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by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on August 27th, 2007
you created your own hell, deal with it.
by Relsqui on June 17th, 2005
So I can only assume from the wording that you're not interested in having sex with someone who has a penis. Fair enough; it's a personal preference. If you're rejecting the idea automatically, you could consider whether you're willing to experiment, but absolutely do not go forward with something that makes you uncomfortable.
If after thinking about it, you still don't want to do it, tell that your girlfriend. If you're mature about it ("I'm not comfortable with it" instead of "that's gross"), and point out that it wouldn't be enjoyable for you, which would make it hard for you to make it enjoyable for her, she'll probably drop it. She might want to know what your reasons are, but if you thought it through first you'll be able to tell her.
On the other hand, if you just don't want to do something that could make you seem gay, there's no reason to reject the idea automatically. (I'm guessing here, but it does sound like you're more worried about the details than the idea in general.) Threesomes with any combination of sexes are common fantasies of straight guys. Having sex with you and another chick didn't turn your girlfriend into a lesbian; having a threesome with her and another guy won't make you gay.
If you do decide to try it, you can avoid most of the problems you mention by talking to both your girlfriend and the other guy beforehand. You don't have to make a big production out of it, just say that you're not really interested in guys so you want the focus to be on your girlfriend. (That may well be what she had in mind anyway!)
It's quite possible that the other guy is just as disinterested in you as you are in him, so it'll be no problem. (You could, for that matter, specifically seek out a straight guy for the purpose.) Otherwise, well, it's not really your problem unless he approaches you during sex despite what you said. The easiest way to get out of it then is to find something better to do with your mouth, hands, or penis. I'm sure your girlfriend can help you out with that.
Good luck and stay safe.
by Brian I on August 27th, 2007
What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. Did you want her and the other girl to interact? Did they? If so it's your turn now, the boot is firmly on the other foot. I bet you believe in equality of opportunity. Well, if you do this is your chance to prove it.
by bigdefense02 on August 27th, 2007
Hahahaha. You dug yourself into a hole with that one. Shoulda asked about that before you did the first one. You can't really call it fare for her if you turn it down.
by PeterODB on February 10th, 2008
go with the flow. You may enjoy it. Its only sex, your not marrying him.
by Kinglear on January 18th, 2008
I had a threesome with my girl and her girlfiend. It was fun, and we had several encounters. She then asked if we could do the same with one of her male friends that she had always liked. I said sure. Once we had started, and we were all together naked, it just seemed natural to try stuff with another man. At first it was just touching, but then it advanced to where I took him in my mouth, and then he took me in his. After awhile he moved in behind me, and took me in this way, while I went down on my girlfriend. After awhile it became my girlfriend watching while two men had sex. It was fun, and she said she had never been more turned on. Of course there is alot more to the story, but I say go ahead, but have lube ready.
by Anonymous on February 10th, 2008
LOL... I bet you had no problem when the other girl approached yours to "do stuff".
Get ready to bend over boyfriend!
by pjchik on April 19th, 2004
The first rule of sex: don't do anything you don't want to. However, you may be facing some friction from your girlfriend. This is more likely to occur if you were the one who instigated/suggested the first threesome. If you're open to the idea of the threesome with another guy, go for it. You don't have to do anything with him (and most threesomes I've been in, heard about, or seen have one guy on each end.) If he approaches you to do something, let him politely know that you're not interested. If you are interested, once again, go for it. Whatever you do or don't do be safe about it. Good luck and I hope this helps :D
by ladyshakespeare on April 2nd, 2009
she did it for you. yes, if you are decent person, you will repay the favor. as for doing things with him...if she was gay for a day for your pleasure, you should be gay for a day for her pleasure.
by TreetopFlyer on January 2nd, 2009
She did it for you, why shouldn't you do it for her? If you're not bi, then don't do any bi stuff. The 3 of you should talk about the ground rules before you begin. Hopefully you didn't ask her to do anything bi that she was uncomfortable with.
by medicgirl on October 1st, 2009
you don't have to do anything with the guy, but you cant have her do it and not give it back to her. you can put limits though. say, not guy/guy, but let her get what she wants
by Larry on November 28th, 2008
Yes you should have a MFM threesome - If he does approach you, do what feel natural at the time. You would be surprised how good both of you will feel.
by Jannae on July 8th, 2008
Do I think you should do it? YES.
Do you have to do things with him? Not necessarily.
