do you mean willing as in the partner would like to have sex with him but he would rather masturbate?..........

That how men are. Not many women are willing to have sex 24/7, though that would be every mans dream. Women are more sensual and emotional while men are more lustful and physical. Though the traits are ofcoarse reversable or added together in one sex. I guess its just easier for men to wack of rather than ask his gf/fiance/wife to have sex 20 times a day and get shot down.

Here's an honest answer from a guy: There are a few reasons why a guy would masturbate when sex is available. It's a different feeling, it's faster, it doesn't require a shower afterwards, and masturbation requires signifigantly less energy to achieve orgasm then having sex. I know quite a few women who get upset with their partners for masturbating. They might as well be angry at him for breathing. It's important to keep in mind that sex and masturbation, while utilizing the same organs, are two totally different things. Many woman would agree that masturbation feels different for them then sex, and it's the exact same for a guy.

I am 25 Year Old female very sexual very exotic in bed.. i have a problem my boyfriend rather wack off than have sex . he told me that he is not a sexual person. i think hes just lazy he rather masturbate and please himself rather than fuck me and and have to please me. please help me get some ideas, and yes i have spoken to him about it.

Clueless... are we dating the same guy??? I;m the same, love sex, always get knocked back but i find magazines and dirty tissues left in the bedroom... whats wrong with me?

Simple, Men have a different was of looking at sexual pleasure than women do. Women view sex as a ROMANTIC and PERSONAL expression of LOVE. Men view sexual gratification as just another HIGH or DRUG to get off on. I'm a happily married man and yes I have a very healthy sexual relationship with my wife BUT I still enjoy masturbating by myself every now and then. It has nothing to do wiht my wife "not being available" or anything like that OR my not wanting to do it with her, it's just that Masturbation is a DIFFERENT type of sexual experience. A more personal experience where I dont have to CONSIDER how another person feels. This is the biggest difference. When a man makes love to a woman, he has to PLEASE HER, this is fine but it requires the man to focus on details OTHER than sheer pleasure. Masturbation is a type of sexual free-basing. It's like the crack-cocane of sex and the truth is women simply DONT GET INTO IT the way men do. Ok, there may be a FEW women out there somewhere but I have NEVER seen a woman who is "normal" and also likes exotic sex. The ones who like crazy stuff are also substance abusers, crazy types, etc. SO Most men just marry a BORRING but normal chick who will make a great mother and wife but masturbate to get a rush ever now and then. It's best if women just dont think about these things because they will never understand how men work.

I think many of the men who have answered here have no idea how women actually feel towards sex! But I am only one woman, but ah well. OK, maybe I am the minority, but I do not connect sex necessarily with love and in actual fact I am more lustful than most of the guys I have dated. I would have sex continually if I could. Surely I cannot be the only female to feel this way. I suppose many women don't like to feel that they are ONLY being used for sex, I don't know. I'm more a sex than serious relationship person. I agree with some of the things the guys are saying and its probably also some part that masturbating is quicker, and that you can think of what you want, whether impossible/unlikely in reality or not something you'd ACTUALLY do in real life, but makes for a good fantasy. I'm a girl, and I still masturbate loads even if I'm in a relationship, so why can't a guy? Its a different type of sexual fulfillment! oh and to CLUELESS (the user): If your guy won't satisfy you sexually, I say GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW. Its a personal choice I suppose, and if you want to be with him, you need to discuss this and make it clear that you need some sex at least! People do have different sex drives, so maybe he just isnt right for you? I say discuss it and make sure he knows how you feel, maybe he just doesn't want to come onto you too much or something? Does he possibly feel insecure in any way about his ability etc? Or is he just lazy?

because they are afraid that their intimate advances are not good enough for the gal. I am the gal that would take the sex 24.7 so I walk around horny all the time. Another thing maybe wacking off is better than it sounds, because I certainly dont get as much from doing it myself as I do with hot flesh.

Im 18, and a very attractive female. of course, with age and hormones im always open for sex. however, my boyfriend whom i live with is 25, and claims he doesnt have the drive anymore. about 7 to 10 times per week he looks at porn and masterbates, rather than save it for me. I am very willing and i want it, but he would much rather waste it. it hurts me because i love him and i have confronted him, but he has shut me down claiming he's been masturbating since he was 12, and he wont stop any time soon. it may be quicker, but it hurts me to know he looks at millions of porn sites and nasty filthy images that are degrading and it satisfy's him, when im willing. ANY ADVICE????

When men masturbate, they have full control, they can fantasize about every aspect, the size of the girl's breasts, butt, her looks, how she reacts, he can go as fast as he wants or as slow as he wants and he doesn't have to be concerned with if he is pleasing his partner or if she has reached orgasm or if he came to quickly, etc. I bet every woman who has a man who rather jack off than have sex at one time or another complained about how their man "performed" and/or is not willing to perform certain "extra" things such as breast sex, blow jobs, etc. The best thing to do is talk things out without getting upset and see if maybe just a little of what I just stated has come into play with your relationship.

Probably the same reason women do when they have willing partners. You don't always want sex, sometimes you just want an orgasm without the bother of sex. Sometimes they aren't home. Sometimes it's late and you need to fall asleep fast. Sometimes it's just fun.

Sometimes I have to because I've already worn out my partner.

My ideas on this is. Men who have to Fantasize about other women to do there thing . I see that as cheating on there love one. Like me i allways had low self esteem. Do you know what that does to a Person day after day an No the porn dont help either . Or tell me that he wants a mexican women to have sex with dont do much good either. so yes i know how women feel on this but i'v told him that hurts my feeling. Oh Yeah we have toys but he uses his more then i uses mine... Where does the Fantasize in real life . He talks about thick girls, cute girls, in person an on movies . i'm having to watch a movie before he does so i can see if there an thing he might like on there. I'm gettin tryed of hearing about other women that looks better than me...