So, I thought I had the flu. Turns out I found out today I am pregnant... I'm really unsure on what to do because this was a total accident as I had used precautions... I'm freaking out and don't really know what I should do... Any help, please?
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I should add that I am pregnant by someone I was casually dating and had only had sex with a few times... He does not know. Should I tell him? I am already a single mother with a 3 year old from a previous 3 year relationship that ended when he was born so I am already a single mom. I don't know what I should rightfully do.
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Accident or not i really wouldnt suggest abortion. Both sides lose on it. Adoption or you stick with it and keep the child. It may be a hard life with not one but two kids.
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First off, can you afford another child right now? Second, yes, the father of the child should be told, unless you are considering abortion. Third, if you decided to keep the child, do you have ANYONE who can help you (parents, brothers, sisters, close friends, etc.), because with a second child, help will be needed. Also realize, that even tho' it is a casual relationship, the father is still responsible, (financially), whether he wants the child or not. But, getting him to take that responsibility is another story. Finally, I really feel for you right now. This is a HUGE decision for you. You can always consider adoption, also. There is a huge waiting list for people who cannot have children on their own, and they would give anything to get one. Think about that option also. I know you're concerned, and you have my thoughts and prayers as you make the decision.
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You have 3 options. Abortion Adoption Parenting Find somebody you know and trust who will not be biased, possibly at a planned parenting clinic, possibly a friend, but find somebody to talk to. You don't need anybody else to tell you what to do or not to do, you need to talk it out and realise your feelings and decide for yourself what you want to do. Best of Luck!
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You have a lot of good advice from some very good people here. I would just add, your life is going to change. In a year or two you will be in a different financial position with other things going on. Keep in mind that your lack of money now will not last, and your 3 year old will not be 3 for long. I know it isn't easy, but it is survivable. Like many, my heart goes out to you. Good luck with your decision making.
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I really do care. I think that you should try and go to some counseling or under the yellow pages in civil services. I am sure you have heard of some or can find an agency that can offer you free help. They have free help and you deserve to have you and your baby taken care of. Please just try to get some professional help and tell me if you find one. I would like to know. Don't give up please.
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Well, first I will say congrats. Pregnancy is a GOOD natural thing. Your Previous question had me concerned, because the info you gave can range from anything. from the harmless- Pregnancy, to the lethal- HIV. To answer your question, and take this from someone who freaks out alot- Just try to relax. You'll be ok. =)
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I had a miscarriage almost a year ago- it tore my heart out, I'd give anything to have my baby back. Worst case senario give the baby up for adoption- there are a lot of people looking to adopt. <3 Whatever you decide -know you have people standing behind your decision. I'm always an open door to bounce ideas off of and I'm a very good listener.
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SInce this was like 2 years ago almost....can you tell me what you decided?
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