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by Rev.Marx on May 21st, 2008
Honestly, I don't know. Because, while the numbers matter to a certain extent, it matters more what the numbers meant to her.
I met a very lovely girl once, who had only slept with three guys. All of which, she had married. It sounded innocent at first, until I realized she had...underlying issues. The issues were partially due to her sister, who I was...kindof dating. I say kind of, because we never really went out, we just... had sex. At the time, she was my sixth, I was maybe her 46th. In two months. Nice girl, addicted to sex.
So, before you start asking how many, should ask what they were like first.
by Mini_kilt on November 8th, 2007
I agree with the answers provided so far. A girl can have hundreds, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't take her seriously. Many people can and do have a lot of sexual partners when they are young and single, it doesn't mean they cheat and it doesn't mean they will never settle.
You should be asking yourself if she seems to have calmed down or not, if she's still very flirtatious at the bar (and still going to bars a lot), still parties like crazy and can take or leave you, then maybe this isn't the best time for a relationship. If she can enjoy herself for a few dates without jumping in the sack or ditching you to meet some friends at the club, I'd say it's ok to take her seriously.
by DJ Butter jetpacking up up and away on November 8th, 2007
It's just a number...people can change. For a few years I was quite permiscuous and made my "number" higher than I care to admit to. However, once I matured and realized that sex does not equal love then my attitude changed resulting in only one partner for the last 3 years.
So to sum it up, don't worry about how many people she has been with in the past...worry about whether she seems to be committed and faithful to you currently.
by AnyGivenSunday84 on January 23rd, 2009
Not necessarily the number but they should have stopped being promiscuous by a certain age. My ex-GF (24) is preggo, still goes to bars and tries to pick up random's...That is the definition of a skank!
by erol the peder on October 10th, 2008
There is nothing wrong with how many guys a girl sleeps with. It can be really high. However, the question was how many is it for a girl to not be taken seriously. I re all of the answers and if you are a guy...BE HONEST! Nothing wrong with a one-night stand, but you don't want to walk in a room with a girlfriend and many other guys know what she sounded and felt like intimately. seriously! just being honest.
by Capital J on January 18th, 2009
u cant put a specific number to it. you have to realize whats in the past is in the past. people make mistakes. people do stupid things. people can change but there is a point where you gotta draw the line
by Anonymous on October 3rd, 2008
I completely disagree with Garster. Sex isn't always about love and you're judging a person by how many partnets they have had. If you took time to know the person you would know why they have had the number of partners they have had. A large number of partners doesn't mean that the person is being irresponsible and vice versa. It only takes one irresponsible encounter to get an an std, so while you may walk around with a holier than thou attitude it may be that person who you sleep with that can be the one that does you wrong. The number of partners doesn't matter if she has been responsible. A woman's worth isn't in her crotch so stop treating her like it.
by Still breathing on May 21st, 2008
Dosen't really matter I think.
1, 2, 100, 1000.. When you are thee one then it makes no difference. IMO
Everyone grows up in different areas, with different standards and different morals.
It just depends on your morals and comfort zone with the situation.
by Mystical Dim on March 15th, 2009
wow..this is by far the first question to make my blood boil..
how many guys have slept around with hundreds of girls and expect to be taken seriously?
it doesn't matter how many she's slept with...if you want to have a real relationship with her or attempt at one then go for it, take the risk...if it desn't work out and if you see that you can't take her "seriously" then leave
by Anonymous on March 5th, 2009
My neighbors daughter is 22 and she hooks up with almost every guy that IM's her. I have seen her many of times in one night hit on certen guys just to go sleep with them, Some of these guys are real weiners, scumballs who of course are going to do her. She shows herself on cam, makes a date and is gone a day to a week with them. She doesn't even know their name 90% of the time.
She will be getting hurt, raped again (2x allready) or even killed by these guys. She is 5ft 86 lbs and is looking for love in the wrong places. I'd say she has had at about 200+ parners in the five years since she turned 18. I was a nice guy and got used ( never was with her as I did ask but saw the signs of an std or worse so never did it)
But to answer your question at 22 with 200 partners I call that a slut if it's under 15 she has experiance but not too used.
by xclusive1 on January 27th, 2009
You can't put a number to too many, it all depends on the individual. I lied to my s/o at first about how many people I slept with because I was scared that he would hold it against me and not take me seriously. I eventually told him the truth (35 men at 28 years old)and why I lied and he respects me for it. My number to an ignorant person would mean whore, cheater, skank, etc. but I am not any of those things. I am very much the settle down type and faithful person. I had different reasons for sleeping with the people that I did. I don't regret any of it, they were not mistakes. If I were a man I would base a woman on her character and traits not her number of partners.
by buttman on January 19th, 2009
That depends. How many sexual partners was she willing
to confess?
by Jerk Stroker on January 19th, 2009
mmm its kind of hard if a girl sleeps with too many men. I think that they are a hoe going way too hard. most people say the past is the past and as long as she's good now? i still have that doubt. Feels like your turning a hoe into a housewife. But hey what can u do? Your not the first guy anyways. So in my opinion just make sure that bitch treats you right or kick that hoe to the curb!
by sassie on January 18th, 2009
So your telling me that because I made the choice to do drugs as a young adult makes me a bad person?? Because if that's what your saying your so wrong! I have a huge heart I work to make other peoples lives better! I learned from those bad choices I made and no one could have taught me those lessons!
