I always want to know if my husband is masturbating while showering. I listen at the bathroom door or put a mirror under the door to try to watch him. If he did and he dont have sex with me I get mad, but he dont know. Is that normal at all?

If he has done it in the past he'll do it in the future. What girls don't get is masterbating to guys some of the time is just to relax. There is not alot of emotion to it. Now if he is doing this instead of having sex with you all the time. Damn dump his ass and get on the love train. But if he is having sex with you on a constant basis. And doing this at certain times. Hell i don't know you just have to make up your mind. It's a personal call. I mean spiritually God punished with death for spilling your seed upon the ground. If you're not spiritual but are being sexually satisfied. Who cares. If he's in the shower screamin Jacklyn and your name is Sarah.. I might get worried...

Just open the door when he gets quite. If you can catch him, wait until all of your finds are over and then make a big joke out of telling the story of how you caught him. If he gets made, explain that if he is going to do that he should at least finish on you.

Who ever says that all women masturbate,just like men,is out of their maind!Because I do not! I beleive that if you are going to have ANY sexual relations,it should be with another person.And if you are having to do it alone,then you are one sad human being!Just like you,I have caught my boyfriend masturbating a few times,and even catching him,and making him promise that he will never do it again,he still does!So I have come to the conclusion that its not me,its him!I am one fine ass woman,and if my man has to masturbate,instead of using all of his sexual energy on me,well then he is one card shy of a full deck and needs to hit the highway!Dont beleive for one minute that a man HAS to masturbate,and its completely normal,because its not! Its just another excuse for men to get away with something else.Because if the situations were reversed and women were doing it,then we would be the ones that had the problem in their eyes.So lose him Honey,you dont need it!!

I hope this comment help you girls. I’m a 45 years old man, married to a wonderful lady for 23 years; I love her to death; we enjoy sex every time we do it; it’s not too often because she’s not always in the best disposition to have sex ; in my case I’m always wanting sex pleasure and she knows it; I masturbate every day in the shower and sometimes 2 or 3 times a day when I have time; the fact that I masturbate does not mean that I don’t love my wife or don’t want to have sex with her, at the contrary, I love to have sex with my wife and sometimes I masturbate over those thoughts , thinking how good is having sex with her; now, she knows that I masturbate all the time and I wish she catches me doing it so I could tell her to get to me and help me out to finish; I believe it is normal for a guy at any age to masturbate and the more private the better I don’t know why; so, don’t worry, when you think or know that your husband or boyfriend is masturbating you should get in the mood and jump on him and give him a BJ and enjoy yourself; he’s gone be grateful; I'd be.

Not unusual for men to masturbate, even when there is a lovely woman around. They sometimes do it just to scratch an itch! LOL But if it has become a habit and he prefers his hand over your body, there is a problem indeed. Go to joint counseling to discuss the issue --he may be addicted to this behavior and it will take a while to cure him. Meanwhile, a little casual self-pleasuring won't hurt either of you.

I have caught my FIANCEE several times masterbating. He does it in the bathroom on the toilet, shower, or in the bedroom. I have asked him several times and he says he denies it everytime. I have a webcam and set it up one day when i was at work. I checked it when i got home and noticed that he did on the bed!!! I finally confronted him and he said that when i'm not around he does it, and never when im home because I'm here. WELL, i have heard him in the bathroom, looked underneath the door and watched him, hand movement up and down and slow and fast. He knows i have NO visual proof so when i do bring it up, he denies everything and says i'm looking to pick a fight with him.. always turning it around on me!!! It is constantley on my mind when he is alone in the bedroom with door shut or in the bathroom taking a dump and shower. He takes like half hour or a little longer and everytime he does masterbate. We have been together for 2 years now and we had the best sex at the beginning. Now i'm lucky if iget it 2's a week when i use to get 3 x's a day. I am a very sexual person and always the aggressive one NOW and i don't know what to do anymore. I want him to be honest with me instead of lying, and not sure why he is. I told him i didn't care but i just don't wanna be lied to and no WHITE LIES either...(what she don't know won't hurt her)... that's the same thing as lying. Someone please please please help me. How to talk to him maybe, or give me some answers so i can stop stressing and spying everyday on him!!!!! PLEASE HELP