What if he "approaches" you to do something with him? If you are hot and bothered and you want to at the time, give it a try. If you're hot and bothered and still not into it, just tell him in a playful way to put it back in your girl. lol
by JTP on August 27th, 2007
You Don't "have" to do it, however if you want to you should. You wouldn't "Have" to do anything with the other guy, but I'm sure you're girl would enjoy seeing it if she wants a mfm threesome. It's a personal decision really.
by MvL on August 27th, 2007
It's simple - don't do it, if you don't think you "have it in you" to be naked with another guy, let alone be in a sexual situation where you'll be touching each other, even accidentally, or anything like that.
You SHOULD HAVE specified to your girlfriend when talks about threesomes were first starting, that you'd only be okay with 2 girls and you. But should've could've would've. If she loves you she'll understand (and hopefully be happy!) that you're not into guys.
The absolute worst thing that can happen is that she leaves you if you don't have the man-man-woman threesome, and she almost certainly won't, and if she does, you don't need someone who will break up with you because you won't do something that feels uncomfortable to you.
You're not obligated to return "tit for tat", "quid pro quo". If you feel like you "owe her" for the ffm threesome, offer her any sexual favour she wants from you, but no other guys.
However, if you think you might have the slightest bisexual bone in your body, maybe it's worth the experiment.
Either way, good luck!
by wheelnut53 on November 25th, 2009
A problem you're going to have and I think you know it, is if the other guy does her better than you she will always compare you 2 guys at least in her mind . If she does enjoy him better be prepared to lose her for better or worse
by good2know on November 25th, 2009
first off your DAM right you have to let her whats good for you is good for her as well,did she do something with the other girl?ask her what she all wants to do and what she wants you to do and work it out you don't ask for something that you don't want to give back
by Catherine on October 27th, 2009
I will tell you something right now, if you don't do it she will find others that will...YOu did it with her, now its payback...If your not worried about a guy going for you sexually then do it..Have fun you might just like it....MMF sex the woman is more satified, she will be a sexual animal after that...Go for it.
by Hotchik on October 25th, 2009
If "Your Girl" is your property then I guess it would be up to you what you do, But it she is your "partner" then you owe her the same consideration that she gave you. How did you feel when you were about to have 2 girls to play with at the same time, fantastic right. So just try to imagine what it is like for a girl,the first time. The thought, for her, of having 2 guys touching her and feeling her and caressing and kissing her, all over her body at the same time. Believe me, just thinking about it for the first time, is driving her mad. I know because I've been there. That kind of experience, for a girl, is almost more than we can stand. I stayed hot and wet for 2 days, just in anticipation.
by Violet on October 1st, 2009
fair is fair
by Hotchik on September 7th, 2009
It seems to me your all missing the point here, First, you need to talk to your G/F, tell her exactly how you feel, but be fair, She did it for you, now it's your turn to do it for her, but establish ground rules ahead of time, with your G/F, but also with the other guy, if you know who he will be. Has she got someone in mind. My B/F and I do it all the time, but we are lucky,because we have several guys to choose from, that are all close friends, and like members of the family, so there is not a problem, There is NO GUY/GUY, with my guy, he's strictly a girl kindof guy, but you have to talk, establish that there will be no M/M interaction, if that is the way you want it, and she is good with it. If not, you need to work that out before hand. But remember, talk,talk, it's the only way, If she's just interested in having 2 guys and DP, then all you have to do is see that she is pleasured. You can do that, right, and good luck. She will be in such a fantasticly erotic place with 2 guys doing her at once, She won't be able to talk, or even think, if it's her first time, while it is happening.
by Altguy on August 19th, 2009
She sahared you with anotrher girl so fair is fair ... but you dont have to do it if you dont want to and you certainatley dont have to be penetrated or give oral to another guy if thats whats she is expecting...
ask her what she imagines and what she wants to happen in this 3sum... and if she says she wants to watch you get bent over or wants something like that to happen then you will know if you want to try this or not before your all naked doing stuff ...
by Lots of ideas on August 14th, 2009
Go for it, unless you or he are bisexual you won't be approached. It is a lot of fun to see your partener getting pleasured by someone else. Just because you and he take turns, doesn't mean you have to do things together. Some girls give better head, and have wilder actions while doing 2 guys at one time. Just take turns or who gets heads, and who gets tails.
by Veldingst on March 4th, 2008
You had a threesom with two girls, now your girl wants a shot with two dudes. You got yourself into this, but i'll try to help. If he makes a move on you, tell him your not interested (if your not), if you are interested, follow your heart (and brain). If your girl did things with the other girl and says it's only far you do it two, well that might not be fair. If you said to her to 'touch' the other girl, it's only fair you do what you made her do if she wants it. If you feel way too uncomfortable, then flat out say no (if you do get the option).
by Uncle Lizard on January 18th, 2008
you make your own dessisions on these things but no you dont have to do anything with him you'll probably find your gf just wants to know what sex with 2 men is like. Plus you'll probably find you get turned on as well watching how turned on she gets.
by Wanderer on October 23rd, 2007
So you reckon it is fine for your gf to show her openess by engaging in a MFF 3some, yet you (a real stud probably and someone who will treat women like 2nd class) won't do the same thing for her by engaging in a MMF 3some.