And for my cousin it was the same thing. She made bad choices as a teen and turned her life around by the time she was 18 years old! She made better choices than I did if you consider that I was using drugs at 20 and at that time in her life she was married with a 2 year old little boy!!! She has always been a stay at home mom and now she owns her own business and makes good money as a photographer! I don't think that her few bad choices as a child reflect who she is in her life today! I love how small minded people are!!!
by sassie on January 16th, 2009
judge someone on who they are today not on the decisions they made in the past!!!
by Taciturnu on October 3rd, 2008
It's besides the point. Is she sleeping with other people now? No? OK, then she can be taken seriously.
by sassie on October 3rd, 2008
I don't think that is any way to determine if you want to date someone. I am 24 and have been with 6 people... my cousin had been with 30 before she was 18 but now she is married and has 2 beautiful children! I am not married and I have a 3 year old!!! Look into her heart and decide if a serious relationship is what she is looking for!
by Badboy1962 on October 3rd, 2008
its not relevent because she may have had a wayward early sexual life or may not have met the right person etc etc etc. no reason why once she is with the right person that she will be happy forever!
by trouble... on March 19th, 2009
I would have to draw the line at 1, maybe 2, thousand.
by Bjornst on March 19th, 2009
This depends on your relationship. If you are looking for an 'open relationship' it shouldn't matter. If you are traditional or religious in your values, it should be a low number. People who say "The past doesn't matter...blah blah blah" are WRONG. Why?
Because relationships evolve. You cannot expect somebody who is promiscuous to change. I'm a man and not promiscuous. I simply 'do not' pick up women, have 'booty calls' whatever. That is a 'lifestyle.' Chances are if you have to ask the question, the answer is "you need to find a different guy because you are too promiscuous for this one." I know, because I'm a "Good boy" and for a long time dated a woman who was more promiscuous than me. She tried to hide her past from me and ultimately I found out and wasn't pissed off so much about the sex (I was not pleased neither) but even more concerned about her concealing the truth. Sounds like you are on the road to concealing this yourself because it's a concern for you. If you are promiscuous save yourself the trouble of betrayal by having a swinging relationsip or some otehr open relationship with somebody who thinks like you. Just don't be hypocritical about it, and don't marry a "traditional guy" if you are not very traditional. It won't work out. If you are a ho, marry a ho. Be honest, and require as much honesty out of your guy.
by Thinker on March 15th, 2009
So she likes to have sex...that is no problem...just have an open relationship with her and enjoy it while it lasts
by Anonymous on March 15th, 2009
Well I'll have to agree with a previous post stating that "it depends on the place she’s at in her life when you two meet." the signs are all around you two and at any age over 25yrs a person should have a good grip on reality to watch for any red flags with your potential partner. Sure a man wants some one who they can call their very own but the truth is if she isn't a virgin when you met her, well then the reality is she has had partners. She however will tell you the truth or lie and hers the deal breaker "ONLY SHE KNOWS THE TRUTH"
So you can get all high and mighty and be disgusted with the truth or pleased with a lie, ultimately it's all on you… just don't ask the question of past partners after you became a part of the equation.
by Anthony on February 20th, 2009
At 25, if the number is double-digits, then she's probably not someone I would get too serious about. But as i always say, asking a woman about her sexual past is almost always a bad idea.
by SalientAlien on January 26th, 2009
If I found out she had more than about five one-nighters (serious relationships aside) I would really start think different about it. I believe in giving the benefit of a doubt, but let's face it, some girls are just dirty. You know what they're good for lol ;)
by Nod.Coltsfan on January 26th, 2009
Less than 10 for me. Quite frankly idealy I'd want to date a girl who has three or less partners, because I wouldn't want to date anyone who has slept with people who they didn't seriously date.
by Jamie on January 26th, 2009
I think the real question is how many guys she slept with that were not serious boyfriends.... how many (if any) one night stands she's had. I think it's more of a question of does she give it up to anyone or does she have standards or morals. Does she protect her self and treat her body well. If you really want a number I'd say any more then 9 or 10 be careful. :)
by Smart2 is back! Did you miss me? on January 23rd, 2009
Any that she had after you entered into an exclusive relationship with her. Any before you, no matter the number, do not count. I assume you both came to this relationship knowing that neither of you was a virgin. Why is the number important? If you are worried about disease, she could have AIDS from one sexual partner. Get tested and leave the numbers alone.
by Carpediem COAT ab imo pectore on January 23rd, 2009
I will not criticize anyone I will only provide my very personal opinion. It is not a matter of “how many” once you have taken into consideration the very many factors that are involved in a serious long-term relationship.
