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by Anonymous on March 31st, 2006

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My girlfriend won't perform oral sex on me, although every time we have sex I go down on her. I don't want to do anything she doesn't enjoy, but are there any ways to convince her to try it?

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  • by Bonedry on November 28th, 2006

    Bonedry

    I can't put my mind into a tit for tat mentality, meaning that because I do it for her, then she is to do it for me. it wouldn’t be so wonderful an idea if one were speaking about the woman allowing you to perform anal sex, and then her turning to you saying, OK BABY, MY TURN NOW as she’s greasing up the ole strap on, now would it?

    About one third of the women I've had relations with abstained from participating orally upon my male organ. It makes me no never mind, as yes having oral stimulation has a feel unlike any other, but my reason for being with my significant other isn't to see what I can get from her, or how many places I get to put it.

    The dialog and understanding unto love making is just as important as the act, and the more comfortable and safe your partner feels, the greater the bond will be when one. With concern to dialog, I mean really talking about your love making, and addressing all the concerns you both have without pressure, nor guilt, or childish anger. Through discussion, I have found that most women that didn't give head hadn’t been so much against the act itself, but was rather due from a bad or rough first experience, or due to a real fear of choking, and or complete embarrassment from possibly gagging or bringing something up something.

    Though allot of love making comes instinctual, it's comes very important to a woman that when she pleases a man, that she does it for him well, so if she is apprehensive, be supportive and reassuring unto her, and give her honest encouragement when wanting to try something new. Good luck, and be patient. Peace!

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  • by peachyglow on November 28th, 2006

    peachyglow

    clean yourself very well and shave... it makes the idea more appealing

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  • by science_geek on March 31st, 2006

    science_geek

    It depends on her. Maybe there is a reason that she won't from her past. Maybe she figures that if you are willing to service her in that way without her having to... Or maybe she finds the idea so unappealing that she never will.

    My advice would be to discuss it with her at a time that is apart from physical sexual activity. If she won't, and if its that important, find someone else who will.

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  • by wthing8 on May 29th, 2008

    wthing8

    Get another Girlfriend. The thought of a lifetime without Oral sex is a nightmare....SHe is repressed and/ore lesbian.or you have a hygeine problem...either way.....you need to move on..and find out what great sex is.

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  • by johndavis985 on August 21st, 2011

    johndavis985

    Hey man,

    so, you want to know how to get your girlfriend to enjoy giving you head, and stop looking at the whole thing as a “chore” or a “job?”

    There are a bunch of things you can do to get your girlfriend to enjoy giving you head. First, figure out why she isn’t enjoying giving you head at the moment. Why do you think it is? I’ll tell you why. You are behaving like a loser. You are constantly asking her for permission to do anything. You spend most of your time with her and you are slowly, but surely, killing your social life and confidence.

    When you have no confidence and when you believe that you couldn’t pick up other women, you start believing that you are a loser, and you start behaving in that way. Your girlfriend can feel that, and it’s not attractive. The more your girlfriend is attracted to you the more she’ll enjoy giving you head.

    So, a way to make giving head more interesting to your girlfriend is that you CHANGE your behavior by being more self confident and taking control of your relationship. This requires that you are more decisive, determined and dominant as a guy in your daily life. If you can be more attractive to other women as well, that will make you even more attractive to your girlfriend because she’ll be afraid of loosing you.

    The next thing you need to do is connect positive feelings in your girlfriends head to giving you head. How do you do that? The next time your girlfriend gives you head, position her in a way so that you can finger her while she’s giving you head. Install good feelings during and after a blow job. Moan loud, tell her how she’s beautiful and how great it feels when she gives you head. Encourage her to continue. Once it’s over, tell her how great it was, praise her. She needs to be rewarded afterward so she feels even better about it. This way, giving you head will be “worth the effort” for her, and, over time - she’ll do it FOR HER OWN PLEASURE.

    You can do that by properly brainwashing her into falling in love with giving you head and making her a girl with a more pleasing personality. I know this sounds crazy, manipulative, and maybe even unorthodox - but, it works. And, believe it or not, your girlfriend will be MUCH happier with her sex life once you persuade her to love giving you head.

    These were some basic tips on how to get your girlfriend interested in giving you head. If you want to learn more advanced persuasion tactics for making your girlfriend ADDICTED to giving you head and BEGGING you to go down on you, go and read Jack's Blowjob Persuasion, a step by step guide on brainwashing your girlfriend into giving you more and better head.