Don't you just think that you are being abit supremist?? Or is it symptomatic of the fundamentalist onslaught that is pervading the USA? (I am assuming that you like the majority on here are from the States).
Lighten up, get a life and realise that women are people as well and capable of having their own fantasies and needs and desires - if you can't cope with that then there is no hope for the majority of Americans like you who are homophobic (I can speak from experience having live for a time - 2 yrs in total- in N York, New Orleans and L.A.)
Go with the flow and don't be so hung up - after all i bet you are one of those guys who will stand in a bar and just revel in the sight of 2 girls together.
by tx_gent on March 2nd, 2011
Its only fair to also let her enjoy the attention of 2 guys since you had the chance to have
2 girls. At the time you solicite another guy to join both of you, you should make it known
your personal boundaries. Make sure he knows that there is no chance that you 2 will have contact with one another. If he agrees then you should not have any problems.
by Anonymous on November 28th, 2009
I would say don't do anything you don't want to do. But lay some ground rules, be safe and ecxperiment. I personally wouldn't do anything with the guy, but would probably enjoy sharing my girl.
by Death-Oar-Glory on November 28th, 2009
Last night I had a foursome (MFMF) with a couple of friends and his friend, who I hadn't met before. (I'm another guy) Amazingly, it was the first time one of my friends had met the other two. My mate suggested it, and I figured sure thing, but I told him from the start, no 'pole to pole' action, and everyone was fine with it. The girls, however, were enjoying themselves more than I expected!
It's not hard to have a threesome with another guy and 1 girl and ot have too much interaction with the guy, me and him barely touched throughout a 3 hour session. Spitroasting if she wants, however she likes it, just you guys taking it in turns, DP.
She's evidently been open to new ideas for you, so it's your turn, put aside any fear, it's awesome.
by wheelnut53 on November 27th, 2009
How much was she into the other woman ? was it stipulated before hand you was going to return the favor and take one for the team. I know I wouldnt look at my G/F the same after watching her get down with another guy
by Possum on November 27th, 2009
Lube up, buttercup.
by ace07 on November 27th, 2009
I'm not gay or bi, but having a 3-sum MFM can be fun. First find a guy that is strait and sit some ground rules (no pain, talk during) focuses on her!!!! Spit roast are fun and trading off behind her while she is on her knees can be good too.
by Hotchik on October 7th, 2009
There are 2 kinds of 3somes with 2 males and 1 female, a MFM, or a MMF, notice the difference, first one,MFM Guy,Girl,Guy no touchy guy/ girl /guy. Second one MMF, Guy,Guy,Girl yes touchy guy/guy/ girl. The first one is for 2 strait guys who want to pleasure the girl. The second one is for 1 or 2 Bi guys who want to pleasure everybody including each other. Big difference. The way you described the first one, MFF I don't know if you intended to say it that way or not, but that usually indicates girl/girl action, if not, should be FMF and the way you indicated the proposed 3some was MFM no male contact. Definately needs discussion to clarify.
by Sebulba on September 10th, 2009
are you crazy man? your girlfriend wants to get fucked by someone else except you and you post a question in answerbag?lol
by sunshine on August 13th, 2009
It sounds pretty fair to me. no you don't have to do anything with him but it might be fun. Can you imagine how much fun it would be for your honey, nothing like a cock in her pussy while she is sucking on another one. Just imagine how hot she would look sucking on two cocks than covering her with cum. I noticed the original post was months ago, did it ever happen?
by LadyAguja on May 2nd, 2009
I have never had a threesome (don't want to open that can of worms!) but my friend who has done so frequently, says it works much better with two men and one woman. He explained that it's because women are harder to please, and so having two men to share the job helps a lot, whereas one man having to please two women? Impossible. I'm assuming your partner "did things" with the woman when you had the previous threesome, so if you refused to do the same thing that would be a double standard. Just give it a try and keep an open mind. If you don't like what happens, then you don't have to do it again.
by pixiedance on April 15th, 2009
just do it. you'd be amazed at how hot it is to watch your woman suck another man's cock.
by anonzo on May 10th, 2008
You should let her get fucked by that other guy and make her deep throat your cock at the same time. Atleast, thats what i would do to your girlfriend if she was over here.
