Why are some men so afraid to tell a woman that she is beautiful?
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Crazy is looking 4 Imperfections.
ANSWERS: 100
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Because "nice guys finish last."
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I think that they are more afraid to approach a beautiful woman than to compliment her. Probably because they are scared of being rejected and put off.
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I have no idea why some do this. At one time I did but never understood why but now when I see beauty I speak up so I do not hate myself for missing the chance. And by the way I think your beautiful.
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I have no problems saying that i am beautiful! Oh wait you said a woman. If she's crazy beautiful then I have no problem.
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I have never had that problem at all and have done so all my adult life ....if I see a beautiful lady I will let her know she is and expect nothing in return for doing so ...the blush and surprise in her face is reward enough:)
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Maybe because real beauty is not on the outside, but from within...............M.C.S.
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James Blunt didn't have a problem...he didn't just say it he sang it x
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Most men are shy or don't want to be romantic.
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Just a guess as I'm female, but it could be that they're afraid they'll take that to mean "I love you" (if its the kind of relationship and their at a close enough age that this could be how its interpreted) and she won't love them back or even think they're attractive back and it will just be awkward. Or he might not be the type of guy who she would want to be found attractive by. I dunno though.
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Shyness , could be one --- I've never seen a guy that was afraid to say that + 5
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I'm a guy and shy. I don't wanna say because the girl might say something negative back. I have high paranoia when it comes to females.
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You're beautiful...I have no problem telling you that, and I'd say it to your face if I ever met you.
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... I'm not.
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I've never had difficulty telling a woman that she is beautiful.
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im not afraid i just dont like to use words like beautiful and love so loosely. if im with a woman i truly care about and have gotten to know her then i will call her beautiful, b/c b4 i know the woman on the inside shes just hot. then when i get to know her then shes beautiful in my eyes.
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because then she will have the upper hand in the relationship
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From experience they end up letting it go to their head if you say it early but i agree 111110000% with mdp2005
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I've never come across one. :-)
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Perhaps the reason is shyness.
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if he really likes her, he may be afraid to come on to strong and doesnt want to risk scaring her off.
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at first i was afraid it may scare her away but now i call her beautiful everyday. I was always afraid i'd lose her which i did. I guess it's the fear of losing or fear of accidentally saying something wrong.
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At the office, the anti "sexual harassment" agenda has gone too far. Men can get in trouble just by looking at a woman and smile at her....because all she has to do is go to the person in charge of those complaints and write a report saying that he looked at her in ways that made her feel uncomfortable, creating a "non-harassment free environment". Telling a woman that she is beautiful may get him into big trouble. All this is basically part of the feminist agenda: Manly behavior has become almost illegal in today's society. In other words, if you think a woman is beautiful at a work location....keep it to yourself.
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"The time, in as many seconds as letters in sexual harassment, will be three minutes past twelve".
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Just before we sign off for the night, I would like to remind you that Louise Marilyn Smith looked oh so gorgeous in her dress and boots, even if she was only four point eight.
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I've never had a problem with it, if I really mean what I'm saying. It's possible that it's just much harder for some people to express gooey feelings like that out loud. I think it also depends on the situation, which wasn't made very clear by your question. If it's between two total strangers, it seems that we (men) have been conditioned to feel like it's inappropriate or creepy to tell a woman point-blank that she's beautiful. If you mean in the context of a steady relationship, I can only imagine that the man is shy, or struggles with expressing himself, or possibly it never occurs to him that the woman would really, REALLY like to hear that she's beautiful once in a while. (We men can be a little dumb about that kind of stuff sometimes.)
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they're afraid if she knew that it would go to her head.
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Ok I been here dealing with this question with marriage and relationships. I have dated a few woman and married 1 and when you tell them they are beautiful they think your lying or wanting something just for assuring them thats how you feel. So this being said maybe the last relationship thats what happened and dont wanna feel like crap for commenting?
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So easy because you women get the screaming hab dabs and get some intermediary involved and make us guys look like stalkers. Next qurestion please.
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They're either shy or they don't think she is beautiful,or...they think that she thinks she's beautiful and doesn't need to hear it.
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lol. i dont think its the actual tellin her that she is beutiful... more like realising that that is her boyfriend standing behind her and not just some random...
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It's tied to a crazy dating ritual that makes a guy seem like he's smitten and now vulnerable to what the girls next comment will be. Not sure why but it's a great way to let your gal pal know she is doing the right things to take care of herself or looks great that evening. However, too many gals do take the response as a cheap, quick come on. Guys do seem to throw that line out willingly and it has lost some of it's steam. The smart girl know when it's genuine though and should use it as an opportunity to return the favor and let her beau know how she feels about him.
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The general reason is they don't want the women to think they're flirting or something. It's so common to say "you're beautiful" or "I love you" that it means nothing.
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Because they are scared of losing them to someone else!