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  • by Anonymous on October 25th, 2009

    Anonymous

    Some women just dont like giving oral sex. For alot of reason. I have sister will not suck a man dick, for religious reason. You have to respect that. However I would stop doing it her because I feel if you can do it so can she .So just have sex. Sometimes you can try tell her to put food like jam or jelly, or honey to make more appealing. Personally I would just fuck and let it be .

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  • by Sunblynd 5.0 on December 4th, 2006

    Sunblynd 5.0

    Fire and ice,... though a lot of the answers herein are helpful, it helps to make a game out of it, get a box of assorted flavored popcicles and have her perform on those and use them in the act of fellatio, it will make her mouth numb and the flavor helps ease the taste of anything she may find discerning about the act itself. It is also a very interesting sensation for you as you first feel the cold and then a warming sensation. Try it, it's fun!

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  • by Anonymous on October 12th, 2009

    Anonymous

    You need to make it clear that you guys should be equally sexually giving. Any guy that goes down on his girl is a great guy. Not many guys do that. You deserve a good BJ.

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  • by goofy66 on October 11th, 2009

    goofy66

    maybe you can wash your organ little better and put some good smell. maybe that smell like a fish shop?

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  • by Frederik on June 12th, 2009

    Frederik

    You have to learn to respect the decision of a girl.
    If she likes to receive oral service it means that she is very intelligent and self-esteemed.
    So you have no choice but to respect her point of view.
    And if she does not like to give oral service to you, you will have to accept her point of view.
    And after my experiences it makes no sense at all trying to convince a girl or woman to give oral service if she does not like it from the very beginning.
    So you have to eal with her attitude and my advice will be that you give to her the best oral service as you can and stop to expect that she will give oral service some time to you.
    Otherwise your relationship will end soon.

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  • by lion.eagle3 on February 20th, 2012

    lion.eagle3

    hahahha i have seen this before bro she is slut she did this alot of times she is not injoying it you batter get another gf iam sure 100%

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  • by alastairhoyne on May 6th, 2011

    alastairhoyne

    The first thing is...
    make sure the cock is completely levelleldid ...the cock ...is completely ...levellled
    Also:
    - Clean your willy
    - Shave your balls and gooch
    - Dont spray perfume on your dick
    - Get some nice Calvin Klein briefs

    No need to say thanks
    btw - I get a BJ 3 times a day ...minimum :)

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  • by Marquis on December 4th, 2006

    Marquis

    I'd be curious to know what age you both are and what reasons she has for not doing it? religious? self-conscious? Maybe she just dosen't know how and is too nervous about it.

    I remember having to teach 1 ex on how to give me a good blowjob when we were like 19 years old. She just thought it was strange and too dirty. We had gotten a little drunk and she had decided to use honey on me...

    Let's just say that she ended being the best at it... even until now.

    I should get that t-shirt hell short that reads "I thought your girlfriend that thing you like ;)"

    Good luck

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  • by My Favourite Life on May 6th, 2008

    My Favourite Life

    Sounds like a visit to a sex therapist (or better, a psychiatrist) would be in order.

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  • by onyhannah on March 23rd, 2011

    onyhannah

    I just ran into this site http://www.jacksblowjobpersuasion.com, maybe that can help you :)

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  • by Jaime on May 30th, 2009

    Jaime

    My girlfriend is the same. She enjoys receiving oral sex, she actually demands it, and I love going down, so there is a match there.
    When it comes to her going down on me, she says she just does not like it.
    She tells me many relationships go the other way, many men do not like going down on a woman, while the woman goes down on them all the time. She told me that is the way it will be, put up or shut up.
    Truth is, I love this women, so I just shut up. Sex is great, and she goes wild while I go down on her, I think that is good.

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  • by Jaime on July 1st, 2009

    Jaime

    I have almost the same issue with my GF. She does give me head, but on occassion. On the other hand, she demands oral sex from me. I like giving her head a lot, so she has it made, she gets all the head she wants, while I do not.

    If you have a GF that wants to receive, but does not want to give head, if you love her, you have to do it.
    I am trying to encourage her to do it more, but I realized that she does not like it that much. How can I complain? Most men are the other way around, demanding their GFs to go down, while not reciprocating. My GF told me that and it is true, so how can I force her to go down on me when she does not want it? On the other hand, I can make her very happy by giving her head, and she loves it more than sex itself.

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