I want to try out a rape fantasy, but i'm not sure how my BF would react to this. we are very open and do experiment in the bedroom, but i dont think he would enjoy this. what are some good ways to compromise?
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Janie
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Start with something "halfway there," such as having him restrain you and then roughly have sex with you, and see how he feels about that (might not be a bad idea to see how you feel about it, either). If all goes well, it could spur his interests to "take it to the next level."
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Janie... an interesting one, would start off 'gently' by just indulging in some rougher than normal lovemaking (take him by surprise one day, push him down and then take charge by mounting him), then talk about it as you say you are very open... slowly get it round to the idea that you would like to have the same done to you. Quite a few years ago we would get some clothes from the charity shops and use them as clothers to rip off as things got hotter and hotter. Perhaps you could just have an old blouse that you could use, take his hands and use them to grip the tails of the blouse then help him rip it apart exposing yourself... hopefully nature would take it's course. If it does get heated though then you should be confident that he will stop if you ask him to... either that or have a 'safe word' that either can use.. best of luck Wanderer x
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sometimes you just have to compromise babes... sometimes you just gotta go with the flow. It's good that he is the type of person that you love, just a pity that sometimes they don't fulfill that one little role that you hanker for. Do as i do when I'm unable to fulfil one particular sexual fantasy... just keep it as a fantasy and use it as the means to have that 'private' orgasm when masturbating... perhaps you could tell him that is what you think of sometimes when masturbating... who knows??? (I sure don't) Anyway - enjoy each other - that's the best thing.. love Wanderer xx P.S. Kevin Rudd huh !!!!! (we would have given you Tony Blair for nothing ... in fact we wuld have paid you to take him off our hands ...)
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Tell him about it, you might be surprised at his response. I think that my wife is having the same ideas, but can't work up the courage to ask. Though I could never imagine actually raping anybody, wife or otherwise, I'm open to the fantasy idea, especially if it make HER happy. But I think that she is worried about my reaction, and I KNOW that I'm worried about her reaction if I'm wrong, so I guess I'm in the same position you’re in and can't really give you any advice either way... Hmmm, I think I may have just posted a completely useless answer.... Oh well.
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Does he have the nerve and force to do it right? Tell him that the thought of it excites you and you would like to have a fantasy experience. Asking doesn't hurt anyone. One good way to compromise is to do it to him. Tie him up,blindfold him and rape him. I don't mean shove a dildo up his butt, I mean use him for your pleasure. Tease him, use him and then make him cum, untie him and leave him all used and covered in cum. It may put some ideas in his head for returning the favor.
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I am in the same situation. I have tried at hinting at the subject. Stating that I would like for things to be a bit rougher....but he just doesn't seem to get it. I don't know of any gentle was of telling him and I am afraid that he might take it the wrong way if I just told him point blank. I know some people quite simply have a problem using that word....so I wont use it....it's more of a completely dominated and used sort of thing.....force, hair pulling, spanking, dirty talk ect. to be so desired by the other person that they just take you. I've thought about writing it in my journal and accidentally leaving it open on my nightstand.....but I guess that'd be kinda obvious....and I'm not sure if he'd read it anyway.......knowing him he'd close it and put it in my drawer without even looking at it. He is the kind that is always respectful of me. We've wrestled around a bit and he knows that being held down ( or bit or handled roughly) is a turn on for me....but he won't do it in bed.....guys...any insight into why? I could use a guys perspective here :)
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start with some rope, handcuffs, etc.. then work you're way up
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