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I've found that men are afraid of our reactions to the compliment. I myself don't take compliments very well. I either think a) what do you want? b) uh huh yeah sure c) no I'm not. But on the contrary, saying to a woman that they're beautiful is a MUCH better compliment to hear over, I don't know, say "You're HOT", "You're sexy", or whatnot. It sounds a lot more genuine than the above 2 examples. Hearing those other 2 make me think they see me as cheap. As far as why men are afraid? Because if we react like I normally do, or if you tell them "ya right" or look at them like they want something from you, they're likely not going to do it again, since they've been shut down in the past. So yeah, they've had rough reactions from that phrase in the past, be it with you, or someone else.
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Perhaps they don't feel the need to ego stroke or display their affection in words :)
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Beacause it happens so infrequently these days, if they say it we think they a)want something or b)are having an affair. Or else they think you'll think they're a big soppy wussy :)
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I certainly dont have a problem with saying it. :) I say it everyday to my wife.
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If they don't mean it or don't really care too much it's really easy to say, but if they do actually mean it and are really attracted to that person. It's the response they fear, how does she take it, what does it mean to her, that sort of thing, because the truth is you want her to want you to say it. I could go on because there is so much to say on this matter, but at the end it always depends on who you saying it to and why you are saying it because there is always more behind it then a simple you are beautiful, theres always a reason you are saying it even if she is really actually beautiful.
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She was beautiful when he met her and made the mistake of telling her that and she holds him to that even after 20 years, when things have changed. That is scary so he stops telling her that.
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GUYS ARE SUPPOSED TO BE TUFF CALLING SOMEONE BEAUTIFUL MAY BE SEEN AS A SIGN OF WEAKNESS TO THEM
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Good men are afraid to lie.. (just kidding =D) It's the neurotic complex, we don't wanna give too much away right up front.
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Probably don't say it as much as I should, but there never has been fear
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I love telling a woman she is beautiful. It's an encouraging statement and it isn't demeaning like, "Nice rack!"
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i really dont think they have a problem saying it but maybe they are just shy or maybe they dont want to scare you away guys think like that some times they can be dumb :)
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They may think it has already been said, or that it sounds lame or would sound lame coming from them. Then again, there are a lot of men who have no problem calling beautiful women beautiful.
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Because too many compliments too fast usually leads to the women not being interested in the man.
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oh come on.. i'm not afraid to tell a woman that she is beautiful.. because i love to tell that in any woman.. especially my one nad only... ^^
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Ordinarily it has to do with my uncontrolled drooling and extreme shortness of breath. Aside from that, I am usually able to tell her ... after regaining consciousness. ;-)
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Because their afraid if they do, the woman will take it personally and take advantage of them , ordering them around like a pet, getting them to do foolish things for them, and downright being bossy because they think they can be . After all, if she thinks you think she's hot, she'll make you work for what she's got.
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Because if she is, she has heard it before and he'll be joining a long line of guys and not distinguish himself from the crowd. No one wants to be ordinary, average,everyday. Telling a beautiful woman she is beautiful is ordinary, average, everyday! Happy Saturday! :)
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Possibly a bad experience or maybe the women in his family has a problem accepting compliments. As a woman, I watch my girl mates among the men and I really feel sorry for the blokes really. If the men dun say something nice, the women wud say,"they must be gay." If the men say something nice, the women will assume they just want to get into their (the women) pants. Either way, the men can't win. So either we learn to be accept compliments for what it is or just ignore it. (TO the blokes: I have a suggestion: tell the woman she is beautiful when she is not among her group of friends. With her vices around, she may feel she needs to prove something.) Good luck.
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there are very many reasons like fear of rejection which would be mine but now i just go ahead and say it to people without cariing what they think :P
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men are afraid to tell her that because thay feel it will go to her head. some men not all want a woman to feel low.
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Crikey! Well, we can't win. Well, us ugly guys can't. Once, if we said, "Gosh, you're beautiful!" it was an insult because it meant we didn't like a woman for her mind. Then, it was a convictable offense. Now, it's, "Hey, why don't guys say we're beautiful?" Look, your nutty PC world works only for the good looking people. That's the world you created. Now, I'll just go back to pretending I have equality with anyone better looking than me.
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Because so many women have a hard time taking a genuine compliment and letting it be just that!
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Duplicate answer
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Because it usually not true?
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That he might get seen as an advance on her and be rejected.
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Not the ones I have tell me so... maybe they dont want to lie to some girls : )
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fear of rejection.. or perhaps they're one of those nice quiet guys that women never take notice of until it's too late and they've married a jerk.
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You're beautiful! Seriously though you look lovely :) Anyways onto the question at hand, I love telling women when they are beautiful, if anything I look for the opportunity to do so. I also do it for no other reason than to see them smile/blush/laugh, etc. or best of all to make them feel good about themselves. That being said I won't lie about it either.
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Because some women are completely stuck up and/or afraid of "creeps" so it's not worth the effort anymore telling someone you don't even know and getting that "get away from me" look or being laughed at or having to fight with another man in public.
