What do you think of someone who refuses to be identified as either gender, but wants to be called "ee" or "im" instead of "she", "he", "her", or "him"? Would you do it? (This person's gender has not been adjusted, but wants to avoid social expectations.)

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• LOL - well put! I think part of the trouble is that "ee" doesn't have any idea what "ee" really wants, and is just sort of fishing around in the world for something to satisfy "im" and not really finding it... and becoming increasingly ambiguous as things fail to work.

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  by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on November 7th, 2007

• very good. +5

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  by Countess Crapula on June 9th, 2009

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• LOL - I, for one, am not likely to downrate that. I just didn't want to be the one to say it. ;-)

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  by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on November 17th, 2007

• As someone who could probably fit some kind of pronoun "adjustment," given that I wear short skirts, pantyhose, and high heels out as a man, and that I want breasts, I agree that it's annoying. I have no problem with "he" or "him" or "his" when referring to me. The language has to reflect reality, but you can't just make stuff up because you feel like it.

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  by Skirtsnhose on May 8th, 2008

• I'm glad to hear at least some people have enough sense to think like you do. My friend tends to dress fairly "artistically", and she doesn't have any desire to be male... she just doesn't want to be identified as a female somehow. I think she's just really confused about who she is and who she wants to be.

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  by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on May 8th, 2008

• i have a good friend, jordan, who changed his name from rochelle, doesn't plan on having gender reassignment surgery, but would prefer to be recognized as a male, and i don't have a problem doing this. but i have to agree with xhepera, and i kind of wish i could steal all the words in his (her?) answer.

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  by broken on June 13th, 2008

• Did you see the news recently about the first "male" pregnancy? Some woman had gender reassignment surgery but opted to keep her organs so she could get pregnant via artificial insemination. Mmhm. "male" pregnancy indeed.

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  by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on June 13th, 2008

• i'm seriously confused on that. i heard several things. so he actually did have reassignment surgery? is he just going to have a c section then? and how did they even implant it if he doesn't have a vagina???

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  by broken on June 13th, 2008

• As far as I could tell, she had most of the surgeries, but opted to keep her internal organs (uterus, ovaries, etc). She definitely had her breasts removed and I believe most of the rest of the surgery - just leaving the internal organs behind to facilitate having a baby. Then they did the procedure into the existing organs, and yes, they plan to have the baby by C-section, as the vagina is no longer in tact. I also read that she had to stop taking the hormone therapy upon getting pregnant so the baby would grow right.

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  by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on June 13th, 2008

• here's five points....+5 Downraters are jerks.

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  by Countess Crapula on June 9th, 2009

• it was a woman that had her tits cut off, male hormones injected to grow a beard and got a haircut. and that is it. no male pregnancy....a woman had the kid and a woman is having another one.

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  by Countess Crapula on June 9th, 2009

• Yep. Really, it's a woman, who mutilated herself to appear to be a man, and now wants to have kids. Great.

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  by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on June 10th, 2009

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• LOL nice.

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  by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on May 18th, 2009

• thx

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  by Friendo on May 20th, 2009

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• word! +5

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  by Countess Crapula on June 9th, 2009

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• true ryan...good answer +5

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  by Countess Crapula on June 9th, 2009

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• Sounds good, but would you make the effort to remember to refer to "im" with those pronouns all the time?

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  by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on November 7th, 2007

• no I would most likely avoid them as I am not really into games. You see to me someone like that although a respect what they feel but they are not looking for a real connection with others because they always are hiding something. That is a little too childish for me.

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  by Account Closed on November 7th, 2007

• Interesting. Why do you say "ee" is hiding something? (I've avoided letting the topic come up, so I can just continue calling her a her, just as I have for the past 20+ years, but our little sisters - who both think she's off her rocker - have informed me of the situation.) It is definitely childish, regardless.

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  by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on November 7th, 2007

• someone who does not want others to refer to them as what they are has an issue about who they are. In this case now that I know you know the true sex so you must know the person well already and not someone just wanting to not share with others, sounds to me like some kind of psychological abuse may be taking place. If this is indeed someone you know I would snoop around a little and see if you can find a reason for this behavior.

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  by Account Closed on November 7th, 2007

• Yes, I grew up with the person in question, though in more recent years, have only had minimal contact, at best, even though she's moved back into the area. It's not, I don't think, psychological abuse, so much as... well, her parents were always very open and liberal in their parenting, and encouraged their girls to try anything, and be "individuals" (i.e. different). Which is great, to some extent, but I think it's ended up with the girls being a bit confused about who they are, what they want, and how to get there from where they are. In the younger's case, I think she's learned a bit from her sister, and not gone as far "off the reservation" as it were. But this girl... instead of being feminist and enjoying her female gender, has decided she'd rather not have a gender at all. But she's disconnected from everyone else, and doesn't really seem to like it, but I think ultimately, she's just extremely confused.

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  by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on November 7th, 2007

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