 15th, 2009

    scatty_mini

    it is fantastic she is so open with you i freely admit im not with my partener i wish i could be you should be happy she can tell you this and trust what she says if she were cheating she wouldnt admit she liked him ... i really hope you can see this as a possitive in your relatioship and work to make it better by asking her what it is about him she find attractive - hope this helps

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  • by Richie on October 8th, 2009

    Richie

    Be the man here, and dump her. It's all the same at the end of the day, but at least you go away with dignity, and on top of that, your dumping before she dumps you. Get rid of her, she's not worth it.

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  • by neilatron on October 8th, 2009

    neilatron

    Come on man, wake up and smell the infidelity. My Mrs said she'd drop my ass in a second if Johnny Depp came along, fair enough but that's a fantasy, this is a guy she actually knows and sooner or later his tail is gonna be in her mouth. Do you wanna be kissing her after that??

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  • by Shanel with an S on September 15th, 2009

    Shanel with an S

    idk her or anything but i think if she respects you than she won't take it any further. but i think you should check her b/c why would she tell you she likes another guy and would date him? thats kinda how cheating starts. if the situation was reverse the girl would be devastated.

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  • by Ocean Flower on October 7th, 2009

    Ocean Flower

    Sounds like she's contradicting herself...she would date him...yet wont leave you for him...I think she may be leaving her options open...and it's pretty cruel that she has to talk about some other guy like this to you...I'm sure she wouldnt like you to be saying the same thing...

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  • by buffalovirgo on September 15th, 2009

    buffalovirgo

    girls are weird man, he may be a friend.... or shes cheating.. im distrustful so i would think she was

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  • by Piratebooty on September 15th, 2009

    Piratebooty

    Either way, she told you that date him if given the chance. Why did she even need to say such a thing? Why does she talk about him? Sounds she is into this guy and probably would cheat if not already. She may be throwing out hints.

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  • by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on October 8th, 2009

    TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT

    depends on what "the chance" means. if the chance means her first pic (you) was not in the picture then no it is not cheating. it is good to admit your attraction to other people otherwise you will be caught unprepared when someone does attract you and you will slip up. preparation requires you to know yourself.

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  • by jennybabes44 on October 8th, 2009

    jennybabes44

    No offense to your girl but she has got you right where she wants you. Shes saying that to you to get a reaction out of you. She has no intention of going with this other guy. Shes deliberately trying to wind you up. You have two options here. 1. Give her more attention or 2. Start talking about some girl, even if it is a celebrity so that she knows you cant have the celebrity but she will feel how much it hurts.

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  • by PrincessErin1986 on October 8th, 2009

    PrincessErin1986

    No. But it really sounds like you are on the losing end of the stick and you just need to drop her. Sounds like her mind is elsewhere.

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  • by anonymous on August 1st, 2011

    anonymous

    No it is not cheating. If she likes him though you should give her the chance she wants. She would probably love to date both of you at the same time! She sounds like an amazing girl!

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