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Dont know perhaps they think they are going to be judged for saying it. I tell my friend she is beautiful and mean it.
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The guy could be afraid of she could take it as flirt. Thinking perhaps her thoughts may change about the friendship. He does not want to ruin, the friendship.
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Becuase if you do most times she thinks you're an Arse Hole.
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They aren't afraid they just maybe think that she knows that...or maybe she might think he means something that he doesn't or he does mean it. So its really complicated in some ways
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Because, they can't say that with a straight face to someone who wasn't to them?
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Because if you immediately tell a woman she is beautiful, sooner or later she will question whether or not that is the only reason you were interested in her at all.
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Exclude me...
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They might not get the response they wanted
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In case they will be rejected. Not all women like being told they are beautiful. Itonly means something if the person saying it is significant in their life. Otherwise it can seem like a shallow pick up line.
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because they let it go to their head.
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Because some beautiful women don't know how to take a compliment
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Dunno. I'm not. You're beautiful!
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yeah! why are you men wimps about this?! i'd only find out later from someone else that the guy said i was beautiful in private to them. why couldn't he just tell me himself? it's kind of odd... it wouldn't be a big deal, i'd just smile and say "thanks, you look nice, too!" and move on.
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Most women will think men are weird and creepy if they said that. But in actuality, women are the weird, complicated ones.
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For me, it has multiple reasons. Most of all simply because I'm shy, so displaying admiration like that towards people I'm not in a relationship with. Furthermore, I often think the girl wouldn't appreciate it, because it would sound as "something I tell everybody, no matter what they look like". Finally it's also because I don't think highly of my own looks, so I fear being considered pathetic by complimenting someone in a completely different league than my own
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because of the constant request, I tell my old lady two three times a day guess what at bed time she wants me to say it again er else, so we have a very conditional relationship so pick whats more, being told your beautifull by a preprogramed manbot or being madly in love and sharring happiness for the rest of your life together.
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I will tell you this for nothing - when I was 4507 days, I wasn't. It was on 9 November 77 that I suddenly decided to inform Miss Deighton: (1) you look oh so pretty with make-up on; (2) your blusher reminds me of a mild spring day; (3) you've got lovely lipstick on - it reminds me of my favourite item of confectionery, i.e. turkish delight; (4) you look oh so pretty wearin' grey eyeshadow - I'm glad you're wearin' grey eyeshadow since it reminds me of 1968.
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Oh, that? they get offended easily, perhaps!!
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I don't think men are afraid to tell a woman she is beautiful, of course, I think and know all women are beautiful. They were put on Earth to tempt we men, which they do, in the most beautiful manner. Y'see, we think, WOW, there's a beauty, I'll go after her. She has already checked you out, if you pass, she will give you a hint, remember the dropped hanky? I think the women give tiny hints to those they would like to go with. In my mind, I wouldn't have it any other way. Girls keep it up, it's a delicious feeling for a male to pick up on your scent and try to follow your game rules.
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I dont have a problem with it. I've walked down the street and if I see a beautiful girl I let her know.
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You mean some men?Well they might be gays then. I admire women and I see beauty in each and everyone of them.I can't figure out what's there in it to be afraid.
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I am one of those who when they see afantasically beautiful women I feel that I must tell them, even though there are some women that will think it creepy. Because it does not matter who tells you, it always feels nice to hear it. Men are usually afraid due to fear of rejection or even that it will be taken as more than just a compliment.
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fear of rejection
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they are afraid:)
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because women make little things an issue.
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I'm not sure why. If I truly feel in my heart that a woman is simply beautiful, I let her know, because I feel a deep connection with her. To me, before I can label a woman as truly beautiful I must know her on the inside and out.
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The best compliment for a woman is to tell her that she is beautiful.
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We are afraid we dont want to hurt your feelings
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They might see the beauty but they don't think of saying it loud and clear...
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Because they think that telling those guys think that us girls will want to start a serious relationship. All men are like shocktarts. They can be sweet or then they can be sour.
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because they never know how the woman might react.
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i think it depends on the situation they are in. I am a guy and I know I won't just go up to a girl I just saw for the first time and tell her she's beautiful. I have to get a feel for her personality before I start to compliment like that. Some girls can have things like that said to them and they take it for the compliment is really is because if it is said with the right thoughts in mind, it will come across the right way. But, if it is said and then the person just stares at her or they stand there with a look on their face like "you know what I am thinking" with a hidden agenda in mind, then they will probably get the negativity like awc said. It has to do alot with how it is done, I think.
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never had this problem, lol.
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I tell my gf everyday that she is gorgeous!!!!
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Because she isn't
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At work I would not because it would be deemed sexist! Outside work my wife would kick my ass!
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Because it's illegal, and one is at her mercy if she is offended.
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i have said it even tho i dont think they liked hearing it from me lol
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