Haha!
Also, you might want to think about putting it in her ass, if you're really mad at her. While she is sucking that other dude off, of course. Good luckz yo! roflmao
by altgirl84 on January 16th, 2008
Quite simply, you sit down with her to talk about it beforehand, and talk about it beforehand with the guy (what's allowed and what's not)
by Sketchy Mess Jeoffory on January 16th, 2008
You don't have to do anything you don't want to. Your best bet would be to sit down and discuss the rules of the threesome before you start. Tell the guy that you are only into girls and he can play with your girl, but not with you.
Unless you WANT to play with the guy... If that is the case then just go at it and have fun.
But no, you don't need to feel obliged to have sex with him.
by Anonymous on October 7th, 2007
i would do it because you owe her one because she did the threesome for you but i would think its sick to be gay withsomeone so i dont know how to keep him off u. talk to him first i guess. tell him not to.
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by cooliokp on August 27th, 2007
I think you should and make sure she enjoys it to the fullust. I'm sure you loved to pussies and sets of titties and watching your girl and her together. If he wants you to participate tell him you want to stroke him till he cums all over your gal. That won't hurt a bit......
by julie_johnson on March 16th, 2007
If you are not comfortable with this, then you shouldn't do it. If she wanted this, she should have discussed it with you before having a threesome with the girl. These types of fantasies are often best left as fantasies. You should be trying to improve your relationship with each other, not involving other people of either sex. If your girlfriend really loves you, she will not force you into this or let it come between you. Try talking to her and tell her how you feel and if she really cares then that should be an end of it.
by bjdbrad on June 9th, 2005
No you don't have to reciprocate with a threesome with two guys, two women making love to each other is a beautiful and sexy thing two men together is unbelievably gross. If you decide to go ahead anyway just whisper in his ear before you start that if he touches you or your girl you will beat the sh#@ out of him. It may be a little awkward for him but what the heck its his fault for thinking about such a revolting thing.
Brad
by wheelnut53 on October 15th, 2009
I learned a long time ago a threesome is when everybody does everybody if the two guys are just doing the girl its a gang bang . Enjoy
by mr300zx on January 16th, 2008
..........GAY. If you guys double penetrate her, you and the other guy are going to touch.........GAY and if you get off by being with another guy and your girl..........GAY.
Hope that helped!
by Poindexter on October 1st, 2009
OK, you dug your own hole ... but if the idea of a threesome with another guy doesn't appeal to you, just don't do it.
by Anonymous on January 17th, 2008
i suggest you dont do it, its a lil gay
by Wickels on August 21st, 2007
If you would like to try and have a mfm threesome, it is something that you and your gf need to talk at length about. You need to decide what limits BOTH of you have. Neither of you should be pressured to do anything that you are not wanting to.
Then you need to think about the other guy. Who is it going to be? One of her ex's? (probably NOT the best idea) Your best friend? (Still not a good idea) You both need to agree on someone that you BOTH find nonthreatening. If either of you aren't comfortable with the third person, both of you are going to fight about it for months to come, and it will most likley be the ending point in your relationship. **It is OK to say you don't want so-and-so in bed with the two of you!**
After all the details have been ironed out, try to relax, and have a GREAT time!
by Anonymous on August 29th, 2007
Did she do stuff with this other girl the first time?
Are more women considering and getting into the hotwife/cockold lifestyle?
by Flipper on January 7th, 2012
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girls whats naughtyest and kinkyest thing you wore (Clothing) while being fucked by more than one guy?
by luckyluke on January 1st, 2012
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My girlfriend prefers to have sex only when it's MFM or MMFM or MMFMM. And is now thinking of MMFMMM
by ventNBother76 on January 20th, 2012
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any body daring enoght to post you in sexy binki or panties
by biboy_slave_69 on January 17th, 2012
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girls have you ever cheated on a bf or husband in a threesome? like been fucked by 2 or more guys behind your bf back?
by luckyluke on January 1st, 2012
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Comments
If she let you have another girl, then you have to let her have another guy. I know its hard but if you do not let her, then she will not do it for you again.
by mpm1971 on September 24th, 2009
I think you meant to post this as an answer... not a comment to me.
by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on September 25th, 2009