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  • Force yourself to go and talk to a girl. Go to a club if your of the age and talk to some girls. This way you might meet the right girl for you.
  • Don't worry about it. The right girl will come at some point or another. Until then have fun be yourself. Life is always good in one way or another
  • There are lots of places to meet women. You could try getting involved in some local bowling league, softball league, or visit a large church that has classes for singles and other programs. But, don't worry too much. I'm sure some gal will come along one day and knock you off your feet! Just take your time, and don't rush into anything.
  • You will find someone. It will happen. I just lost a really good relationship in my life and am trying really hard to get through it. Everyone keeps telling me it will just take time, and right now it's so hard to accept that, but that is the advice I give to you. It will take time. Don't rush into anything when a girl does come along. Don't be impatient, and do wait for the RIGHT one.
  • First of all I believe you should get more conifdence in this feel. Once you are happy with the fact you are single, women will want to be closer to you. Also, don't be afraid to take a chance and go out and make the first move. Confidence is key in relationships and in meeting new people.
  • You have to get in the public and make eye contact and start some conversations. You have to look as good as you can and put yourself in places where you can meet people. Church is a really easy place to be accepted and get to know others.
  • Stop looking for it... If you force the situation you won't go anywhere Be happy with yourself and your life and people with be attracted to that
  • How old are you? Kidding, really, it'll happen when it happens (says someone who's still waiting on it)... usually around the time you give up the perfect person will come along, so they say. It's easy for people to say "put yourself out there" but I am a homebody and don't feel that altering my routine would attract "my type." You know? Don't sweat it.
  • Are you really young? Because if you are id tell you something different then if you were older....
  • A relative of one of my hubby's friends had confidence issues. (I've never met them, but I've heard the story several times). Apparantly someone talked her into going to a speed dating session. She had to talk to over 20 men, spending 8 minutes with each one. She didn't meet Mr. Right, but it gave her the boost she needed to be more social and outgoing. A month after this speed dating thing she approached a guy at a coffee shop and they've been dating since. Here's the website my hubby's friend gave http://www.8minutedating.com/signup/eventList.cgi
  • 21, well then I would say just be yourself. I'm 18 and I find guys who just try and impress women to be annoying, it seems like they are just trying to get laid. But are you in college or somthing where you could take a class like co-ed sports where you could have a chance to be social?
  • Some flowers bloom late in life but they are the lasting kind. Single is the opposite of marriage. I don't think you want to be married just yet. This should not make you unhappy. If you are looking to find a steady girlfriend then always "be yourself". Girls can see when guys are putting on. Your steady girlfriend is just around the corner, then another steady girlfriend will be around the next corner after that. I think you get the message. Keep this question so you can look back on it in a decade.
  • The second you completely forget about it the girl finds you. They have a radar or something. It's very strange.
  • its hard if ur a homebody. i prefer to stay at home but i do like to party once in a while. if ur like me, when u get that urge to go out, GO! go to a club and dance with some nice girl. u never know, that day u get that urge could b the day u meet ur girl :)
  • The more things you do where women are present, the more likely the chance you will meet someone. Volunteer at a political office or food bank, take classes at the local community college, join a health club that has social activities in addition to usual work out stuff, get a job in a place where a lot of women hang out, eat meals at the mall frequently, join a church or social club.
  • how old are you? if you are a teenager then it shouldn't matter
  • Yeah. Focus on making yourself a better person, believe me, this alone can take a lifetime to complete, second, get involved with alot of new activities, try to learn new things. Be out there and smile. Chances are you will come across that girl who you feel is right, or compatible with you, and you will have that level of self-betterment to show and impress her with. A lot of times, love comes when you're not looking for it. Don't put a time line on getting a girlfriend man, when she comes around, she comes around. Oh and when you do find that girl, go for it, don't be scared.
  • girls can be a pain anyways.find something your passionate about and seek it out.dudes answer above is good.
  • Hi I am english so don't know if it works for you but if you have the time go to local tennis club/swimming pool, voluntary work, run in a park once a day(plus it will muscle you which is not negligable!) Don't look around with anxious eyes, wait for the moment; do your thing,(s) and if it is interesting and interests you,SHE will find YOU good luck And re-read "desiderata"!