Of COURSE it's normal. ALL MEN MASTURBATE. ALL. Doesn't matter if they're married or having a lot of sex. It's an auto matic response. And it has NOTHING to do with you, Mrs. Nothing at all. Guys get into their own bodies, and theres no denying they know best what feels best. So get over it, or ask him if you can watch and get turned on.

If you just run in on him on "accident", that should let you find out. But don't do it more than once! Otherwise, he might get suspicious. Or, try to have a shower WITH him. That might encourage him to have sex with you.

it's not normal for a man to masturbate so much, i give into when his wife or girlfriend has her monthly it 's normal for him to masturbate but why all the time everyday when u have a woman that is willing ready and able to blow your kool. i think they don't need a woman if they r doing this.

Join the club honey. I have the same goddamned problem. My partner jerks off all the time alone in the bed but never wants sex with me. What a fucking laugh. i am always horny and atleast drill for 30 minutes otherwise I drill good, deep and hard for 50 minutes until my ladies say that they are burning inside!!! If you are in UK...lets meet up some day??

Ok, this is what you need to do. As soon as he gets in the shower, you need to walk in and start getting undressed right in front of him. Tell him that you are horny and need to see and feel his naked body. Get in the shower with him and start washing him. Eventually work your way to his penis and start stroking it. Tell him that you've always wanted to see how far he could shoot. He'll love you for it.

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If he would RATHER masturbate than have sex with you, then you may have a problem. All men masturbate at all stages of their lives (as do most women!) but not ALWAYS rather than having sex with their woman. Maybe he has become lazy and selfish and all he cares about is his own pleasure and release, then that is a problem on his part, which needs to be delt with.

Sorry to be this blunt, but another reason could be that he may not find you attractive anymore.(although I dont think that is likey since you say that you have sex 2-3 times per week. That, honey, is rather normal for stable people, who have jobs and lives - if a relationship is all about the sex, it 's not going to last!!! In a normal relationship the first 3-12 months or so usually is ALL about the sex (2-3 times per day or more) but once you have settled into your lives together, that WILL usually decrease.

But, think about everything. Do you love eachother, have things in common, laugh together, enjoy everything else together, respect one another want to share your live together?? Well, then you need to decide.. you could see yourself enjoying sex with your man 2-3 times per week and then yourself masturbate a few times, to make up for the 'loss of sex' or is it that you crave actual sex with your man many times per day?

You need to realise that sexual attention can become a craving - you need it to feel sexy and for the ego boost, and that is something you need to work on. You may be quite needy of your mans time, which causes him to withdraw and masturbate instead of making love to you. Maybe your sexual appetite scares him a bit! try to work on that issue.

You could try to be less 'available' to him, sexually. Men are hunters, they like to do the aggressive bit once in a while, not know for sure that you will always be ready to jump. Maybe try saying no a few times, and then he may well be all over you instead of masturbating. Or he may just need a bit of 'me time'

But let me tell you this... if you are only engaged at this point, and you cannot live wihout sex 2-3 times per day, then your current man isn't going to be the right man for you. No matter how much you nag (especially if you nag) will you get more sex. wanting sex needs to come from both of you. you can't make him have more sex with you. If you need more... dont marry this one - there are men out there who need sex many times per day too.

In my opinion, you're actually not sex starved, you're just hankering after the past. Try to live for the now and accept that you have a healthy sex life. Try picking up a hobby, go out with friends, be less available. see what happens.

Good luck

um, you shouldn't spy on him masturbating. not normal. Why don't you 2 have sex?