When a man has certain moral standards with which he was brought up and according to what he saw in his parent’s home, this is the type of man who when ready chooses a woman to be his girlfriend, his fiancé and his wife. He usually expects his wife to be the corner stone in his marriage, on which he may build a home based on very much love, a serious relationship, friendship, honesty, commitment, trust, respect and loyalty these moral values will be the corner stone of a well established marriage.
If a woman has had several sexual partners it matters if she admits it to her future fiancé, as that man has the right to choose if he can live with her past or not. If the woman chooses not to mention it, he will sooner than later know because there are certain expressions in a sexual relationship which can not be hidden, her experience will show and he will then know. He may begin to doubt, to be jealous, to feel cheated, perhaps reject her and his feelings will begin to sour and then he may look for what he was cheated out of but in another woman.
US men are more relaxed on this issue depending on their background, but other men say Irish, Scottish, French, Spanish, Greek, Italian, Hungarian, Romanian, Czech, Slovakian, Serb or Latin American are quite strict on this issue. These men will not seriously take a woman who has too much experience; they will have second thoughts, will doubt her and know she is not the right one to be the corner stone in his life.
If I may now ask, how many sexual partners would this mean?
by roadwarrior on June 17th, 2009
I'm in the same spot. Ive been seeing a girl who is 24 (im 39), and after a few questionable things came up over the last week, we had the "talk" last night, where I found out she has slept with 17 guys --- only 3-4 were in relationships, and 13 of them were in the last 2 yrs! She claims (which I believe for some reason) that her 1.5 yrs of sleeping around ended a year ago. She says she thinks I am special and wants a serious relationship with me. She's actually very upset about all of it, and ashamed of how she was. She blames it on being heatbroken in a short relationship and then just not caring, not liking herself, blah, blah. I've waited a long time to finally have a relationship like this, but feel I cant handle that kind of past. I could deal with 8, 10, even a little more --- but 17?! I know the double-standard, and I'm not perfect myself -- my numbers are about the same, but in 20 yrs of adulthood --- not 6! I want to continue my relationship, but dont know if I can take her seriously.
All I can say is the best measuring stick -- is simply whatever you can comfortably handle -- everyone views "normal" or "acceptable" differently. She had pretty bad emotional problems, and seemingly she is improving. I'm going to do my best to judge her on how she acts now, and acts towards me, rather than on a bad time in her life that she regrets. So for now, Im going to try, that said, my eyes will be wide open.
by AnonymousGirl on April 29th, 2009
I guess it depends on the girl.
by unknown on June 17th, 2009
A big number is very scary to me. I think that if she's a well adjusted girl with no underlying issues about sex and she just likes to be satisfied on her own terms then ok. But big numbers like 30,40, 50, etc would scare the sh** out of me.
by DukeG on June 18th, 2009
There is really no set number. The number you want to go by is how many of those men were one night stands or Cheats on another boyfriend. In that case 2 would be too many for me.
by karloff on December 12th, 2010
I have quite an issue with this question as I am seeing a girl for 3 years now and I have asked the question of how many partners she had and she always shrugged the answer off saying a few and I would leave it at that.
Only recently upon insisting she has told me the truth and what a truth.
She was sexually active since 20 and I met her when she was 23 between those dates she has slept with an estimated one hundred and fifty men most of which were one night stands while she was living abroad and traveling.
This has turned my world on edge for the last few weeks and our relationship has deteriorated since she is not that person now and is very commited and loving.
She admits a sex addiction and was in therapy for it and hospital aswell, BTW she doesnt and never had an std due to sheer luck I guess, we were tested.
Upon reading the earlier posts I do feel jealous like I should also sleep with so many women in order to be even with her and have it in common so I cant judge her or id be hypocritical,
I also feel cheated into loving a girl who is stained as she is.
Many other emotions cant even hold them together.
I love her how can i stop but this has hit me like a ton of bricks.
Maybe I cant deal with it because im irish i dont know.
by Blacknail on August 11th, 2009
The number doesn't matter, as long as she's faithful in long-term relationships. I hate this idea that the number matters for a woman, but not at all for a man.
by TravelBug on June 18th, 2009
I'm 25, I don't count how many people i sleep with.I couldn't tell you how many i have slept with though compared to most girls i know it's not that many. It's not important to me. Yes i had my fun in my day and now i don't. It's my choice. I always practiced safe sex. When i like someone i can't kiss let alone sleep with anyone else. I don't see what difference it makes if i've slept with 5 or 10 guys. when i am with someone i am 100% faithful which i think is the more important topic.
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