  • Look sweety aim gonna tell you something that i read regarding finding the special someone not too long ago: Starts from you, doing the things You really want to do in life helps you find the other person, when you're trying to find yourself. Think of 10 Things you want to do Before you Die, be realistic, don't think bout how much money can cost you or time, juts put them on schedule, ( Just Do It ) try to work 'em out, It might take time but it'll be worth it, doesn't matter how simple or hard it is, keeps your head up and clear, so when the special someone arrives to your life you'll be full of joy 'cause everything that you're doing for yourself is Fulfilling You, and 'cause you're happy people feel attracted to you, 'cause every body wants to be enjoying life or be a part of someone else's joy. who wants to be with a unhappy person? nobody. =) Hope it helps you out, The best wishes my friend.
  • get yourself out and enjoy life. you cant find love it has to find you. like the last person said. you are most attractive when happy and you will find without even trying people will be approaching you, not just fir a relationship but even just for friendship! good luck!!
  • When I stopped looking, I found someone.
  • go to a singles club and just try to meet new people. dont go strait in for a relationship, try and build a friendship first. if you dont come on too strong, then you will most likely succeed. dont worry many people go their whole life without seeing any action. Have you seen the movie 40 year-old virgin. just follow this advice and you wont be 40 with no action, and OCD. as long as you meet some cool friends then you should be pretty happy. so get out there, be funny, maybe work out a bit (going to a gym is a good way to meet girls) and i promise you'll meet someone. and remember if you seem too interested it will be a major turn off. And of course if girls don't work out, you can always move to California and go...............................gay.. just a thought. :] brownie & sprinkles
  • why not try match.com or eharmony or something like that. Also I think you should just have more confidence and get out there more. Like go to clubs, bowling, have your own big party, something like that and then talk to the girls you see.
  • first of very all go and put yourself in situaions where u are arround Ladys maybe u can take hiphop-dance-lesson (normal dances were better if u already had a girl) then dont push yorself try to just talk to girls without any effort of imressing then one day u will end up talking to a girl who likes u and trust me she will let u know and then remember make the frame first go to dancelessons, sportclubs, do things where u likely to be arround girls and then just be yourself
  • first of very all go and put yourself in situaions where u are arround Ladys maybe u can take hiphop-dance-lesson (normal dances were better if u already had a girl) then dont push yorself try to just talk to girls without any effort of imressing then one day u will end up talking to a girl who likes u and trust me she will let u know and then remember make the frame first go to dancelessons, sportclubs, do things where u likely to be arround girls and then just be yourself
  • Get involved in some sort of civic activities - join your local SPCA for example and volunteer to walk dogs, ( hay it worked for me! ). Don't be afraid to ask any girl you like out for an afterwork coffee, ( that too worked for me and gave me my wife and love of my life of 24 years now ). The thing is - forget about finding a "girlfriend" for the moment and try making new friends who just happen to be "girls" and see where it goes from there. Half of all the friends I have had in my life have been women - and I eventually married one of them. I had no Idea at the time we first went out for coffee that I would eventually marry her - but it just worked out that way. Your "girlfriend" may be the chick who does the afternoon shift at the 7-11, or works at the Rite aid down the street - have you asked any of these ladies to a movie or a burger? You have to ask first in order to get a date - and you have to date in order to have a girlfriend. Don't be scarred - ask away! You never know. A further point, my youngest daughter told me this story, she liked a guy that came into her store each week or so but he never asked her out - this went on for a year and eventually he finally did ask her out only to find out that my daughter was seeing somebody else at the time - she told him that any time before in the last 9 months or so she would have been glad to go out with him IF HE ONLY WOULD HAVE ASKED HER - and now it was too late for that. Remember - the early bird gets the worm - or in this case - the lady. Stop being silly and start asking ladies out....don't be fussy now...the sweetest candy sometimes comes in the plainest wrapper. And once you start dating you'll see how easy it all really is to do. Good luck!
  • Well. you could go out and meet new people that always helps. i dont think its that bad you actually could meet someone without releasing and just think they could be the onee. you shouldnt worry because the more you worry the more you dont notice if anyones took an interest. i mean i was worried i wasnt going to get onee because of low self esteem but if believed in myself and have got the most amazing bf so just keep looking and stay strong :)
  • I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 25. I found when I was younger and I tried to hard I repelled them, when I loosened up and treated them a little more like my guy friends and less like OMG A GIRL, I had more success. One great way is Internet dating. It takes away that uncertain what are their intention feelings that dating has. You know you are both looking, of course that makes rejection a little more difficult because niether can use the 'I'm not looking for a relationship' line, but its less akward then asking them out after entering the friend zone. Basically loosen up and it will happen. Secondly, don't look for a relationship if you are having issues. It won't work. Love yourself first, because if you are looking for someone to give you that it will never happen and you will become more depressed. Just remember, you are 21, its not too young to be in a panic about this.

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