That crosses the boundary of ''bitching'' and is classed as ''abuse''. Your mother is verbally (and subsequently emotionally) abusing you. She has no right to say those things. How old are you? Can you move out? If you're not old enough to move out then you must be under 18, or perhaps 16 if you're not in the USA... in which case you should tell a trusted adult such as a counselor, teacher, police officer or pastor. If you're an adult, then you probably should tell her it's completely unacceptable behaviour, and maybe even refuse to talk to her until she learns to be polite. You sound quite resentful towards her, so it probably wouldn't do you any harm to take a step back and have some ''breathing time'' to cool down a bit. Sometimes when you have a situation in your face every day, it's difficult to think it though and find a solution or make sense of it. How do you behave towards her? If you make your hate felt, then it's likely she'll continue to have a hard time being nicer to you.

My mom is the same way. We haven't spoken in 6 years.

She could think that by telling you these things you will in turn fix them. Because of this she may think she is helping you. You should try to talk to her about it.

My grandmother did it because she's bipolar and grew up in a messed up environment (war...). Your mother sounds pretty abusive.

She sounds like she is a very unhappy person to be treating you this way. She probably has issues of her own and likes to take things out on you. I would let her know that she hurts your feelings when she treats you this way, and that she is mentally and verbally abusing you. Is there any else in your family that you can talk to this about? Is your father in the picture at all? I think it would be great if you could get a second party to confront her on her behavior.

Why do you let her? Move out! I'm 16 and I chose to move out instead of dealing with my mother and her annoying little drug habit.

She hates herself. So love yourself and forget her.

She may just want to motivate you to change for the best. If you think about what she's saying, is there any truth to it? Be honest with yourself. Perhaps you may have found the answer.

hmmm.... this is quite a serious situation...its easier said than done but the fact is to let her bitch and you carry on your way.... as there is an old saying that says you cannot bark at a barking dog...so let that be yor moto...you let her bitch if she is happy with that , you continue being as you are...dont start bitching but try and appear as if that does not affect you even a bit..at the most move to the other room or plug in a ear-phone!!!! as you said above you cannot move out..well moving out cannot better the situation in the long run because the root remains that she IS and WILL remain your MOTHER...Good does Win over Evil in the long run so after you ignore her for about a couple of weeks things should start to appear a bit sober.. by shouting at her and letting her see you affected by her words only assures her that you are the most affected and it does encourage her to do it more often... The problem with your mother ould be she didnt have a proper childhood or teenage-days, so she is jealous of your life..and wants to make it worst ...so it should start from your side by AVOIDING her and IGNORING her bitched talks..... another way out would be to talk to your father..why cannot he come to the forfont and be a man and sort things out??after all you and your mother are his responsibility.... well, i hope this thing helps... have fun and dont let others ruin your life.... cheers...hope to hear from you in the future...kip in tch and let me know how thins are ...:)

she is just jealous of you. she must have a very unhappy life, and you obviously dont. it doesnt sound like talking to her is going to help. do u have any friends u can move out with?

I agree with the person who said, she hates herself. My mother has suffered from depression and painfully low self-esteem her whole life, and in turn always made me, my sister and my father feel like shit because of her problems. As for the fat remarks, a friend of mine who is healthy weight...maybe a bit chubby but still cute...her mom constantly forced her to go on diets and even tried to make her get liposuction (at 17) I found out later that her mother used to be overweight in highschool and then became addicted to exercising and plastic surgery to make up for it later in life. So that in itself is probably another personal thing with your mom. Also here's a word of advice my dad always told me...DON'T TAKE THE BAIT! Your mom lives for drama and conflict. Don't give her what she wants...walk away. And move out of you can. Good luck.

That's uncalled for. She shouldn't call you fat or put you down like that. Sorry to hear you have this kind of relationship with your mom. I would assume she does this out of her own misery. She's trying to drag you down with her it would seem.

She may just hate herself who knows. One thing is true she is hurtfull mean and nasty. why she has been allowed to spawn children is beyond me. If you could sue someone for this they would be sued for sure but you cannot. Further evidence that we live in such a broken world. Good luck intrying to help yourself through this it wont be easy but it can be done. Stay tight with God

She's simply a bitch. My mother is a bitch ass ho too.

Remember...parents are people too--who are ALSO prone to mistakes!!! The fact that she calls you names, may not be what most would considered to be a GOOD thing--but I'll bet she has good intentions. Think of it as, "The WRONG execution of the RIGHT idea." Even if you disagree with her methods, you should STILL honor her--because is STILL your mother! Try to learn from what you think are HER mistakes--for when YOU become a mother! ;)

YOu should try to be really nice and love her and see how she reacts - the worse she gets the nicer you get - ask her how you can help her out, it would be an interesting thing to try

ummm let's see.... i guess because she is a nasty unhappy bitch?

This is a terrible way to look at the world, and at those you should be building up because you love them. Many of those who behave this way are doing what psychologists call "projecting." They have never felt good about themselves and are, in effect, using you as a scapegoat. I know it's very difficult, but try to be as kind as possible. When she dies, you'll be glad you did.

hmmmm, are we sisters? I have a stiff drink or pop a vicodin whem my mother visits. Then everything she says or does rolls right off my back. In other words, you will have to learn to ignore it. She won't change. Mine hasn't yet in 47 years.

Did you ever think that she may be right? She may tried to make you lose fat because she knows how harsh life is on fat women. I think you should cool your head and think if she is trying to abuse you or trying to make a better person out of you. P.S.: I know this is not the answer you are looking for but i think you should work things out with your mom not move out.Life out there might be alot harsher than you can imagine right now.

Excuse me for saying, but you do not sound old enough to move out. And if your mom is so awful, then move out instead of staying under her roof. If is OK to rant about her, AND is OK to save yourself money and such and live under her roof? Sounds to me like there might be 2 sides to this story. If she was so nasty, she could have tossed you out to the street since you state you are old enough to live on your own.